Dating; For All the Single Ladies

In the hustle and bustle of today’s society in which we live, women are finding that dating is not as easy as it used to be, nor is finding a good man who you can marry and settle down with. So what’s  a girl to do? It’s 2013 and the modern day Cinderella in her thirties, or pushing forty starts to wonder about online dating effectiveness and if that is the new super highway to take to find a man, and love?  Could it work for you?

Maybe nothing else has worked for you so far, and you are still single. Maybe when you were in your twenties and early thirties you put most of your effort into your career and were way to happy to think about settling down so you watched as men would come and go. Maybe you are divorced like I was and amazed or horrified at how the dating scene has changed since you were last free? It can be a shocking experience if you aren’t prepared for it. Gone are the Ward and June Cleaver days, and gone are the Mike and Carol Brady days…today it’s Beyonce and JZ days and careers and families mesh well because times have changed and you make it work when you are in love! Gone are the days when my folks met, dated and married. Say hello to modern-day dating and living!

OK, Let’s talk age; In your thirties, you are likely to hear the biological clock ticking. Ahhh yes, women wanted babies. Many women want to start a family and be a mother. You do not have too long to find Mr. Right if you want to have a family and you are in your thirties said no one ever. New guys probably do not come into your life very often just out of the blue on a daily basis do they? What are the chances of one of them being ‘the one?’ My guess is slim to none, but if he is hang on to that one. Women are becoming single mothers all the time in this new day and age unlike 30 years ago when you were practically crucified for being a young or single mother, today the world of test tubes and in-vitro fertilization are the hip hop way to go for all the single ladies whom cannot find their dream guy and refuse to settle  just to have a baby!

Let’s get back to what brought us here in the first place. Let’s talk dating; if you go online, you have hundreds or even thousands of men to choose from.  It’s like one big smorgasbord of men! Who imagined life could be so good on a Friday night sitting in front of your television watching Pretty Woman and sipping a glass of wine all while scoping out the internet and joining dating sites to find your very own Mr Right? Visit my blog page at http://www.SimplyDeliciousLingerie.blogspot.com and scroll down to where you will find a variety of dating sites some free, some with fees, that I am happy to be an affiliate with.

Hey ladies, all of these guys are looking for someone. If you choose the right site you can be sure of meeting serious-minded guys who want the same things you want. Just be careful…looks can be deceiving! Where one site may be highly recommended and have a variety of good men, and some sites very wealthy men, there is always room for a snake in the grass to slither his way in and lie through his teeth. Shit happens, so keep your guard up and if he seems too good to be true….RUN…because he probably is! Men are real tools and players, nevertheless, there are women who play the same games, so just be cautious.

You can specify any points that are really important to you, such as politics or religion. At the same time, if you are free and willing to move or travel, you can open up your choice to guys who live outside of your city, county, state or even country. These are men that you would never meet without the internet and they could be really great men looking for the same things that you are yet unable to find his mate locally. Internet dating is really the way to go today.

Your safety should be an issue, but remember that when you meet someone on the street you do not have any way of knowing whether he is a smooth-talking serial killer or whether anything he tells you is true so take a chance. My non-professional advise? Listen to your gut.

Certainly online there is the possibility that someone will make up a whole string of lies but those people are few and far between. You can protect yourself a little by talking to him on the phone, checking up where possible, and always arranging the first few dates for a public place. Do not let him pick you up, but meet him there, at a place that you’ve selected.

You can tell somebody where you are going and arrange for them to call you at a certain time to make sure everything is okay. If you are very nervous, you could even arrange a date where you go with a group or another couple that you know. This can take some of the stress out of the date if you are very shy. However, it is not the best way for you and your date to get to know each other. Just because you are in your thirties, forties or even fifties fear not about dating. While many of our biological clocks are ticking or may even have shut down years ago, our hearts are still open for business.

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Why Red is the #1 Color of SEXY

If there is one thing that get a man’s attention it’s a women who is wearing the color red. Its certainly not a color that should be wore every day but it is a color that gets a mans attention. Red lipstick, red nail polish red shoes, red dress? What about red lingerie? For so long now it has been said that a lady in red is more attractive than a lady in any other color. It truly can be said that women who do wear red lingerie says a lot about who they are as a woman. Red is the color of passion, of blood, of fire. Designers claim that red is the perfect color for romance. Red lingerie arouses an entirely different kind of passion  and it says the night on fire with passion. Teasing and tantalizing, yet a color spoken sold bold that it goes where no other color goes.

