If you want a great sex life, there is one thing that is absolutely essential and so many people tend to overlook it….why? It’s not having a super-toned body or naturally curly hair. It’s not owning a fancy imported car or a big-screen television. No, the essential element is conversation. You might ask, who needs chit-chat when you’re making love with an attractive guy or gal? If you’re just having a short fling, you may be able to get away with little or no conversation. But if you want to keep your love life passionate and exciting over the long term, you’re going to have to start talking. My grandmother always said that a great relationship begins with a healthy foundation, and a healthy foundation begins with honesty, being open, and communicating! Here are three ways to use conversation to improve and sustain your sex life.
Communicate about what you and your partner want
One excellent use of conversation is to talk about what you want and to find out what your partner wants. Your lover can’t read your mind any more than you can read hers (or his). Giving non-verbal communication in the bedroom is helpful, up to a point. But if that isn’t getting you what you want, it’s time to try putting your desires into words.
Finding out what your partner wants is equally important. If you’re a guy who’s a little confused about how to please your lady, the answer is simple. The best way to find out what a woman wants is to ask her. Really. Many women (and quite a few men) are just dying to talk about their fantasies and desires. All they need is a sincere invitation to open up, and you can offer that.
Spice up lovemaking with conversation
No, this isn’t a suggestion to discuss the latest stock report news, who scored the most touch downs, or which famous celebrity is getting a divorce. However, a bit of naughty and explicit sex talk while you are making love can add a new dimension of excitement. Not sure how to start? Begin by describing how gorgeous your partner’s body is and how aroused you are getting. Talk about what you’re doing, what you’re about to do, and how it’s going to make your partner feel. Even if you don’t normally use explicit language, this may be the time to get a bit naughty. Relax and shed those inhibitions.
Remember to give positive feedback
If there’s one thing we all love, it’s a sincere compliment. Many people are a little insecure about their sexual abilities and they secretly wonder if they are good enough in bed. Make a point of telling your partner how exciting and skillful he or she was last night. A general comment such as “You were so hot” is all right, but try also to mention something specific they did and how great it made you feel. And you don’t need to make a big deal about it. Even a few whispered words just before you leave for work will keep your partner glowing with pleasure all day long.
If you’re already doing some of these things, great! But if it’s never occurred to you that conversation is essential for a great sex life, you may be surprised at how much of a difference just a few words can make. When you communicate about what you want, talk naughty at appropriate moments, and praise your partner’s skill and desirability, you’ll find that the payoff is much more than you could have imagined and you’ll both be quite happy!