Why Some Men are Inconsiderate Dating Material

In relationships, there is a saying that goes like this; “Never make someone a priority when they only see you as an option.” If you don’t know what this means in the real world, you need a reality check. Relationship between two people are just that…between two people. What happens though when one of those two people seem to care more, share more, and make themselves more available and the other only seems to care about what works best for him/her? This person is selfish, needy and a real hot mess…but you won’t see that on the outside. This is the type of person that hides his/her real feelings and often acts like their life is peachy. They build up friendships, business relationships, and anything else to appease you and make you think that they are all that and a bag of chips. In retrospect, it very well maybe pretty, like someone who lies on their resume to land the right job… BUT this is a relationship, not a job, therefore, it’s time to communicate openly. You are either in it to win it and make it work, or you need to get out. Relationships are unique, but they require a lot of listening to build and grow. How can you determine if you are dating an inconsiderate man who surely isn’t good dating material? Time….give it time. 

When you begin dating someone, everything is so new, and so for the first few months it is ok to not open up and to not share as much, however, if you continue to see this person you need to make some changes. Most women that I know want a man who is attentive to them and to their needs. I’m not stating that he has to be at her ‘beck and call’  twenty-four hours a day and seven days a week, but he does need to make plans with her early in the week and set plans in advance. Most women that I know, and men too, want to have a planned schedule. I am not one to sit around and wait for someone to do something. I like to know on Monday what I am doing for the weekend. So what does a girl do if she happens to be dating someone like Mr. It’s All About Me? 

 If this man does not respect your time and always puts his priority before yours, he is selfish and inconsiderate and it is very difficult to date someone as such. However, if you care for him and you know that he reciprocates your feeling, you should give your relationship a chance. If there is a chance of love, then there is always a room for change and improvement. Here are a few things that you can do to handle your selfish and inconsiderate fella. 

The first thing you need to do is talk to him…Men don’t think clearly like women do, so put your mind frame in theirs for a moment if you will? Try and explain how his actions impact your feelings. If necessary, use examples from one of the previous occurrences to make him realize how selfish his behavior was and how much it hurt you. If there is something he does in particular like being late on dates or not calling you up on time, talk about it clearly. Tell him how his words and actions hurt you.

You do not have to ask him for justifications or reasons for that behavior but try to reach out to him as much as you can. If he doesn’t understand anything you tell him, stop talking and start pretending. If he hurts you, make it obvious through your actions. Treat him with indifference and ignorance.You don’t have to hate him but just pretend that you do when he is around. Show some selfishness in your behavior. If he doesn’t show up on time for a date, leave a message and go out on your own. Since you have never acted this way, he is bound to notice the change in your behavior.

Let him step into your shoes and understand how you feel when he acts selfish by prioritizing everything before you. It will help him to relate to your feelings and he will probably start paying more attention to his actions and that might bring about a gradual change.Only the relationship can work when both of the people make efforts to make it work and the effort should come from within the heart. If you care enough for your mate, then make the effort. This person might feel that a relationship is not a place where efforts need to be made. He might think that relationships work on their own but the truth is that they don’t. Every relationship needs a certain amount of efforts and he has to understand that his contribution is equally important. If it continues to be all about  him, him, him…it’s time to find someone who will love and appreciate you for you, you you! 

When you invest time and energy into something, you expect quick results. However, this is a person, not an object. He is a person so he needs some time to undergo emotions, realize his mistakes and then hopefully make changes. This is not something that can happen in a day. You will have to be persistent in your efforts to make him more considerate. If he is just a total moron and won’t change, or does not treat you with respect or make you first, he may not be that into you. Once or twice I’d say ok…maybe it was an oversight, but if it continues for months, it’s time to say so long. If this is the case, and I have just described you…don’t look at this as having been wasted days, weeks, or even months on this person…look at it as a tool, a learning curve for what you really do want in a man so that when the time is right, you can find the perfect fit for you. Every woman surely does deserve her ‘happy ever after.’ Do not settle. There is no “my way” or ‘your way” it has to be a combination of your efforts combined to make it work. 

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A dOzEn tHiNgS To dO WiTh YoUr HoNey…

1. Go to the Park

Go with your honey to a park nearby. Swing on the swings like when you were a kid. Remember childhood memories and what part of those memories made you a better person today! Share stories! I’ve got lots of them!!

