Dating Sites…Looking for L-O-V-E or L-U-S-T?

Dating sites seem to be the route to take these days to finding love,and there are plenty of them out there to choose from…but what it if you don’t desire love, rather lust? What if you are just seeking a lover, a NSA kind of guy? What if you just want a ‘boy toy’ if you will? Someone to give you an exclusive membership to their very own pleasure ride in the sky…their personal ‘mile high club?’ A man who you don’t want to be married to rather just share your private and alone time with a few times a month on intimate dinners, weekend getaways and travel? Then you go your separate ways until your next encounter or get together? 

When I think about meeting a man and dating him, or being his lover, I think about two people, at first strangers coming together to form a certain sense of harmony and really connecting on a variety of levels. When I think about a relationship whether it be long term or short term, the questions is not how long will it last rather, how good do these two people mesh together each time the unite? It takes two special people coming together and feeling a connection, first via emails, texts, and the phone and then in person. Many things go into this to make all the good things unfold, but oh if you plan this out and together make goals and commitments of some sort it will all fall into place and it very well can be a win/win for both of you. What is this you ponder? It’s called synchronicity.

Need me to spell it out for you? It is the phenomenon of meaningful things happening together in such a way that they are creatively linked, although one thing did not cause the other. It is as if there is a pattern to the events that is showing you that you are going in the right direction…and the right direction is always good. When you put forth effort and enthusiasm, it shows you are genuine and sincere. You’re not playing games, you’re both adults and deserve to be treated as such. 

So many things go into the full equation of asking; “Is he really the one that will make me happy?” or “Is he going to be discreet and respect me?” If he is the right guy for you, then getting together should be like a walk in the park. Don’t sweat the small stuff…that’s what I tell my friends. Making a connection with someone is not easy at all, in fact when you meet on line it can be even more difficult because you’ve viewed a profile and determined that you like or dislike him or her. If you do like them you proceed to get to know more about them because there is some sort of an attraction and there is so much more to an individual than simply their profile alone. As long as you are completely honest and have excellent communication skills all will be fine, not to worry. Just be YOU! You will find everything falling into place as if it was ‘meant to be’. If there are obstacles now and then, they will be overcome; generally, your path will be smooth because you both went into this type of relationship with the same expectations not only as friends, but lovers. 

Not every chance encounter is magical. There may be some negative affects to meeting someone; sometimes you may meet the right person at the wrong time. Synchronicity is not there and if you try to force a relationship to happen, it will hit a brick wall, and ouch, you don’t want that! My strong non-professional advice would then be that should this happen to you; you’d better to let him go. If he is your Mr. Right, he will come back into your life again later, when it is the right time for both of you. I always say ‘don’t push fate’ it has to happen on its own. 


You may be looking for weeks or months for someone special and not find him, then one day you may be getting ready to close out a membership for a dating site and see a message from someone and decide to read it…it very well could be that one message that caught your eye was all that it took to produce a wonderful new friendship and passion in your life. Erotic and exotic fun may have just hit a new level. Your connection may just be explosive and then you can really kiss the dating sites goodbye!

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Relationships and Pillow Talk…

Guys love girls who present themselves well both in bed, and out. Might sound like the cold hard truth, but hey, it is what it is.If you are a woman reading this and are appalled by it, you may want to stop here because we are about to travel through the good, the bad and the ugly. Lets face it…cold hard fact- Men are visual creatures and they are impressed by what they see in their line of vision….so with that in mind, wear Simply Delicious Lingerie and turn up the heat! Oh, But be aware of the impression you give to the way you present yourself. You want to look great and get attention without looking really desperate.

One thing leads to another and you hit it off…then you date, then you share intimate details, and family history and you find one another supporting one another, right? Well, that’s what most women want…after sex is just as important as the whole ‘before sex’ anticipation. They say that women get attached more to a man once they have sex. Well, it if it for real, then that might be true, BUT if you don’t share the chemistry with her fellas, DON’T string her along and lead her to believe that she is it for you, when in fact she is just another notch in your belt loop. Whats wrong with you? Women have feelings and you need to be more alert and adherent to her. All relationships start with communication. That is KEY.

So, let’s get back to where I was going with this…quite frankly, it is easy to dismiss simply conversation as just sweet nothings, but the key to relationship happiness may be in your pillow talk. Yup, you heard me. It’s key factor in relationship and we women LOVE it, so suck it up boys and learn how to listen. It’s not all about you…nor is it all about us. I’ve learned that with one man in particular that I dated a few years ago, he understood me, he just wanted more. What more could I have given him? Plenty, but I wasn’t blonde and a size 4. I was 10 years older than him and he had no children, and his mother wanted more for him, as if I didn’t? I’ve learned over the years that things have a way of working out, and on the contrary to what I thought was right or wrong then, he taught me that what I do want and need is a man who will listen to me talk, and really hear what it is that I am saying. I loved this man for the pillow talk. I could tell him anything.

As I wrote my book, and blogs, and gathered references and literature on lingerie and what men like and want, I learned what he wanted and needed. Surveys on pillow talk revealed that people liked hearing their own name because it increased rapport and intimacy. Recall how in everyday life when someone says your name, you instantly feel more noticed, useful or special.Scientists have found that women whose partners finish off a night of passion by immediately turning over and nodding off are left feeling insecure and craving affection. Psychologists at the University of Michigan said cuddling and talking after sex is a crucial way for a couple to express their commitment to each other. What she doesn’t want to hear for sure is…anything negative. Sharing the moment positively will always ensure that this time is special for you both. If you can’t say anything nice, don’t say anything at all. Bedtime is for loving, relaxing and yes, sleeping. It is not a time for  fighting finding faults in you mate, so show her romance!