Does the color of what a woman is wearing catch a mans eye? Men see red and think of sex. Hot, passionate, and steamy. Lingerie is now and has forever been a seducer…oh but the color can make the difference. Why are men attracted to women in any color lingerie? Well, lingerie makes a statement. Any woman who wears it whether it be a sexy matching set (bra and panty,) babydoll, teddy,chemise, etc., seems to send a signal to their partner, mate, spouse that says “I am confident and feel soooo sexy.” At that point, honestly, men can’t get enough! Lets go over a few of the red pieces that I’ve listed below and why they are so sexy, how they define who you are as a woman, or in their eyes, a goddess and what makes them so turned on that they’ll see fireworks in the bedroom!

Red Panties

Red lace panties, how hot. Perhaps the very definition of hot. If you can put these on without bursting into flames then you very possibly have an asbestos ass. Perhaps if the red lace panties aren’t doing it for you, how about these red ruffle panties? Ruffles are a favorite among many men who wear lingerie because of their feminine connotations and their inherent prettiness. Red panties are the starting point for any red lingerie ensemble. They set the tone and the mood for the rest of the outfit, and they need only conform to your particular desire.

Red Stockings

Red stockings can be obtained in many styles, red nylon stockings, red fishnet stockings, red stockings and suspenders, they’re all on the menu for the man who wears lingerie. Red hosiery is the easiest item to find of all the red lingerie options we discuss here, because, for some reason, red doesn’t appear to be subject to the laws of ‘Valentine’s Day and Christmas’ which bra and panty sets seem to obey. Topping your red lingerie ensemble off should like putting the icing on the cake, and let’s face it, all men love the sweets.

Red Bra & Panty Set

This is a simple statement. When choosing a bra and panty set always make certain that they match ladies. The bra and panty set can be lace, or satin. Cotton doesn’t scream sexy, nonetheless it isn’t a good pick in the lingerie line, however, I’m not at all saying that you can’t wear it. Cotton lingerie is rarely found. It just doesn’t scream sexy, it screams comfort and when you are with your special someone comfort is the last thing that you are seeking…you want erotic passion. A bra and panty set so simple can drive a man wild with desire.

Remember, always pick out the lingerie for YOU first and foremost. Yes, we want our partners, mate, or spouse to love it, but honey, they don’t have to wear it…you do. 1) you want to select something that makes you feel like a million bucks. Babydoll lingerie and chemises are quite popular and our selections are trendy. Never wear it too tight, buy a larger size if you must to look and feel comfy, trust me, you’ll still look and feel sexy. 2) Confidence shines through when you feel great, so select something that fit’s your attire well, that accentuates your figure, eyes, skin tone and hair color.Your confidence comes from within and as Shakira sang once, “Underneath Your Clothes” ….there’s an endless story….this is SO TRUE!

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Finding Your Happy Ever After…

For the longest time most everyone I know has had their own idea about what the right person would be like, and by ‘right person’ I am talking their mate. We search and we search and often we come up empty handed…but why? Most of us have the tendencies to see the birds-eye-view. Hey folks, it’s time for a change of scenery!

What is your version of ‘happy ever after’ really? The men/women that we search out appear to really have their shit together but as we dig deeper we find that they aren’t what we anticipated, in fact, in most cases our eyes were deceived and we were not getting the true reading of them at all. Were we only seeing what we wanted to see or did we build them up so much that everything seemed impeccable?Are you looking for that perfect someone to share your life with? Finding that elusive ideal mate doesn’t come that easily for most of us because we haven’t learned the importance of being very clear in our thoughts what type of person would truly make us happy. It is nearly impossible for the universe to deliver a perfect package. 

