Paying It Forward

How many times have you had someone do something kind for you with no questions asked? How many times have you felt like you were at the end of your rope whether it be mentally, physically or even financially and had your luck change at a blink of the eye? Have you ever wondered why so many people do marvelous things for what may be complete strangers? Many would think that there was something in it for them,… many think they want the attention.The truth is folks, most of the time when someone does something for you or your family, they do it out of love and as a gift to bring happiness to you and to take away sadness and worry.

What do you do when someone does this for you? In my eyes they are like angels that come into your world and turn your life around when you least expected it. I have an angel, and he knows who he is. Without him, there are so many times as a single mother of two who overcame cancer and so many other wrong doings throughout my divorce that had it not been for him, I may have lost the roof over my head, had my phone shut off or watched my car being towed away because I didn’t have money to pay for everything. This loving caring person like so many others did this because he has faith in me and he is my friend. He has watched me go through good times, great times and then hit hard times, and regardless of which times those happened to be this man was there for me even when I wasn’t expecting it. Flowers, Chocolates, singing cards, and financial assistance for our family. There is probably nothing I could ever do to repay this man for all that he has done for myself and my children. He is one of those that accept thanks and says “Shelly don’t worry about it or “Shelly don’t be sad”….

I always thought I was a  smart woman and quite caring nonetheless, each and every time this man does something for me, it reminds me of how much better I can be. When someone does good for you, look for something that you can do for someone to make a difference. Paying it forward is a third-party beneficiary concept that involves doing something good for someone in response to a good deed done on your behalf or a gift you received. However, when you pay it forward, most often these people don’t expect you to pay back those little things that they did to brighten your day,…it’s up to YOU to dig deep and do something good for someone else.

So how do you help someone, or find a family that needs support? There are actually some organizations that allow people to pay it forward anonymously, donating money or performing good deeds without hoping for recognition. As far as the receiver of the money, gift, or good deed is concerned, he or she is told only to pay it forward. So you wish to do something good for someone but you think to yourself, “Gee, I don’t make that much” or “They need more than I can give”…think again. It’s not at all about how much they give you in a monetary value, it’s about the little things that you can do to cheer them up and embrace them. My grandmother always used to say, “It’s better t do something little for someone than nothing at all.” The truth at hand is that what you do for someone out of the goodness and kindness of your heart may seem petty to you, nevertheless, it means the world to that person that was on the receiving end. Do you want to feel good today? Do something nice for someone because at one time did something nice for you. Pay it forward…


Here are some simple acts of kindness can we do to pay it forward today;

  1. put a quarter in a meter, any meter, that’s about to expire
  2. leave a copy of a really great book you’ve read in a cafe for someone else to enjoy
  3. be nice to the customer service people who are trying to help you with your technological difficulties
  4. tip your restaurant server generously
  5. thank the cooks, wait staff and bussers personally
  6. inspire someone to be the best that they can be
  7. forgive a driver directing road rage at you
  8. buy or pack a meal for a homeless person (or give him/her your to-go box from a restaurant)
  9. give a warm coat to a homeless person
  10. offer to do pro bono work on a project where your skills are needed
  11. mentor someone
  12. make a donation
  13. say a prayer or whisper a kind wish for someone
  14. compliment a stranger
  15. send a box of donuts or bagels or muffins to a construction site
  16. next time you leave a foreign country, give all or some of what’s left of your currency to someone who resides in that country
  17. next time you’re at the airport, offer to pull the bags belonging to a woman or a mother with child out of the conveyor belt
  18. praise generously
  19. give local tips (re: restaurants, sights, etc.) to a tourist
  20. show respect equally to all human beings
  21. donate to or volunteer for the Make-A-Wish Foundation
  22. let someone cut in front of you at the grocery store
  23. tell a funny joke to a stranger
  24. give someone a chance to prove him or herself
  25. encourage someone to pursue their dream
  26. allow someone to let his or her light shine
  27. show support to an artist or writer or musician
  28. hold the door open for someone
  29. tip a cab driver generously
  30. teach a child something you wish you knew at that age
  31. smile at someone who’s sad
  32. smile at strangers
  33. offer sincere, kind words to someone who’s hurting
  34. visit a hospice and spend some time with a terminally ill patient
  35. volunteer at a battered women’s shelter
  36. spend some time with a senior citizen living alone
  37. give up your seat on a crowded bus or train or ferry
  38. inspire someone to be the best that they can be
  39. give someone the benefit of the doubt
  40. offer to babysit for a single mother



Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in: Logo

You are commenting using your account. Log Out /  Change )

Google+ photo

You are commenting using your Google+ account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )


Connecting to %s