2. Watch the Sunset

Find a great spot in your area to catch the perfect sunset together. Don’t have one? It’s time then for a ‘road trip!’ Find the perfect place to watch a sunset. Mine is at the beach with my toes in the sand and a good glass of wine in my hand. This is one of my favorite things to do and guess what? It doesn’t cost a dime to do it.

3. Pack a Picnic Lunch and Enjoy Time with Your Honey…

Throw a picnic lunch together and find a shady spot to enjoy the day with your honey! Talk, laugh and make memories…its the little things that we women remember the most.

4. Play Board Games

Bring out the old favorites like Clue, Monopoly or Scrabble, or find a new board game to play. Someone has to rule Park Ave…might as well be YOU! None of these sound good? How ’bout some naked Twister?

5. Play Card Games

My personal favorite!  Have a card night. Don’t forget the wine and snacks to pass, that makes for even more fun! There are a lot of fun card games, but if this gets boring? How about a little strip poker? Now all bets are OFF! Make new fun playful memories as the layers literally unfold…

6. Have a Scavenger Hunt

Have a fun night out scavenger hunt. Think of some creatives fun ideas and work your magic! Making memories with your friends or that special someone is a special thing to do…and please… do remember the camera! Photos make the memories come alive years after the thrill and stories are gone. Loser has to make dinner for the winner!

7.How About Throwing a B.Y.O.E. Party?

This stands of Bring Your Own Everything. Guests are encouraged to bring food and drinks to share. Good times are fun times…and no one should get stuck in the kitchen making it all happen so help a friend out and have a BYOE party full of fun and good times with your close friends! It’s a fun way to meet new people who your honey shops with, golfs with, works with, etc., and a great way to get out and have some fun on a weekend evening!

8. Have a Bonfire or Campfire

Make s’mores, cuddle and drink wine by the camp fire and reminisce about good times and future plans with your honey.

9. Go Get Some Ice Cream

Hit up your local ice cream shop and indulge in your favorite dish! Get that sweet tooth craving and march on out to your local ice cream shop. Not feeling like hitting up the local ice cream store…then go to the market and pick up some ice cream, cherries, whip cream and take it home to make body sundaes with your honey…that is romantic and erotic!

10. Make Your Honey a Romantic Dinner

Plan a romantic, candlelight dinner for your spouse or loved one. Listen guys..romance need not be super expensive! It has been said that it is the thought that counts and how much time your guy/lady put into the thought process of the evening…those are the memories that you will endure and always keep close to your heart.

11. Try Grilling Something New…Get Sassy with some BBQ!

Try a new grilling recipe…every woman is addicted to Pinterest, so find something fun to make and give it a whirl! Add a little zing to your lifestyles and spice it up. It’s time to take this relationship to a new level.

12. Go to the Zoo

It has been said that it makes us feel good when we vent, and by vent I mean; go talk to the animals! Zoos are fairly inexpensive if you pack your own lunch and avoid the unnecessary extras. Make a fun day out of it! You may even make some new fury friends too! Yes go to the zoo, and then go home and kick it up a notch by getting a little wild in the bedroom…Be the hunter and allow her to be your tigress…she will slip into something sensual and erotic for some bedroom fun from Simply Delicious Lingerie! This will spice up any night and as a good friend would say…top it off with making some hot stinky sweaty monkey love!

 

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Connections, Fate, and Romance…

Many times I am asked if I believe in fate? On occasion people ask me if I believed in paths crossing for a reason? The answer to both is YES, I do!  Are you a hopeless romantic? Do you believe in paths crossing? This is fate my friend. You see, every now and again fate steps in and gives you a piece of happiness that you didn’t think you deserved, and then as fast as it enters your life, it exits. Sound familiar?   Have you ever gone somewhere and met someone who you just ‘clicked’ with and wondered if he/she could be the one?

Have you ever felt something immediately when you made a connection with someone who stayed in your mind, and your heart for as long as you can remember? A place stands out in your mind, or a song, or the smell in the salty air? It might have been something as little as their smile…nonetheless, that person changed your way of thinking and put an extra skip in your step all of a sudden.