Are we too picky? Some would say no. I say yes. Yes because you should want what you want and settle for nothing less. Lowering your standards isn’t the answer to finding love. Who wants to settle for someone less attractive, less caring, less intelligent, etc.? Some people are on an eternal quest to find a “perfect” partner, one who probably doesn’t exist outside of the story books. Since childhood, we’ve been taught to keep an eye out for Prince (or Princess) Charming. Grown-up movies and romantic comedies perpetuate these expectations and we’re waiting for the dashing hero/heroine who will intuitively understand our plight and rescue us from our suffering. Unless you fell off the turnip truck and conked your head, this doesn’t happen…(the dashing in to save the damsel in distress part anyway…) The point I am trying to make here is that often we cannot see the true perspective in full view. You have to have the mindset of finding true love and happiness, not some mythical expectations that you’ll live happily ever after. That way, if your speculations fall short, you won’t feel so let down.

The truth is, until he or she arrives, most of the time we feel rather lost. Sure we all say that we enjoy the life of being single, but are you feeling the love when you go to sleep alone every night wishing that you had someone to share ‘pillow talk’ with? We all want love, want some lasting relationships.

The  phenomenon of it all is that many people seem to believe that it is way hard to find. I beg to differ…I believe that your mate is out there and that somewhere he sits waiting patiently too for the right woman to come his way. My grandmother used to tell me that the right kind of love was like a hidden treasure. Buried deep below the surface, nonetheless transparent to that one person who could see through the particles that tend to get in the way of our somewhat clouded vision. Looks are not everything. Character, ethics, loyalty, morals, and values are all part of the equation that you should have in your list of ‘wants and needs’ in your partner. Ones demeanor, and expression transform into our desires. Don’t skimp in the ‘must have’ department. When you meet the right person, things will all fall into place. 

This is love found looking in the mirror, an idealized image of yourself. An attitude like this is based upon non-acceptance of whom and what we really are. When we use another person to build up our own self-image, this kind of relationship is grounded in fear. Without this person we might feel as if we were nothing, and our lives were meaningless. Love can never be built upon a foundation that is not real. If we do not feel secure within ourselves, is it really so surprising we may not really be so eager, after all, for this perfect person to appear at our door?

 Many people ask me; “What keeps us from finding the love we are so hungry for?” The most common answer to this question is that we must find the perfect person. There is always something wrong with the people we meet. We look for flaws, and imperfections.

 Your particular idea of what attractive is, however, could be unrealistic. While it’s ridiculous to commit to someone you aren’t fundamentally attracted to, it’s amazing how much more attractive someone becomes when you love them. Attractiveness is a quality that can vary slightly an infinite number of times throughout the day. These variations are based partly on physical attributes but also on attitude, chemistry, personality and sense of humor.

Way too often, a first date never happens because the initial attraction isn’t there. But attraction that is fully developed on a first encounter is probably skin-deep; there isn’t much hope of ever becoming any more attracted to that person than you are right now. Mature attraction grows based on traits that may be initially less apparent. Equally important is your mindset — beauty is truly in the eye of the beholder. Choosing to continually look for your partner’s beauty (rather than for his/her defects) helps renew our initial attraction.

Appeal that is defined strictly in colors or measurements limits our creative capacity for seeing beauty in others. It also limits our dating options. You may be attracted to height — and that’s fine. But do you really need your partner to tower over you? You may prefer long and lean (or curvy) physiques, but are you willing to accept the common “defects” that often accompany each body type?

 Certainly ones looks are largely predetermined by DNA. However, we are made more or less beautiful by our actions and attitudes. Likewise, we have the ability to paint our impressions of others in either more generous or less generous strokes. When you find someone with the baseline traits you are looking for,… look past superficial flaws. 

My advice, and this is strictly non-professional of course,…Decide what attributes form the essential outline of your “perfect” mate; don’t worry if a few cosmetic features stray outside those boundaries. Love is art, not science. Small “imperfections” prove authenticity and can add unique beauty and dimension to a person. No he or she may not be a beauty queen or a handsome king, but oh the qualities that they hold within are worth their weight in gold and happiness is an attribute that is far more rewarding that someone who appears to have it all together on the outside but lacks so many true qualities on the inside. 