If you don’t know what exactly romance is, you have bigger problems than I thought…but read on:Romance is a nebulous thing with the curious property of being indescribable but not definable. We women certainly won’t muck with your head and try to suggest there’s an ultimate definitive definition out there. Some people will try to do just that and come up with some tidy little definition, like, “Romance is showing you care.” Sure, it sounds good at first, but although draping your coat over a puddle and asking if she remembered to brush her teeth that morning may be actions triggered by this same motivation, they rate distinctly differently on the romance scale.Although it’s not so much a definition, as it is no more precise than the word “romance” itself, one way to describe romance succinctly is “what women want out of a relationship.” In other words, men aren’t romantic, at least not as much as you should be.

If you’re a woman, of course, you were born with an innate knowledge of this stuff and need not read further, because you’ve got it all figured out right? WRONG! Relationships are not fly-by-night and they certainly were not meant to be flings of any sort unless it is a one night stand and then there won’t be pillow talk. Finding that right person for you that you can talk to about everything and anything without getting pressure or shit from them is not easy to find. It does happen, and when you find this person that you can talk to about anything…whether they be your partner, girlfriend, boyfriend, spouse, lover, sugar daddy, sugar baby, mate, or whatever….TALK. Pillow talk is a great way to communicate and get to the core of this persons inner being. Take the time to get to know them,…my guess is that you’ll be glad that you did. As for me, some day I’ll meet the man who can share pillow talk with me and when I do, I am going to burn his ear up. (just kidding)….


Are You Sugar Daddy Material?

Do you live with some adventure? Are you ready to live the life of the sugar daddy? Are you ready to race in the fast lane – working long hours to reap the rewards of a high paying career, driving fast cars – luxury roadsters from the world’s most reputable and sought after manufacturers – and of course meeting great women? This is not something that is all that far fetched. As a matter of fact, for many, it is within reach. How do I know this? I am the owner of an elite and exclusive dating site and I can assure you that there are men just like you that have wondered from time to time if he was capable, and had what it takes to be a Sugar Daddy. Please note, the word is one to be respected. It is for the men who have the money and the means to take care of and or support a sugar baby. This term IS NOT for the “wanna be’s” that flash their profiles around the internet but haven’t a clus as to what a real sugar daddy does or how one acts, bot professionally and personally. Most real sugar daddies are not the type that have to “flash” anything at all. They are reserve and modest to a degree, but never flaunt by any means.

 I have always said “Put your money where your mouth is!” My grandmother always said….”A man who has to brag about all that he has, must not have that much!”  No women like a phony man, so be real, be sincere, and allow me to assist.

Take a closer look at the life you are living if you are sugar daddy and what he does:

1. focuses on establishing himself. This means taking an early interest in education and how to put the information and skills that he learns to work for him;

2. dedicates himself to doing the hard work. This means committing to his job, working his way to the top – often becoming successful much more quickly than his peers;

3. sets goals and achieves them.  A sugar daddy makes his list of goals – goals for travel, income, cars, homes and even experiences – and then commits to achieving his goal, one step at a time; and

4. knows that he needs companionship. In the case of a sugar daddy, most often, this companionship often comes in the form of a sugar babe or sugar baby; a beautiful woman – often a bit younger – for whom the sugar daddy can care and take care of. Beware though of the women who are blood suckers. They want your  money….that is the bottom line….the gold diggers who inthis case seem to think that they can now push the “I want” Card to the limits. My advice,….find a woman who asks for has requests, but have little need to beg. A real sugardaddy will know when to make her happy….so the woman need not ask. 

In other words, becoming a sugar daddy means making a commitment to a lifestyle. It is so true that this lifestyle comes with wealth and glamour. It’s a lifestyle that lends itself to driving fast cars. It’s a lifestyle that comes with a fashionable home that is stylish inside and out. It’s a lifestyle that is dressed designer clothing and shoes and accented with the right jewelry – a sharp ring and a great watch. But it’s not a lifestyle that comes without a price…..Oh no fellas, that price is commitment. It is being well educated, and working long hard hours… means always putting in more than everyone else ….sometimes tackling the more challenging projects because they come with the greatest rewards as wall as being willing to sacrifice relationships for getting to the top.

Though some of those relationships exist within the workplace, some sugar daddies find that relationships outside of the office suffer as well. They maintain friendships, and can make the time they need to get out and spend time with the guys. Some have trouble with dating as well. Most men/sugar daddies find their sugar babies on the Internet.

This isn’t because there is a shortage of beautiful women. It isn’t because there is a shortage of younger women who do not want to be seen with a great-looking, talented and successful guy. In fact, it’s merely a matter of meeting the right woman – an honest woman, a woman with dreams and goals that mesh well with your own. Finding that woman is – like all goals of sugar daddies – it is quite possible. If you can find the right woman that provides all that you desire and you have chemistry, you’d better hang on to her! Remember also, like anything else….good things must come to an end. In some cases these relationships just dissolve….and in others the sugar baby was actually in this NSA relationship with you while she was dating a man. With have a partner that is a no strings kind of guy, it means that you have a life of your own to do as you please and there are more times that sugar daddies come to me in search of a new sugar baby because his got engaged, married or too a job and was ready to move on. Happiness is quite possible! You need not wear your money on your sleeve flaunting it around… can find a great woman if you take the time, and be yourself!
The Eagles sang it best, you live “Life in the fast Lane!” Welcome to Sugar Daddy Land!



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