My advice (non-professionally that is) is that when you meet someone, when fate steps in, take a chance. There is no time like the present. Say hello to that person and make conversation. Laugh with them. Go out of your way to get his/hers attention and when you do, find a way to captivate them so that you stay in their head for a long time. Speaking of time, timing is essentially everything. There are times that people come into our lives when the connection just won’t work for a variety of reasons or because one or the other of you is not ready.

There are times where years go by, or even a decade and then one day you wake up after thinking of this person who has been tucked away in the back of your mind, and you ask yourself why you met him/her all those years ago? What was the purpose? Why did it not last, and is there a chance that you can rekindle the flame?  I am a firm believer in second chances. I am a true connoisseur of romance… I had a situation in my life-like this a decade ago when I met someone who stood out and stuck in my head. Regardless whether anything would now or could ever again happen, he will always be called my friend.

He was a vision of the perfect man who was funny and kind and when he smiled he lit up the room. We met in a bar on the beach while I was out with a friend. He approached our table and we immediately made a connection and clicked. For 4 days he spent time getting to know me and then when it was time for me to leave, I was given the most beautiful goodbye. A man who barely knew me standing on his pick up truck waving to me as my plane took off on the runway. He crossed over onto private property just so that I could see him. He took a risk for me. He hauled ass to the airport to see me before I boarded my plane, but he was too late. We boarded early. Was that a sign?

 Everyday people do things that surprise us. People,who were complete strangers to me on my plane could not get over the affection that one person could display, and this man did something that will stay with me and in my memory until the end of time. Even though this man has not seen me in several years, he made me a better person. I can still see his smile, and I can still hear his laughter if I close my eyes and listen in my mind. He taught me not afraid to follow my dreams, and he gave me the inspiration to go after what I truly believed in, just like he followed me to the airport.  It’s been nearly 10 years since I met this man, and once in passing about 7 years ago I saw him again while visiting the beach with my friends. At a glance our vehicles passed at a supermarket and our eyes met. I knew it was him.

Second chances? That was mine, and I felt that if he truly wanted to see me he would make an attempt to contact me. 4 days went by and I heard nothing…so I figured that was it…he must have moved on and married or met someone and was happy. It wasn’t until we were picking up last-minute souvenirs at a local beach store when a friend and I were sitting in the car and noticed something under my windshield wiper. When I got out of the car and pulled the card from underneath the wiper blade, it was wet and the writing was smeared, but it said “I’m sorry, I wasn’t ready then…” on the reverse side was his phone number on the business card. We communicated after I made it back home again for a short while and then just like the first time he disappeared into thin air. 

Every year around this time I think of him as we met on Memorial Day Weekend on a hot sticky muggy night at a little bar on the beach called Harold’s on the ocean. Every year around this time I ponder “what if?” Every time I go back to the beach I walk into Harold’s on the ocean hoping for that connection again to rekindle the friendship that started all those years ago.   Life is full of surprises and we are blessed with those around us and who grace us with their presence. I am and always have been a live for the moment kind of gal and although this man left my life as quickly as he entered it, he will forever remain in my head. Sometimes, something like this only comes around once in a lifetime; so if this is happening to you, seize the moment. Take the chance…you may never have another one. Your heart will guide you to make the right decisions. Have fate my friends. Don’t let your dreams get washed away…  

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Date Night and 30 Romantic Tips

Date Night…we all love it, and we all look forward to it with that someone special. My guess is that we all need a little spice in our lives so live for today and make someone happy! We all need that ‘ohhh-la-la’ from time to time to keep it real. Sometimes you have to get creative and then others use the common techniques that work just the same to show that you care. What you want to do is to make her smile. It’s all about keeping your gal happy.Women love two things, nice lingerie and romance,… well perhaps three things…we love it when a man cooks for us too! Romance is a good thing and both men and women should know how to make their mate laugh, and smile. It doesn’t cost a lot of money to get someones attention, so don’t over-think it or try to go overboard here, sometimes simple is what works the best.

It’s the little things that you do that she keeps in her mind long after she is with you and it is those small things that gives her much anticipation that you will be equally as romantic around her. So what’s a fella to do to make her notice and really get her attention? Clichés aren’t bad after all! Well, you can say some things are clichés only because they’re used way too often, and when that happens they are no longer spontaneous actions,. but then, they’re a guaranteed bet. One amongst these famous platitudes is a candlelit dinner. Yes women love it when you cook for them. If you don’t know how, watch the food network and learn! Serve her up a dish that will make her mouth water  and he mind work on over time! 

