I’ve been out and about with the girls from time to time at clubs and at bars and watched men try effortlessly to try to meet a woman that they’ve had their eye on all night, and ended up failing miserably. Why? too persistent, too forward, too creepy. Ladies like the normal non shalant ways of a man. Women love to watch a man approach her and although most women would never say this; they are just as nervous as you! So how then might you get her attention without making a spectacle of yourself? There are plenty of ways to get women’s attention, but not all of them are good. Sometimes guys can come across as crazy or stalkerish when all they wanted was to get noticed. Some men tend to show off, others are too intimate too early, and others are way too obviously desperate. Flirting is the art of catching a woman’s attention in a positive way. There’s no reason to do anything crazy to get a woman’s attention if you know how to flirt properly.
Listen, flirting is surprisingly easy once you’ve practiced a little! I’ve listed a few ideas, so read this carefully and don’t flub it up!
Never, ever sneak up behind a woman to introduce yourself. If you ever do, hope that she doesn’t know martial arts and that she has a more than phenomenal sense of humor. Her first impression of you won’t be flattering, either. She’ll most likely remember you as someone who can’t be trusted.
Don’t stare, first off it is so rude, especially at any body part that isn’t her eyes. You want to meet her eyes in a relaxed, casual and friendly way. She’ll lower her guard then too.
Flirt with one woman at a time. If you choose a woman to flirt with, you’re telling her that you think she’s special. It ruins the message if you think every woman in the room is special enough to flirt with, and it makes you look desperate and in her eyes, you are now a pig and she wouldn’t want to date you at all.
Be sincere. Honesty is always the best policy. If you end up saying something that sounds stupid, it’s better if you meant it honestly. You can be forgiven for sounding silly, but never for being dishonest.
Start at a distance and slowly work your way closer. Check her out from across the room, and if she notices you, smile at her. Be very casual and do not go overboard and run to her trying to approach her. Women love the chase. There isn’t any reason to pretend you weren’t checking her out – you were, and you’re going to be upfront about it, but you aren’t going to stare or drool.
Don’t come any closer than arm’s length. If she wants to get closer to you, she can, but that’s her decision. Getting right next to her when she doesn’t know you will make her move away from you. On the other hand, keeping a little bit of distance and speaking softly will encourage her to move closer to you on her own. She wants to speak with you, she doesn’t want you hanging all over her.
Keep your body language consistent. If you’re open to meeting this woman, then your posture should be open, your arms won’t be crossed, and your eyes should meet hers. Draw her in with your erotic charm and seductive smile.
Watch her body language. If your flirting is working, she’ll be flirting back. Glancing at you, smiling, and keeping her posture open are signs that things are going well. Give this time to work, and then approach her and begin conversation.