Many nice guys that I know like their ideal women, but they are much too busy throwing themselves a pity party because they can’t find true love. Guess what fellas? You won’t find it sitting around feeling sorry for yourself. Whether you’ve always been a nice guy or are a bad boy turned good, you might need a little push in the right direction to find Ms. Right so steer clear of the wrong kind of women from now on and just focus on finding the one for you!
The fact that you’re still single has nothing to do with your character and morals. Being a nice guy works to your advantage but you just don’t know how to leverage it in your favor yet! Say goodbye to your nice guys finish last mentality. If you could be a fly on the wall in a room full of single women, you’d know they’re not looking for bad boys because they’re bad but there’s a difference between them and you that you have to get straight so that you can pull in the attention those charismatic scoundrels seem to garner around women. Confidence is just about everything when you are trying to date.
In the world of dating, as everywhere else, confidence is everything. Your confident (not cocky or arrogant) attitude will be key in attracting dates and meeting people. If you feel like you have little self-confidence or issues with self-esteem, you’re probably shaking your head right now and thinking that if confidence is what’s going to make or break your dating life, then you’re already in trouble. Be yourself, don’t try too hard. We women can see right through that.
True confidence is cultivated through trying new things, whether you fail or not. You will eventually learn and succeed – confidence is not gained from doing nothing. Maybe you think you’ve got nothing to offer compared to some guys. You need to capitalize on what you’ve got going for yourself and get over comparing yourself to others, that’s not going to help you at all. Confidence means not comparing yourself to someone else, but seeing your strengths and making the most of them. You have to look at yourself and discover your own best qualities so that you can capitalize on them.
Here are some good ways to boost your self-confidence: This is no time to get down on yourself. This is the time to seriously boost your confidence and put your best foot forward. Don’t use this time to find all of your terrible faults. Instead, take a break from putting yourself down and find some good points about you. Examples might be your great sense of humor, expressive eyes, excellent physical condition, great smile, intelligence, ability to cook a killer meal, or financial stability.
Don’t just look at your physical self – think about personality traits, the hobbies you enjoy and are especially good at, or your ability to make people feel at ease around you. Make a list of all the things that are cool about you – nothing is too small or ridiculous – these are the things that make you different and worthy of dates – you can build confidence around these things. If you still can’t think of what your best characteristics and talents are, ask your friends and loved ones. Remember that if the women you date are intelligent and nice, they’re going to realize that you’re not perfect and neither are they. What if she doesn’t like every single thing about you?
Now, don’t stress, this doesn’t mean anything. If she likes enough things about you, your imperfections will be overlooked. This goes both ways and it’s just the way dating works. If she’s looking for complete perfection in a man, you don’t want her anyway – no one is going to be able to really make her happy. Confidence is projected first by body language and then by how you speak to her. You body actions say all there is to say without ever having to open your mouth. If you’re looking relaxed and comfortable you’ll project an air of confidence. This means standing or sitting straight, but not being too rigid. A smile and eye contact are very important. Becoming more confident will require you to take stock of your good qualities and the realization that no one is perfect, meaning you can stop worrying about it.