  Having a romantic dinner by the candlelight is said to be one of the most intimate experiences a couple shares. This just gets better if you arrange the dinner at your place and cook the food yourself. A bottle of good wine will just be the icing on the cake and if you are lucky and she is totally impressed with you, she may want more than just a slice of pie for dessert! Remember, it‘s the little things that matter guys! 

 

Here are about 30 that will make her turn her head:

 

1. Hugs are the universal medicine…and they are free.

2. Tell her she is pretty. Women love compliments!

3. Give random gifts of flowers/candy/poetry or whatever it is that she likes most.

4. Tell her that she’s the only girl you ever want. Don’t lie and don’t be a player!

5. Spend every second possible together when you have free time and really get to know one another.

6. Look into each other’s eyes and say nothing…eyes speak a language all of their own.

7. Very lightly push up her chin, look into her eyes, tell her she is beautiful, and kiss her lightly.

8. When in public,  flirt with each other and be silly…people envy this and it will entice others to do as you do because they want that kind of happiness too.

9. Put love notes in their pockets when they aren’t looking.

10. Sing to each other and choose a song to be ‘just your song!’

11. Always hold her around her hips/sides.

12. Take her to dinner and do the dinner for two deal. This does not mean that you are being cheap, it means you are about to show her some romance…

13. Spaghetti? (Ever see Lady and the Tramp?) Just don’t be sloppy messy…keep it fresh and fun. 

14. Hold her hand, stare into her eyes, kiss her hand and then put it over your heart., yes I said your heart, not your penis. Women want romance not arrogant boys with sex on the brain.

15. Dance together, in the moonlight, even if you are standing in her driveway saying goodnight!

16. Do cute things like write I love you in a note so that they have to look in a mirror to read it.

17. Make excuses to want to see her every day!

18. Even if you are really busy doing something, go out of your way to call and say I am thinking about you.

19. Remember your dreams and tell her about them.

20. Tell each other your most sacred secrets/fears. Be open with her.

21. Be Prince Charming and sweep her off her feet or some other handsome prince just might beat you to the punch.

22. Brush her hair out of her face for her. Women love when a man touches her face and feels her warm skin upon his hand.

23. Make sure that you introduce her to your friends. 

24. Take her to see a romantic movie and remember the parts she liked.

25. Learn from each other and don’t make the same mistake twice.

26. Describe the joy you feel just to be with him/her.

27. Make sacrifices for each other. Even the little ones get noticed.

28. Dedicate songs to them on the radio. It sounds cheesy but women adore this.

29. Fall asleep on the phone with each other or on the couch in one an others arms.

30. Never forget the kiss goodnight and always remember to say, “Sweet dreams.”

 

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Why Do Men Make Relationship Mistakes

“One day you’re going to realize that she  was what you wanted all along. That girl that knew she wasn’t perfect, but tried to be just for you. That girl who wanted nothing more than to be there for you, and loving you was the only way she could. The girl who picked you up whenever you were down.The girl who saw you through good times, and bad. The girl who sees your flaws, and accepts your faults, but values them as much as your strengths. The girl that only wanted to walk beside you. That girl who still can’t bring herself to hate you, even though sometimes you probably deserve it. The girl that should have you, but doesn’t.”

 So why didn’t she get the guy? I’ve got 4 reasons that are pretty simple…..read them, and learn from them, and perhaps this will help someone else “not” make the same mistakes…..nevertheless, life is about learning, and mistakes…..they are what makes us grow….after all, we are only human.

REASON #1 – THEY’RE STUCK AND CANNOT GET OVER A PAST RELATIONSHIP 

Sound familiar anyone? Ahhhh the ole’ “you’re everything I wanted but now isn’t the best time.” Anyone every heard that excuse? In most cases with men their relationship that didn’t work out simply because of some stupid mistake that he felt really bad about it. Naturally, the relationship fails, thinking that talking would help him sort his feelings out but he’s too proud to do it.

