As Beyonce once sang…”Put a Ring On It. “Up in the club,we just broke up, I’m doing my own lil’ thing…you decided to dip…and now you wanna trip …Cause another brother noticed me. I’m up on him,…he up on me,….Don’t pay him any attention,…’cause I’ve cried my tears,for three good years,you can’t be mad at me….cause if you like it then you shoulda put a ring on it… you like it then you shoulda put a ring on it…..Don’t be mad once you see that he want it….if you like it then you shoulda put a ring on it.” We all understand the true meaning…don’t we? The meaning of this is that we all want to find that one true person that will act as our partner for life. Some feel that you should not waste time and when you find him/her to do something about it. In my honest opinion…love cannot be rushed.
Try cooperating with your partner in his or her efforts to accomplish their unique physical, emotional, mental and spiritual goals creates a relationship imbued with peace and harmony. Individual goals certainly must be moral and ethical and not injure anyone. If they meet this simple criteria, it becomes the partners privilege to support these goals in every reasonable way even to the point of self-sacrifice. Marriage is a two-way street, but traffic does have to learn how to pass and when to take it’s turn. This means, it is NOT all about you…it’s about the love that you share and being together in love and in times of making decisions.
A selfless attitude brings with it not only peace and harmony but also creates feelings of being loved and cared for in your partner. When you both take a position of tolerance with each other, you will both feel as if you are receiving daily gifts of love. This will then generate affection and friendship.Tolerance is the magic ingredient for getting along with your partner. My grandmother once said, you can love easily, to tolerate is a bit more difficult. We all have habits, whether they be good or bad, we have them. You can help your partner behave with tolerance when you have low expectations. If you don’t expect a lot, it is easier for him or her to give you what you need. Remember, it isn’t always about me, me, me.
Lower your expectations of what you want from your spouse as much as possible. Try to figure out what is the minimum you can live with and still be happy. Be honest with yourself. Don’t pretend to be righteous. A relationship has certain basic requirements that cannot be compromised. So how does it happen, true love? Nobody knows… but what I can tell you is that it happens in the blink of an eye. One moment you’re enjoying your life, and the next you’re wondering how you ever lived without them.