 

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Simply Delicious Lingerie is an online boutique specializing in sexy lingerie from designers such as Carrie Amber Intimates LLC ‘SeventilMidnight’, Be Wicked, Elegant Moments, Fantasy Lingerie, Raveware, and WMS Clothing. Our lingerie is the aphrodisiac of taste, and represents beauty and luxury at an affordable price. At Simply Delicious Lingerie we’ve personally selected a variety of sexy lingerie just for you and all of your sensuous rendezvous. We sell accessories, Bordello shoes, Pleaser shoes, garter sets, bridal lingerie, bridal undergarments, bustier, honeymoon lingerie, wedding day lingerie, wedding garter sets, wedding petticoats, affordable plus size lingerie, Halloween costumes, sexy plus size costumes,  fantasy lingerie, matching lingerie sets, men’s underwear, men’s lingerie, sexy thigh high stockings, satin pajamas, plus size sleepwear, adult novelty items and sex swings including the Whip Smart Pleasure Swing and our newest swing…the Fetish Fantasy Yoga Sex Swing.  Our mission is to take your sexy lingerie needs to the next level of comfort, intrigue, romance and sophistication. For more information or to place an order today please visit us; www.SimplyDeliciousLingerie.com  www.SimplyLusciousLingerie.com

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Relationships…Does a Woman Need a Man’s Approval?

Are you contemplating a new relationship with someone who likes you but wants to change your ways because he thinks you would then be the ‘icing on the cake’ so to speak? We all like it sweet, but as an old friend once said “Sugar, You don’t need a man’s approval, you are in a league all of your own!” Somewhere along the line, a rumor was started that women became known as let’s just say; “the weaker sex”…said no one ever. Ok I’ll bite…

So why don’t you tell that to Annie Oakley, Betsy Ross, Beyonce, Cleopatra,  Ellen DeGeneres, Joan of Arc, Madonna, Mother Teresa, Rosa Parks or Susan B. Anthony? These women, and so many others that I have not made mention of, all strong-willed have endured their own fair share of life, heartaches, set backs and disappointments nonetheless, they are symbols of strength amongst women today. Obviously those women, an army of warriors and my guess is ALL of your friends would fiercely disagree right? We are not the weaker sex, and I am sure that I could get women around the globe to back me on this one.

So why are you surrendering yourself to get the approval of some guy? Women have radar and we generally use it all the time…I do, and it’s usually always right and has never let me down before…well, maybe once. The thing is gals that if you meet a good man and want to be with him, you should not need his approval for anything. He should like/love you for who you are with all of your pro’s, con’s, faults, and no faults highs and lows. You’re falling for an idea that psychologists call the “approval trap.” If you seek his approval, there is no turning back my friend. Before you start to defend yourself, yes, it’s great when you get affirmation from friends and co-workers for what you do. What do your friends think about this? Your true friends will try to make you understand why you should not compromise your happiness to appease him. Wake up girlfriend…can you not see the forest through the trees?

The problem is when you depend on their approval for who you are you lose touch with your independence and what makes you so special. Am I making any sense here? Do you see the difference? Handing over your self-esteem to anyone is a dangerous and usually a really damaging choice that should not be taken lightly. The person whose approval you believe that you must have can respond honestly or dishonestly. Are you willing to risk all of who you are for someone that easily? As another friend once said “Did you fall off the turnip truck and smack that nugget too hard on the pavement?” Since when do you need someone’s approval?

 He could choose to be an encourager to you or he might verbally take you down to his level. Changing who you are to gain his approval is so wrong on so many levels. The price is simply too high.To attract a man who is secure in himself and ready to be an equal partner in a relationship, you have to be that kind of person. Are you that kind of woman? Are you emotionally stable, secure with who you are and happy with yourself? If the answer is no, girlfriend you need to take a good lookie deep within and ask yourself why? Once you determine what is causing you these issue you can address them and work on fixing them. You’ll be on the highway to becoming a better you. You truly can become a better YOU! My grandmother used to always tell me that if you don’t like something …change it! Like minds attract you know? If you’re an insecure and a clingy woman (which oh geez I hope you are not) who has no idea who she is, or what her goals or aspirations are in life, then why do you think you’ll attract a man who is the opposite?

The type of man that you don’t want is counting on you to play the old role of doing whatever it takes to snag him. There are a lot of fish in the sea, so do not think for a minute that you have to latch onto the first one that comes along and grabs your bait. 