Unfortunately,if you snooze you loose gentlemen so take my advice and lay all the cards on the table….then if the relationship is truly over walk away, take time off from dating to get your head turned back around and move forward learning from this relationship and its mistakes so that you don’t duplicate them in the future…and don’t use the cop-out ‘work has me so busy.’ That’s hogwash and you really need to come up with something better than that because we aren’t stupid and we have feelings. Just say STOP! Enough is enough.

REASON #2 – THEY WEREN’T EMOTIONALLY AVAILABLE IN THE FIRST PLACE

It’s a sad statistic, but 80-90% of the single men you meet aren’t ready or willing (or both) to handle a serious relationship. That’s why shortly after the relationship starts, things go downhill and end in a break-up. These men weren’t suited to handle a big commitment to begin with! Men who fall into this category include players and guys who prioritize work over relationships, it also includes men who are far too immature for a good woman. It’s too bad, but there are a lot of single men out there who “could have been” great boyfriends – it’s just that their hearts and minds weren’t ready for you at the time!

Again, there’s little you can do directly to change the minds of these men, I call them boys, because they sure as hell don’t know how to act like a real man. Even if you did manage to get them to commit to a relationship with you, it’s often only a matter of time before they fall out of love with you. You can’t always teach an old dog new tricks and you can’t change a man. He has to want to change for YOU!

REASON #3 – THEY’RE REALLY NOT HAVING MUCH FUN

With  the first two reasons, we talked about the two biggest problems that men have about commitment, and how they keep them from staying in a relationship with you, no matter how good you think the relationship may be going….are you following me here? If you’ve noticed, I mentioned in the first two reasons that trying to directly change his mind, such as by trying to make him talk about the problem, or trying to force him to commit to you, or by criticizing, or by arguing, or by begging, or WHATEVER… …it DOESN’T work! It will backfire on you and YOU WILL be left with nothing!! BACK OFF LADIES! It’s easy to think you’re doing the right thing — after all, the best way to solve a problem is by taking a scientific, logical, step-by-step process to solve it, right? Hell no, we open our yap and it all comes out, foot in mouth..over and over and over again.

 When you try to approach your relationship problems in this manner, you’re simply taking the focus AWAY from the relationship and putting it ONTO the problem. In your case, the problem will only get bigger and bigger.

And, as I keep saying, what you focus on GROWS! The relationship becomes less and less fun for him, until the point of where he begins canceling dinners, and date nights becuase 1) He’d rather stay in alone, or 2) He’d rather be with the boys in the land of the living where there are no rules! Believe me gals, when he’s in a relationship that’s not fun, he’ll inevitably start looking for his enjoyment elsewhere. It’s often that simple which is why I believe this is the biggest reason why so many guys leave the women they love.

REASON #4 – FIX THE PROBLEM, AND FIND THE SOLUTION! 

So here’s my TWO CENTS, don’t focus on the problem. Focus on the relationship! Honestly it doesn’t matter how good your intentions were, if you try to fix the relationship the wrong way, then bad things happen.

Do you know why he doesn’t like talking about the problems in your relationship? It’s simply because he’s a guy and his pride is hinged on the health and happiness of the relationship he’s leading. When you corner him and try to talk about any problems, you’re basically indicating that he’s not doing too well of a job! That’s why guys don’t like talking about the problems…and that’s why, when you ask them if anything’s bothering them, they just say, “Nothing, I’m fine” …even if they’re really troubled. SO WHAT’S THE RIGHT WAY? Ladies, let’s face it….there are some relationship problems that you can fix, and then there are some you simply cannot.

Sometimes, you really don’t have a choice but to let him go. But guess what? That’s not really a bad thing! No relationship should ever take that much work to make it right…..if things aren’t heading in the right direction now, they won’t be. Stop making excuses.

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7 Daily Doses to a Healthy Relationship

      Practice Healthy Relationship Habits…

•   Respect and being Respected. Life and relationships are about meeting in the middle. I’ve always said that it takes two to make a relationship work and two to make it fail. Trust me, I know this first hand. Relationships can endure a lot of bumps in the road if you respect one another. Relationships are about finding your own inner happiness and then spreading the love with your partner or mate. Before you can love you have to love and respect yourself. The two go hand in hand. Respect is not something that one should have to think about in a relationship, you just DO IT! How so? Little ways…call her and say hello out of the blue, text her in the middle of the day and tell her that you’re thinking about her/him. Pick up her dry-cleaning. Surprise her by cooking dinner because you know darn well that she had a rough day at work. Listen to her when she speaks, and really pay attention to her thoughts, wants and needs.

