You’re feeling frisky…now what? You have a better chance of repeatedly peaking if you’ve already been ramped up by outside sexual stimuli — music, candles, massage, movies, whatever connects you with your body. “The higher your sexual energy is built up before you touch yourself or someone else touches you, the easier it is to have one orgasm and even multiples, because the pot of desire is larger and you’ve got nothing but sensuality simmering!
Step 2: Tease it out.
Now that you’re feeling sexy, it’s time to get things revving hotter. Alone or with a partner, caress your skin with a luxurious material or play with sensitive spots, like your neck or breasts. Once your body is responding to touch, move on to genital stimulation, but avoid penetration just yet. When exploring multiples, Abrams notes, it’s often more effective for a woman to have her first orgasm through direct clitoral stimulation — which is best accomplished with a vibrator or via oral or manual action. Take it slowly and try delaying orgasm until you can’t hold out anymore.
By backing off just before orgasm, then building up and pulling back several more times, you can significantly increase the amount of sexual tension coursing through your body. This not only heightens your chances for an explosive first orgasm, it also prepares you for others. “Your body starts to expect that after you have one climax, you’ll have another, because you’ve trained it to be ready for a rise and a fall. Listen gals, if you’ve experienced this, you know how good it is. Like digging into a fabulous piece of cheesecake, or chocolate cake, enjoy this, and savor the moment.