Nothing gives you more confidence than knowing you operate from a place of integrity. Integrity is simple. It makes you like yourself. You feel good about who you are and why you do things. You feel good about yourself when you go to bed at night. You make decisions based on your integrity. It isn’t always easy to do that, but it is gratifying to know that in the end you still like who you are, you can be proud of what you do, and your family and the people in your life who trust you and love you can be proud of you as well. You don’t compromise in a world full of compromises. You don’t sell out. You are valuable and worthy and strong in your convictions. Integrity is self-worth.”
“It takes courage to have integrity: The highest courage is to dare to be yourself in the face of adversity. Choosing right over wrong, ethics over convenience, and truth over popularity… these are the choices that measure your life. Travel the path of integrity without looking back, for there is never a wrong time to do the right thing.”
Now, let’s define character. Character is the combination of qualities or features that distinguishes one person, group, or thing from another; that form the individual nature of a person or thing; moral or ethical quality; qualities of honesty, fortitude, etc.; integrity.
“CHARACTER is the result of hundreds and hundreds of choices you make that gradually turn who you are, at any given moment, into who you want to be. If that decision-making process is not present, you will still be somebody. You will still be alive, but may have a personality rather than a character. CHARACTER is not something you were born with, it is something that you must take responsibility for creating. Character is built by how you respond to what happens in your life and once it is formed, it will serve as a solid, lasting foundation upon which to build the life you desire…”
You are not a strong person just because you are physically strong or a bully. You become a strong person when you have strong values, integrity and good character. Of course, you can develop a strong physically fit body if you choose – that is good for your health; but in order to feel better about ourselves (deep inside), we have to learn to become persons with strong moral convictions, be honest with ourselves and others, treat others with kindness, respect, dignity and tolerance.
In my upbringing, it was my understanding that most people were caring and trusting, most people are to be compassionate like myself and only want whats best for those around her…Why? Because I am a woman who has taken the leap into destiny and followed paths, some for the wrong reasons yet had I not, I would NOT be the woman who is writing this blog today expressing why you need to “chill” and not jump the gun about someone until you really get to know them and understand them completely! I was raised by a loving, compassionate family whose values were instilled in me at a very early age. Am I naive? …Yes sometimes I am…. Am I gullible? Yes sometimes I am. Am I a bitch or immature? No, not at all. For a man to call a woman a bitch is in my personal opinion totally inexcusable. For a man to call a women immature, without hearing her side and trying to understand where she is coming from on her subject is not tolerated. How can one assume that you are a bitch because you don’t want to meet someone, or because you get angered easily when a man pushes your ‘wrong buttons?’
1. Are they a person of integrity?
A person’s actions should match their words so pay close attention to what they say and how they act. How do they act when they think no one is watching? If they don’t do the right thing, then you may want to avoid getting involved in a relationship. A person should be trustworthy. This type is quite hard to find these days, and is quite rare. They should have a proven track record of honesty, authenticity and openness. They may look good on the outside, but if they lack integrity, then trouble is likely not far over the horizon. Do what I do? Google the shit out of them and look to see what others say about this particular individual. They say that the proof is in the pudding…look at who they are through others eyes, and base part of your expectations on that. If you continue to hear over and over that this person is bad, or uncaring, they most likely are, however, if you read about them over and over from friends, relatives and or complete strangers and people are still inclined to state positive attributes regarding this particular person, maybe you should take a deep look yourself.
2. How do they treat others close to them?
A person should demonstrate they care about other people in their life. You want to look at how they react when others are ill, in need, or have a problem. This is a great time to get a glimpse into what kind of heart the person has. Are they involved in anything bigger than themselves? Do they make any kind of meaningful contribution to the world for which they volunteer or earn very little? These kinds of actions will tell you something real about a person’s worth, and will shed much light on what kind of individual they are behind closed doors. Most people with great integrity only show people their real self-worth briefly. My grandmother said that good people do not have to go nuts seeking attention. They sit in the back watching and admiring self-respect and beauty in their own way. They are not the type of people to wallow in doubt, to speak poorly about others or to accuse without good hard solid actions.
3. Where have they applied their skill and talent?
Look at what a person has actually done with their life to get an idea of who they really are? How do they treat their family and friends? Where did they go to school? What did they study? What are they passionate about in life? Engage them in a conversation on a topic they enjoy. This will expose their intelligence. Listen for their sense of humor and wit. Do they have a strong and outgoing personality? They should! Find out what they consider their greatest accomplishment. These things will reveal a lot about a person.
After reading this, if you have wronged someone or “jumped the gun” too quickly, perhaps it’s time for a truce and an “I’m Sorry?” Life is too short to live with regret. Don’t let something that could have been a great potential for you pass you by because you were too pig-headed to see the forest through the trees.
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