•   Trusting and being Trusted. I’m a shoot from the hip kinda gal and that’s how you should be too! If you are not, you need to be a straight shooter. Trust is the great equalizer in a good relationship; without it there is no good! A good foundation in a healthy love relationship is built on trust and trust must be earned. 

Holding back on the truth about how you feel, only telling part of the story, fudging on what your wants and needs are to your partner slowly erodes the trust in your relationship. Total honesty brings about awesome trust. Do all that you can to achieve it and have a relationship that can endure it all.

•   Always go that extra mile. Don’t wait for her to do it- you do it…and by it, I mean anything to make her smile. Motivate each other to be the best you can be. Be inventive in coming up with ways to inspire your love life. Never stop. NEVER! Push the romance envelope with a getaway in the mountains for a long weekend or if you are anything like be, be a toes in the sand kinda gal. Have fun, be creative and enjoy life. Life is a precious gift, don’t waste it pondering negative thoughts, do what makes you happy and your partner happy. Remember, you may not be perfect, but you are perfect in her eyes, and in retrospect that’s really all that matters now isn’t it?

•   Agree to Agree. It is important to understand that relationships seldom feel easy; however, a relationship is less of a struggle when two people agree to do whatever it takes to make it workable. Building a solid foundation is key folks. Without it, like quicksand you will sink and your relationship will not survive. This does not mean giving it your best shot and if it doesn’t work, you move on. Don’t be a quitter. This means doing whatever it takes!

•   Want your romance life to last a lifetime? Ok…2 Words:

Make Memories; How about creating a scrapbook of love? Don’t call me cheesy here…it’s a great way to remember all the wonderful things that you did together and a way to go back and look at your relationship whenever you need a reminder of good times. Stash your memories of special greeting cards, matchbook covers that remind you of great visits, snapshots, a pressed flower, ticket stubs, a handwritten love poem, a funny, thoughtful valentine. 

Celebrate spending time together. Do things that make the two of you happy. Memories tell stories and stories are passed down from generation to generation, so give everyone something to talk about.

•   Spread a little sunshine. That’s right, sunshine. What does this mean? Don’t hover over one another. Make them happy! Give each other permission to their own space. You should have your friends as a couple but you should also have a few close friends that you like to hang out with one night a week, or month. These could be life long friends or even coworkers. It is healthy to give one another space. No one wants to be smothered. Relationships need to grow, so feed them. Give her a daily dose of love. Nothing grows well in the shade! If you are forever in your loved one’s pocket, you can stifle the love so freely given. Even love partners need time alone. You need space. I know I need mine. Too much togetherness is not good. Go out shopping with your friends, or to a ball game or concert. This shows that you can and speaks volumes of trust.

 

•   Are you pushing your partner’s hot buttons? If not…TRY IT! …But push them spontaneously. I’m not talking about the ones you shouldn’t push. Push the turn-on buttons. No better way than to every now and again crank up the heat in the bedroom or any room for that matter. Know what delights and pleases your partner and push those buttons, and do it most often. Does he like thigh highs and garters under a trench coat? Does he like your sensual perfume on his pillow case? Find what makes your partner, lover, mate tick and load him up with your ammunition. Knowing what makes him or her tick and turning them on at the right times is KEY to a fun, happy and most desired and sexual relationship. Remember, you’ve made it this far, so remind her that she is everything in your eye. Something tells me that you got a groovy kind of love…

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Dirty Talk…The Naked Truth

On the contrary to what many of you may or may not think, not all dirty talk has to be hardcore. In fact, a variety people prefer their dirty talk with a softer edge. Even the most hardcore dirty talkers find that sometimes, a simple moan or sigh — or an easy, sweet comment that makes your heart melt — is enough to make certain other parts of you tingle. Communication is key, so tell them what you want and choose your words wisely. It’s time to put on your sexy voice and play.

