Are you being too much of a nice guy? Let me ask you this…Have you ever noticed that the really attractive women never seem to be attracted to “nice” guys? Of course you have. What’s going on here? It’s actually very simple. Women don’t base their choice of men on how “nice” a guy is. They choose the men they do because they feel a powerful gut level attraction to them. Ahhh but then guess what? Being a nice guy won’t make a woman feel that powerful attraction to you. And being nice won’t make a woman choose you. I realize that this doesn’t make a lot of logical sense to you, and it may be even hard to accept… but get over it. Until you accept this fact and begin to act on it, you’ll never have the success with women that you want.
Trying to convince her to like you What do most guys do when they meet a woman that they really like… but she’s just not interested? Right! They try to “convince” the woman to feel differently. Well, I have news for you: You will never change how a woman “feels” when it comes to attraction! Never, ever, ever. You cannot convince a woman to feel differently about you by means of “logic and reasoning.” Think about it.If a woman doesn’t “feel it” for you, how in the world do you expect to change that feeling by being “reasonable” with her? But every man does it. When a woman just isn’t interested, you beg, plead, chase, and you do your best to change her mind. What some good advice? Bad idea. Just kiss this one goodbye now sweetheart because that will never work!! Besides…chances are you are far too good for her and you dewserve much better!
Looking for her approval
Trying to buy her affection
How many times have you taken a woman out to a nice dinner, bought her gifts and flowers, and had her reject you for someone who didn’t treat her even half as well as you did? Well guess what? It’s only natural when this happens.That’s right, I said natural.When you do these things, you’re sending a clear message: “I don’t think you’ll like me for who I am, so I’m going to try to buy your attention and affection.” Your good intentions usually come across to women as overcompensation for insecurity, and weak attempts at manipulation. That’s right, I said that women see this as a manipulation.
Sharing your feelings too early
Another huge and unfortunate mistake that most men make with women is sharing how they “feel” too early on. Attractive women are rare. And they get a lot of attention from men. Most men don’t realize this, but attractive women are approached in one way or another all the time. An attractive woman is often approached several times a day by men who are interested. This translates into dozens of times per week, and often hundreds of times per month.And guess what? Attractive women have usually dated a lot of men. That’s right. They have experience. They know what to expect. And nothing turns an attractive women off and sends her running away faster than a guy who starts saying “You know, I really, really like you” after only one or two dates. This signals to the woman that you’re just like all the other guys who fall for her too fast… and can’t control themselves. Instead, keep your yap shut and make her wonder? Women hate the not knowing part. Yes sure we like to be chased, BUT for the guys reading this…it will keep them in line a bit and make them anzious to hear from you again. Trust me on this one…just don’t play games because whether you are a great guy or a player jerk, we can sense it after a few dates.
Women are very different from men when it comes to attraction. You need to accept this fact, and deal with it. When a man sees a beautiful, young, sexy woman, he instantly feels a sexual attraction. But does the same apply for women? Well, after studying this topic for years, I can tell you that women usually have their “attraction mechanisms” triggered by things her than looks. Have you ever noticed that you see a lot more average and unattractive men with beautiful women than the other way around? Think about it. Women are more attracted to certain qualities in men… and they’re more attracted to the way that a man makes them feel than they are to looks alone. If you know how to use your body language and communication correctly, you can make women feel the same kind of powerful sexual attraction to you that you feel when you see a hot, sexy young woman.
One of the most common mistakes that guys make is giving up before they’ve even gotten started, because they think that attractive women are only interested in men who have looks and money… or guys who are a certain height… or guys who are a certain age. Oh sure, there are some women who are only interested in these things. They are ruthless bitches, yes you heard me ruthless, and if you think you can change them, then you are way too gullible and boy do I have piece of the Brooklyn Bridge I want to sell you..
Not getting help….This is the biggest mistake of them all.This is the mistake that keeps most men from ever having the kind of success with women that they truly want. If you don’t have the answers seek help from a professional or ask a close friend or relative for advice that is partial, and will not take sides or try to persuade you in any way. You want honesty, and integrity. Do not settle for less.