 Are you making changes with yourself because it is what ‘you desire’ or what you know he likes? Do you change your wardrobe from business classic to low cut and glamorous because that’s what he likes? You begin doing things his way and for him, and you lose sight slowly of you. In no time, you make excuses to ditch your friends because he wants to “be alone” or “expand your circle.” Do you seriously think that the only way to snatch this guy is to give up your life and your identity to be his personal toy. Bad deal for you, great deal for him. Want my personal NON-PROFESSIONAL advise? DON’T DO IT! Don’t lose who you are. Don’t lose your ethics and values for some schmuck that thinks he can change you. Be happy with the way you are and you will find a man who will love you for all of those qualities that make you so unique.

History does have a way of repeating itself. It also shows men as pursing the hidden treasure. When motivated that the prize is worth the effort, men go to any lengths to win and get what they want. What if that treasure is you? Are you willing to make sacrifices to better suite his needs? Are you willing to lose your identity for him? Are you crazy? Any man that tries to change so many things about you that make you YOU is not the man you want to be with,…not now, not ever. Think long and hard before jumping into this frying pan ladies, the fire may be too hot and you will surely get burned!

 

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Simply Delicious Lingerie is an online boutique specializing in sexy lingerie from designers such as Carrie Amber Intimates LLC ‘SeventilMidnight’, Be Wicked, Elegant Moments, Fantasy Lingerie, Raveware, and WMS Clothing. Our lingerie is the aphrodisiac of taste, and represents beauty and luxury at an affordable price. At Simply Delicious Lingerie we’ve personally selected a variety of sexy lingerie just for you and all of your sensuous rendezvous. We sell accessories, Bordello shoes, Pleaser shoes, garter sets, bridal lingerie, bridal undergarments, bustier, honeymoon lingerie, wedding day lingerie, wedding garter sets, wedding petticoats, affordable plus size lingerie, Halloween costumes, sexy plus size costumes,  fantasy lingerie, matching lingerie sets, men’s underwear, men’s lingerie, sexy thigh high stockings, satin pajamas, plus size sleepwear, adult novelty items and sex swings including the Whip Smart Pleasure Swing and our newest swing…the Fetish Fantasy Yoga Sex Swing.  Our mission is to take your sexy lingerie needs to the next level of comfort, intrigue, romance and sophistication. For more information or to place an order today please visit us; www.SimplyDeliciousLingerie.com  www.SimplyLusciousLingerie.com 


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Online Dating and Disastrous Mistakes…

Everyone tries online dating at one or another point these days. It’s fun and intriguing and you might just get lucky and hit the jackpot and find the love of your life…or not. When online dating first came about, a lot of men saw it as the answer to their dreams. Could life get any better than this? It was like leafing through a catalog shopping for what delighted them…sort of like the ‘must have’ item or deal of the day. Years ago, if you wanted to join a dating agency, you had to jump through so many hoops and you spent hours writing letter after letter to answer women’s ads. In today’s era, no one wants to have a pen pal. Now you can just log on to a particular website, upload your profile and photo, write a couple of lines and wha-la! You’ve got yourself an instant profile and you’re now on the super highway to meeting Ms Right. Hold up…don’t be delusional. You aren’t Rico Suave. There are pros and cons to online dating.

There are millions of women registered with hundreds or even thousands of online dating agencies. I am an affiliate to a variety of them. There are always more women than men, or so it seems, and the proportion of women increases with age. So as a man, you would think all you have to do is get your profile up there and you will have millions of women fighting for you. Right? Ummm, not so much…

If you put your profile up and sit back and wait, you will probably get some interest. Sure. You will receive emails from women who like the look of you. And you will probably think that you can find success with a lot of women without working too hard.

 But after some time, things may not be going so well. Progress is not as fast as you hoped. The ladies who approached you do not seem to be following through. They want to write or chat yahoo? Most of them won’t even agree to meet you. Hey, they started it, right? Why are they suddenly pulling away? This should be the beg ole’ RED FLAG boys…as my grandmother used to say; “If it seems too good to be true, it probably is!”

The fact is, that women do not see themselves as committing to anything when they write you online. For a guy, when he says ‘I’m available’, that’s what he means. But for a woman, being available doesn’t mean they stop being picky…in fact, it means that generally they are testing the waters, doing a background check and asking around about you and that may even mean writing other women on the website that they met you on to see if you copy and paste the same responses or notes to everyone just to see who will respond or who you can get a rise out of. Shame on you fellas. Now you should ask yourself why you can’t find a good woman and what are you doing wrong? My guess is that you have made some bad choices and big mistakes.