Even in our modern era, talking about what we want when it comes to sex is still difficult. Fantasy requests can be misconstrued as saying “you are not enough for me” when, in reality, they are a huge part of our sexuality — which, if we believe statistics, a whopping 80% of our sex lives takes place in our heads. So, talking dirty is part of fantasy sex play, and can be a headboard-busting turn-on for both partners.
When you are in a relationship where dirty talk is the norm, and you have become accustomed to pushing the envelope, it can be really tough to slow down and just enjoy the more romantic pleasures of naughty discourse. Allow me to share with you some easy- to-do dirty talk tips that will slow things down and turn on the romantic in your partner. Pay close attention, and remember, it’s really not that difficult. This is a benefit for the both of you.

A single rose. Offer a single rose to your partner, and then gently trail the petals over their naked body. As you do, tell them what you love most about that particular body part, their curves, their freckles, their nice breasts, never-never never mention fat or cottage cheese….you’re ass will hit the floor like a brick. Don’t forget the “forgotten” erogenous zones — the feet, the ears, the back, and even that sensitive stop right below the buttocks….no big ass, flat ass, etc., comments. Spend time remembering the delicate places you touch that turns her on. She might not tell you so guys its time to start learning how to read body language!

Whipped cream. Yes, it seems kinky — and my absolute favorite…don’t forget the handcuffs. Ok, so it may be a little kinky too! But whipped cream is also a sweet classic that lovers have been using for decades to enhance their lovemaking without taking it too far into the realm of kink. Almost everyone has whipped cream in their refrigerator at some point, (if you don’t get to the store now)…..so it’s not an even unusual item to find in your home — that means the possibilities for using it are wide and varied, but always with a touch of the romantic.

Soft candlelight. Both men and women love candles. They say romance. The flicker of mellow candlelight can make anyone’s body look sexier, so light them up! Candles all around the room will cast a romantic glow, and the scent of them can lend an even richer layer of sensation to the experience. The dirty talk you use during those moments should be soft and sweet, filled with compliments, this will ease them into the mood raising their erotic zone!

Champagne. Who doesn’t love this? This is the ultimate for romantic oral sex. Why? The bubbles in the champagne will stimulate your body in all sorts of ways, while drinking it from your partner’s body will make you just slightly tipsy, which can make the encounter even hotter, steamier and soooo sexy! Want to enhance the natural flavors? Try a few strawberries, too.

Whispers. Sometimes, the easiest way to tone things down is to quiet your voice. Instead of speaking clearly, whisper oh-so-softly. This makes your partner have to get closer to hear you, and the closer you are, the more intense your touches and actions can become. Just remember to keep your dirty talk quiet from start to finish! If you follow these simple tips you’ll begin to drop that wall a little with your partner and open new doors of endless possibilities. Please keep in mind that it may not happen over night, but it will turn up the heat in the bedroom and that is the naked truth!

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Simply Delicious Lingerie is an online boutique specializing in sexy lingerie from designers such as Carrie Amber Intimates LLC ‘SeventilMidnight’, Be Wicked, Elegant Moments, Fantasy Lingerie, Raveware, and WMS Clothing. Our lingerie is the aphrodisiac of taste, and represents beauty and luxury at an affordable price. At Simply Delicious Lingerie we’ve personally selected a variety of sexy lingerie just for you and all of your sensuous rendezvous. At Simply Luscious Lingerie our motto is; Bring Sexy Home! Our Niche at SLL is our wholesale plus size lingerie membership club. *see rules and regulations. We sell accessories, Bordello shoes, Pleaser shoes, garter sets, bridal lingerie, bridal undergarments, bustier, honeymoon lingerie, wedding day lingerie, wedding garter sets, wedding petticoats, affordable plus size lingerie, Halloween costumes, sexy plus size costumes,  fantasy lingerie, matching lingerie sets, men’s underwear, men’s lingerie, sexy sets, matching sets, wholesale lingerie, sexy thigh high stockings, satin pajamas, plus size sleepwear, adult novelty items and sex swings including the Whip Smart Pleasure Swing and our newest swing…the Fetish Fantasy Yoga Sex Swing.  Our mission is to take your sexy lingerie needs to the next level of comfort, intrigue, romance and sophistication. For more information or to place an order today please visit us; www.SimplyDeliciousLingerie.com  www.SimplyLusciousLingerie.com