Relationships and Communication

Did you know that the most common relationship predicament, when you boil it down to the essence of any given  problem, is communication? Yup…that’s right…if I’ve said it once I’ve said it a million times…Communication is key! Sure we talk in circles at times but do we really listen to what each other wants and needs? Communication is so very important in relationships, all types of relationships, not just romantic relationships, and quite frankly, the communication includes both the verbal and nonverbal varieties. 


Let’s get down to the basics shall we? A relationship is a connection and exchange between people. Communication plays a large role in the exchange between people. It exchanges information in the form of ideas, wants, desires, feelings, and much more. Incomplete or stopped communication can create a block in the relationship. The degree of the block can vary with the severity or repeating of the communication stop. A block in the relationship exists or will grow when communication is just flat out avoided.However, in adult relationships, this behavior only avoided the hard issues that people have to work through for the relationship to be healthy and to grow.

  How does one strengthen their  romantic relationship and make love last? Well, everyone’s  relationship is unique, and different and people come together for various reasons.  But there are some things that good relationships have in common. Knowing the  basic principles of healthy relationships helps keep them meaningful,  fulfilling and exciting in both happy times and sad: What  makes a healthy love relationship?

  • Staying involved with each  other. Some relationships get stuck in peaceful  coexistence, but without truly relating to each other and working together.  While it may seem stable on the surface, lack of involvement and communication  increases distance. When you need to talk about something important, the  connection and understanding may no longer be there.
  • Getting through conflict. Some couples talk things out quietly, while  others may raise their voices and passionately disagree. The key in a strong  relationship, though,  is not to be fearful of conflict. You need to be safe to express things that  bother you without fear of retaliation, and be able to resolve conflict without  humiliation, degradation or insisting on being right. 
  • Keeping outside  relationships and interests alive. No one person  can meet all of our needs, and expecting too much from someone can put a lot of  unhealthy pressure on a relationship. Having friends and outside interests not  only strengthens your social network, but brings new insights and stimulation to  the relationship, too.
  • Communicating. Honest, direct  communication is a key part of any relationship. When both people feel  comfortable expressing their needs, fears and desires, trust and bonds are  strengthened. Critical to communication are nonverbal cues—body language like  eye contact, leaning forward or away, or touching someone’s arm.

    Relationship advice for getting through life’s ups and  downs

  • Don’t take out your problems on your partner. Life stresses can make us short tempered. If you are coping with a  lot of stress, it might seem easier to vent with your partner, and even feel  safer to snap at him or her. Fighting like this might initially feel like a  release, but it slowly poisons your relationship. Find other ways to vent your  anger and frustration.
  • Some problems are bigger than both of you. Trying to force a solution can cause even more problems. Every  person works through problems and issues in his or her own way. Remember that  you’re a team. Continuing to move forward together can get you through the  rough spots.
  • Be open to change. Change is inevitable  in life, and it will happen whether you go with it or fight it. Flexibility is  essential to adapt to the change that is always taking place in any  relationship, and it allows you to grow together through both the good times  and the bad.
  • Don’t ignore problems. Whatever problems arise in a romantic relationship,  it’s important to face them together as a couple. If an aspect of the  relationship stops working, don’t simply ignore it but address it with your  partner. Things change, so respond to them together as they do. Talk things out…the longer you keep silent and say nothing, the more distance you are putting between yourself and your partner.

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