At this point a lot of guys make some big mistakes…

1. Aggressiveness won’t work…

Don’t push for a meeting if she is saying no. No means NO! Say OK and then just keep the dialogue open. If she doesn’t want to meet you, that means you have not yet won her trust. You probably just need to keep talking.Don’t accuse her of being afraid to meet you. Women love dares, but this could turn out to be the wrong move on your part. you don’t want to force her hand and make her feel like she has to meet with you. My grandmother used to always say that anything worth having was worth waiting for. Give it time. You’re not in a marathon to find love…

2. Looking for an ideal lady?

If you have an ideal lady in your mind, you will probably not find her. Your dream girl is just that…a fantasy. A lot of guys have illusions about women who look or act a certain way. Your ideal lady probably does not exist, or if she does, she will not look exactly like you imagine. If you hold onto ideals, then 99.9% of women will not fit. Be open to the unexpected, and you will have a lot more success.

3. Lying and talking yourself up? Don’t do it!

Why do men do this? There is simply no point to do it. If you lie about how much you earn, how many times you have been married, if you are or are not married, what you do for a living, your friends or social status, she will probably find out eventually and even if she does not, the fact that you know you have lied will affect your relationship. Lies are so hard to keep up with…just be honest!

If there is something you prefer not to discuss right away that’s ok,…you don’t have to spill your guts all at once, but you should be up front and open. Later, when you have built up some trust and you feel that you can tell her in a confidential way, a woman will accept most that you have to tell … provided you did not lie about it. My theory is that honesty gets you everywhere, and if you wish to find a woman that you can get to know, spend time with and enjoy her company, she wants to meet the real you, not what you’ve built her up to believe is the true you. 

 

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Simply Delicious Lingerie is an online boutique specializing in sexy lingerie from designers such as Carrie Amber Intimates LLC ‘SeventilMidnight’, Be Wicked, Elegant Moments, Fantasy Lingerie, Raveware, and WMS Clothing. Our lingerie is the aphrodisiac of taste, and represents beauty and luxury at an affordable price. At Simply Delicious Lingerie we’ve personally selected a variety of sexy lingerie just for you and all of your sensuous rendezvous. We sell accessories, Bordello shoes, Pleaser shoes, garter sets, bridal lingerie, bridal undergarments, bustier, honeymoon lingerie, wedding day lingerie, wedding garter sets, wedding petticoats, affordable plus size lingerie, Halloween costumes, sexy plus size costumes,  fantasy lingerie, matching lingerie sets, men’s underwear, men’s lingerie, sexy thigh high stockings, satin pajamas, plus size sleepwear, adult novelty items and sex swings including the Whip Smart Pleasure Swing and our newest swing…the Fetish Fantasy Yoga Sex Swing.  Our mission is to take your sexy lingerie needs to the next level of comfort, intrigue, romance and sophistication. For more information or to place an order today please visit http://simplydeliciouslingerie.com/   

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Dating Over 40; Dressing the Part, Acting your Age

Oh so often women wonder why men aren’t attracted to us, or why they get so turned off after a first date, but  have you looked at everything leading up to this first date to see what it was that went so terribly wrong? Could you have fixed it? Planning and preparation for this date means details girls and you need to look great because we have a lot of competition out there that can sweep a man away if we are too busy with our head stuck in the sand. Don’t muck it up.

So where do you start once he asks you out? In all honesty dressing for a date says a lot about what you think about yourself and about your guy. The outfit that you wear out should be one that makes his eyeballs fall out with lust and admiration. It’s not that you have to be phony or dress differently, but you do have to dress appropriately for the plans he’s made for the date. Most men that I know like sexy and simple. The little black dress is the only way to go in my opinion, nonetheless, there are a variety of things that you can wear to turn his head in a good way. My suggestions are quite simple actually, so please, pay attention to what he has in store for you, and if he doesn’t tell you ask how to prepare/dress.

