When I was growing up. it was not often that you heard of someone meditating, and when you did, we thought that it was a bit odd. Why? We really had no idea what meditation was in all honesty, we just knew that people did it. After years of research and more people beginning to meditated, today a large number of people do it. Why though do men and women meditate? For most people, meditation is a simple way to get connected spiritually, manage stress and create a more peaceful way of living. Let’s face it, in all reality life isn’t as easy as it was for us some 20 years ago and stress wasn’t the burden on people and their everyday way of life like it has become today. There are also other benefits that come along with a daily meditation practice, one of which is stronger self-confidence.
What is meditation?
- emptying or concentration of mind: the emptying of the mind of thoughts, or the concentration of the mind on one thing, in order to aid mental or spiritual development, contemplation, or relaxation
- pondering of something: the act of thinking about something carefully, calmly, seriously, and for some time, or an instance of such thinking
There are many ways that meditation can help strengthen your confidence, but probably the most important is the way it connects you with a deeper part of yourself. Most of us are used to connecting with our thoughts more than anything else and it’s easy to forget that there is more to us than that. Regular meditation helps you transcend your thoughts and connect to your true inner essence, whether you want to call it your spirit, your soul, your higher self, or even divinity. The more you connect with this inner core, the more you tend to live your life from a calmer, deeper perspective.
As a result, you are less likely to engage in negative self-talk or be overly critical of yourself. You live each moment with the awareness that you are valuable because of who you are, rather than anything you do. Before you know it, you really being liking yourself a whole lot more, and your confidence grows and you find yourself feeling more courageous, willing to take bigger risks and overcome perceived failure. Your very sense of self is no longer tied up in a false perception of who you think you are, but the very core of your being. So, how do you get started? I’ve listed a few helpful hints for you:
- Choose a conducive environment.Find a nice, quiet place where you won’t be disturbed for fifteen minutes or longer. Sit down, relax and rest your hands on your lap. You can sit on the floor cross-legged with the support of a meditation cushion, or on any chair with your feet resting on the ground. It’s not necessary to force yourself into a lotus position if you’re not used to it.Regardless of how you sit, it’s important to maintain the natural curve of your back. That means, no slouching. People with chronic back problem who can’t sit for prolonged period of time can explore other meditation positions.
- Breathe slowly and deeply. Close your eyes softly. Begin by taking a few slow and breathe deep— inhaling with your nose and exhaling from your mouth. Don’t force your breathing. Let it come naturally. The first few intakes of air are likely to be shallow, but as you allow more air to fill your lungs each time, your breaths will gradually become deeper and fuller. Take as long as you need to breathe slowly and deeply.
- Be aware.When you are breathing deeply, you’ll begin to feel calmer and more relaxed. That’s a good sign. Now, focus your attention on your breathing. Be aware of each breath that you take in through your nose. Be mindful of each breath that you exhale with your mouth. Continue focusing on your breaths for as long as you like.If you find your attention straying away from your breaths, just gently bring it back. It may happen many times. Don’t be disheartened. What’s important is to realize that you’ve wandered and bring your attention back to where it should be. As you develop greater focus power, you will find it easier to concentrate.
- Ending the session. When you are ready to end the session, open your eyes and stand up slowly. Stretch yourself and extend your increased awareness to your next activities. Well done!
Though much of this process happens automatically through regular meditation, there are also a few things you can do if you want to help it along:
Build yourself up with positive self-talk
Before, during or after your meditation sessions, spend a few minutes speaking positively to and about yourself. It’s best to say things that you won’t have trouble believing because your subconscious mind is more likely to accept them.
Try statements like these:
“I am proud of my past accomplishments. I am capable of becoming great at anything I choose to do. I believe in myself and my capabilities. I give myself permission to be confident and successful. I thrive on challenges. I am unstoppable. I have faith in my dreams.”
Visualization is a perfect complement to meditation and can dramatically improve your results. Spend a few minutes a day imagining yourself feeling completely strong and confident in whatever you do. What would it feel like to be super strong and purposeful every day? Generate some mental pictures of yourself doing just that, and allow yourself to feel that way. The more you imagine yourself feeling and acting confidently, the easier you’ll find it to do in your day to day experiences.
One common cause of low self-confidence is pervasive memories of past failures. However, the problem lies not in the failed attempts themselves, but what you concluded from them. You convinced yourself that failure was the end, that you would never be successful – but does that have to be true? What if you began to see “failure” as an opportunity to try again?
Use your meditation sessions to affirm and visualize that you can be successful regardless of how many times you’ve failed in the past. Imagine yourself encouraging others by sharing stories of your past failures – and eventual success! Imagine yourself saying to them, Do you know how many times people I fail before we succeeded? I have failed many times, but you have to pick yourself up by the showstrings and start again…If I can do it, so can you! If you change your perception of failure into something more positive and empowering, your confidence will skyrocket!!!!