We often look at others and wonder to ourselves “why are they so happy?” Instead, you should be taking a good hard look in the mirror and asking yourself “what makes me happy?” I have found over the years that those who dwell in the past, those that look for fault in others and those who blame are the people that have the most trouble finding their own personal inner happiness.
1. Stop comparing yourself with others
Comparing yourself with others won’t do you any good so for crying out loud, stop it! You will either feel proud when you are above, or feel jealous and frustrated when you are below. None of them brings true happiness. So stop comparing yourself with others and simply be the best that you can be!
2. Count your blessings
There are so many things we should be grateful for, but we often forget them. Never ever take anything or anyone for granted. When you truly do realize how blessed you are, you will certainly be happier. My life is filled with people that have all impacted who I am. These people have made me the woman that I am today, and I am blessed and so grateful for those whom surround me.
3. Find your inner voice
It’s that voice inside of you that tells you to find your own true happiness. Slow down and take some quiet time for soul searching. What will make your life meaningful? What is true happiness for you? By knowing what your heart says, it will be easier for you to align with it. My grandmother used to always say, ‘Michele, follow your heart and your gut!” Life may lead you down many of paths, some the right paths, and some the wrong paths, nonetheless, we dig deep to draw that inner strength that pushes up to keep going!
4. Reconnect with your childhood dreams
Your childhood dreams can give you clues about your true calling. Often we have to rediscover them and reconnect with them. Get them back into your life. There may be a dream waiting to become your reality.
5. Do a good deed
Giving is an essential key to happiness. While we often think that we will be happier when we receive, the truth is we are happier when we give.Sometimes the smallest things in life are free. Volunteer at a shelter, make a meal for a sick neighbor, donate your time at charity events, at hospitals.Raise money for a good cause. Give someone a hug and a smile, they are free!
6. Spend more quality time with your loved ones
Relationships give us happiness more than any material possession in the world. Spend more quality time with your loved ones. Sometimes you only have today, so make it count! Spread the love.
7. Pray or meditate
This is one of the most effective ways to calm your mind and get inner happiness. When you feel overwhelmed, a session of praying or meditation could help you clear your mind. It is soothing, and it will truly relax you.
8. Know yourself
You will be happier if you understand who you are. This is a must! If you don’t know yourself, you need to get to know yourself. Take a good hard look at your life as well as your immediate lifestyle. If you don’t like it, get off your high horse and make a change.
9. Say ‘thank you’
Sometimes we are so accustomed to people around us that we forget to thank to them. Always take the time to thank those around you for all that they do. Those two words can make someones day a little bit brighter!
Just do it! Smiling is a very simple thing to do and the effect that it has on people is contagious! There mere act of smiling can brighten your day and it may turn someones world around in just aa matter of a few seconds.
11. Listen more than you speak
You will feel happier not only by understanding yourself, but also by understanding the people around you. One simple way to do that is by listening more than you speak. Try to understand what the other person means before speaking out your thoughts. This means, don’t put your foot in your mouth. Pay close attention to what someone is saying and don’t judge them,..no one died and left you boss so be kind and caring. Pay close attention to others needs.
12. Stop judging others
Who died and left you boss? Yeah, that’s what I thought…so stop judging everyone else! Judging others will give you bad feeling toward them and there’s nothing good about that. Instead, you should look at the positive side of them. Sometimes it’s easier to see the others’ weaknesses, but looking at the positive side will brighten their day and your day, and you will feel good about yourself.
13. Focus on what you can control
Trying to change things beyond your control will only frustrate the hell out of you. Recognize what you can and can’t control, and focus solely on the things you can control. For instance, you can’t change how people around you behave, but you can change your actions and how you behave. Stay focused on changing your own behavior instead of changing other peoples. We control out own destiny, so get your life in order and set the path for your own true inner happiness.
14. Accept yourself
Love who you are inside and out! There is no book or a law that says we must be perfect. We have imperfections and flaws. You may have some personality traits that you don’t like. Learn to just accept yourself as you are. You are unique and extraordinary, and that’s something you should be grateful for. As En Vogue once sang “Free Your Mind” and love who you are!
15. If you are going to make promises…for heaven sakes, keep them!
You will find happiness if you stay true to your heart and one way to do that is by being a promise keeper. The more you keep your promise, the more you will be aligned with your conscience and the happier you will be in the long run. My kids will tell you that I rarely make promises. Why? They are not meant to be broken, and sometimes, we can’t hold up our end of the bargain, so then why in the world would you promise something that you know you might not be able to deliver on?