 

In my opinion, it would be a really smart idea to ask the guy what kind of evening he has planned? If he wants to keep it a surprise, then ask whether you need to dress as you would for the office, for a sports event or for an elegant party. That gives you a range in which to choose your outfit. So many women that I know at my age are in their later 40s and want to dress like someone half their age. Not only is this a bad idea but it make you look so tacky and cheap. You didn’t get through your entire life riding on the tails of someone your daughter’s age or a woman in her 20’s or early 30s so for God sakes, dress the part, it shows your maturity and it labels you as someone with class…and truth be told men love classy women with taste.

 

How you dress says so much about who you are. This means get rid of the cheap crappy looking stuff in your closet and ask your friends for some help and reinforcement! If you have younger friends, don’t bother asking, they’re only going to give you suggestions of how they would dress and trust me, most if the time, you wouldn’t want to be caught dead walking out the front door.  If you go out in a halter with cleavage barely contained and a mini-skirt that slightly larger than his handkerchief, then you’re sending a message that he reads as “YES” and other women quickly label “slut.” Oh you’ll get plenty of attention, but the wrong kind of attention! Is that what you want?

 

Listen, there are stores to go to for really nice apparel at reduced costs… so when you go to a store, DO NOT go straight to the ‘juniors section!” You aren’t a junior and you’ll only make a complete fool out of yourself. Girlfriend you want to hold your head up and look good for this person. They deserve it and you need to represent not only who you are but you’re representing all the other middle-aged women out there.  Junior are meant for juniors, plain and simple…so stay out of that department all together! You may think you look good, but it’s embarrassing to say the least. 

 

Dressing for a date when you aren’t sure about the plans is like going to a job interview. If you don’t know what they interview is for and what position of the company, my suggestion is this; dress for the job you want, not for the job you have. There is a lot of competition so get it right. You only have this one chance, this one opportunity to show him that you are a woman with a good head on her shoulders. It’s better to dress up than to look under dressed. That means take the extra step, make some effort, and dress up just a bit more. 

 

For a date, apply that advice. If you aren’t sure what to wear, go with business casual and sensible shoes. Less is more. This means you don’t need to be all blingy and don’t wear a ton of make up. Men love simple and natural. If you are wearing so much make up that it takes layers to remove it, stop right here! If you wear a sleeveless top, bring along a light sweater, or a shawl since you don’t know whether you’ll be inside a chilly movie theatre or sitting outside at a patio restaurant after the evening temperatures drop. 

 

If you’re getting back into the dating scene after a few years, take time to look over the current magazines for casual styles. Go simple with colors too. Red, Black and White are the most popular and eye-catching colors. Then ask other women who have similar styles to yours what they would wear for a date. Ask for advice! People are more than willing to give it and you need it!

 

Basic rule of thumb: if you haven’t dated for five years or more, don’t wear what you use to wear on dates. Chances are with your dating scene absence with a wardrobe that needs to freshen up.So pull out that credit card or unfreeze your assets and splurge this one time! You don’t have to buy all new clothes – just edit your outfits and add a bold item that’s current.  Even if you’ve lost lots of weight and just got a face lift, don’t go shopping in the junior department after age 25! That is a serious NO and a huge turn off. Most men our age probably have daughters in their 20s and God only knows that he isn’t taking his daughter out so don’t embarrass yourself dressing like her! 

 

You’ll add to your age by trying to look too young, and you’ll be the laughing stalk. Act your age and damn it be proud of it! If you want to keep it very simple, you can never go wrong with a little black dress. I have two from Michael Kors that are simple and stunning. They don’t say ‘look at me, look at me’ …they say sophistication at it’s finest. After all, it’s about being comfortable and confident with who you are as a woman, yet realizing that a certain amount of effort is necessary to look tres jolie, very pretty. This look requires some basic classic pieces that never fade from fashion, creativity, and a sense of self-expression. This look is about communication. The eyes, the lips, the hair, are all ways in which a woman communicates. Fashion with style is not only about function and looking well, but is another way in which we communicate our inner self to the outer world.

 

Dressing  sleazy or provocative is out, unless you want to be labeled as trash. Trust me, simple is better and you can never lose in a LBD. Start the evening feeling good in an outfit that makes you feel special even before he walks through the door! Remember, you want to really stand out and if you have the right dress or outfit on, you will be a vision in his mind that stands out for a very long time. That memory of you will be embedded in his brain, so look good, smile and just be you…and you’ll have him coming back for more.

 

 

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Are You Getting What You Want in Bed?

Some people tend to tip-toe around it…I say, “Why beat around the bush?” Let me ask you a question? Are you getting what you want in bed?…And by that I simply mean “are you getting sex the way you like it?”  Sure, you and your partner make love regularly but are you really satisfied with what you do together? If your answer is “Yes, I am perfectly content with my sex life,” then that’s great… but if your answer is closer to “Umm… well…not so much” then perhaps it’s time for a change.

Here are some tips for getting what you want in your sex life and enjoying it with your partner. Know that if you wish for your parter to feel comfy with you and adhere to your needs, you must not make demands in the bedroom. That only makes your partner feel tense and afraid to try new things in fear of doing something wrong, or not doing these sexual favors to your standards. Guess what? Standards go out the window in the bedroom…it’s all about you and your partner and it’s about learning and growing together. You can’t expect to always get things right on the first try can you? It’s like my grandmother used to say…Sex is like falling off a horse,…you get back on and ride him again. Practice makes perfect! Don’t be afraid to get naughty and do things out of the ordinary. Have fun, life is far too short to be boring.

 

Know what you want

This sounds painfully obvious, but it’s not as simple as you may think. There are numerous reasons why it can be hard to answer the question, What do I want? Some people shut down their desires because they feel funny about them. Others have a very limited knowledge of the countless ways that humans can express themselves sexually. Many individuals don’t understand their bodies very well so they don’t know how to work them properly either. Listen to your body…it will talk to you!

 

Understanding what you want requires being open to your most personal thoughts and feelings. There is no need to be judgmental about desire. What do you fantasize about, either during lovemaking or when you’re alone? Fantasies are often crazy and unrealistic, but there may be elements that could easily be acted out in the bedroom. If you believe that you are lacking in sexual knowledge, then give yourself permission to learn more through reading books, watching movies, or surfing the web.

 Ask for what you want

Now that you have a good idea of what you want, share it with your partner. Try to frame your request in a positive way. Don’t complain about how dissatisfied you are with the status quo. Instead, talk about how much you love your private time together and how it exciting it would be if he or she did a certain thing. If he or she seems unwilling to consider your request, then you need to find out why. Once you understand your partner’s hesitation, you may be able to come up with a compromise that would be rewarding for both of you. 

Give your partner what he or she wants

Listen, If you’re getting what you want, it’s only fair that your partner gets what he or she wants, right? A sexual relationship should be mutually satisfying or it will hit the rocks pretty quickly. Give your partner an opportunity to talk about his or her own desires and do your best to fulfill them. Ladies, don’t withhold sex as a punishment. If something is bugging you, fix the real problem instead of letting your resentment spill over into the bedroom. And gentlemen, you need to understand that pleasing and fully satisfying your partner is the most effective way of getting more sex. My advice…let your guard down and get risqué! 

 

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Simply Delicious Lingerie is an online boutique specializing in sexy lingerie from designers such as Carrie Amber Intimates LLC ‘SeventilMidnight’, Be Wicked, Elegant Moments, Fantasy Lingerie, Raveware, and WMS Clothing. Our lingerie is the aphrodisiac of taste, and represents beauty and luxury at an affordable price. At Simply Delicious Lingerie we’ve personally selected a variety of sexy lingerie just for you and all of your sensuous rendezvous. We sell accessories, Bordello shoes, Pleaser shoes, garter sets, bridal lingerie, bridal undergarments, honeymoon lingerie, wedding day lingerie, wedding garter sets, wedding petticoats, affordable plus size lingerie, Halloween costumes, sexy plus size costumes,  fantasy lingerie, matching lingerie sets, men’s underwear, men’s lingerie, sexy thigh high stockings, satin pajamas, plus size sleepwear, adult novelty items and sex swings including the Whip Smart Pleasure Swing and our newest swing…the Fetish Fantasy Yoga Sex Swing.  Our mission is to take your sexy lingerie needs to the next level of comfort, intrigue, romance and sophistication. For more information or to place an order today please visit http://simplydeliciouslingerie.com/   

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