Do you Know Your Family Health History? It Could Save your Life!

Do you know your family history of deadly diseases? People discover that they have these day in and day out…but as a 47-year-old woman who is already aware of the God awful heart diseases and cancer in my family genes, I learned of this years and years ago…however, some things that I did not know have concerned me, and now I need to pass this important literature on to my children both in their mid twenties. I remember as a young girl going to visit my grandfather in the hospital after open heart surgeries…back then in the 70’s it was serious but so out of touch too. When I say out of touch I mean; we did not have the internet like we do today to Google or Bing a word/word phrase to learn of its findings…all we had to go on was what the doctors and surgeons told us.  What did it mean? Well if grandpa came home it meant they fixed it! Thank goodness for modern-day technology!

My kids often say to me after looking at a long beaten path of family heart and cancer issues “Mom, why did you and Dad even have kids?” You know, I used to laugh back then thinking they were being smart asses, but in reality, what they said I should have listened to a bit better. Do you know how many people have these diseases brewing in their blood and don’t even know it? Do you know how many families don’t tell members (cousins, sisters, brothers, aunts, uncles, etc) about these things at all? How are we to know then when something happens to us how to trace this back and to whom?

 Do your self a favor, and a big one for your family and kids; talk about your family and your ancestors amongst all of the family. Find out who had what and document it. Had my family done more talking, especially pertaining to the headaches, my sister and I could have possibly been diagnosed much sooner and maybe not suffered so much pain.

Today I want to talk arteries. Life is far too short not to learn and understand who has/had what. It’s not to late to stop a train from derailing in your body! Get the answers, and make physical changes to become a healthier you!

 Carotid artery disease is also called carotid artery stenosis. The term refers to the narrowing of the carotid arteries. This narrowing is usually caused by the buildup of fatty substances and cholesterol deposits, called plaque. Carotid artery occlusion refers to complete blockage of the artery. When the carotid arteries are obstructed, you are at an increased risk for a stroke, the third leading cause of death in the U.S. Sound familiar? We have it in our family and chances are so do you! Let’s talk about what it is exactly and how it gets there?

What Are the Carotid Arteries?

The carotid arteries are two large blood vessels that supply oxygenated blood to the large, front part of the brain. This is where thinking, speech, personality, and sensory and motor functions reside. You can feel your pulse in the carotid arteries on each side of your neck, right below the angle of the jaw line.

How Does Carotid Artery Disease Happen?

Like the arteries that supply blood to the heart — the coronary arteries — the carotid arteries can also develop atherosclerosis or “hardening of the arteries” on the inside of the vessels.

Over time, the buildup of fatty substances and cholesterol narrows the carotid arteries. This decreases blood flow to the brain and increases the risk of a stroke. FYI- Eat Cheerios! I did and my cholesterol level went down, down, down just like in the commercials on television!

A stroke — sometimes called a “brain attack” — is similar to a heart attack. It occurs when blood flow is cut off from part of the brain. If the lack of blood flow lasts for more than 3 to 6 hours, the damage is usually permanent. A stroke can occur if:

• the artery becomes extremely narrowed
• there’s a rupture in an artery to the brain that has atherosclerosis
• a piece of plaque breaks off and travels to the smaller arteries of the brain
• a blood clot forms and obstructs a blood vessel

Strokes can occur as a result of other conditions besides carotid artery disease. For example, sudden bleeding in the brain, called intracerebral hemorrhage, can cause a stroke. Other possible causes include:

• sudden bleeding in the spinal fluid space — subarachnoid hemorrhage
• atrial fibrillation
• cardiomyopathy
• blockage of tiny arteries inside the brain

What Are the Risk Factors for Carotid Artery Disease?

The risk factors for carotid artery disease are similar to those for other types of heart disease. They include:

• age
• smoking
• hypertension (high blood pressure) — the most important treatable risk factor for stroke
• abnormal lipids or high cholesterol
• diet high in saturated fats
• insulin resistance
• diabetes
• obesity
• sedentary lifestyle
• family history of atherosclerosis, either coronary artery disease or carotid artery disease

Men under the age of 75 have a greater risk than women. Women have a greater risk over the age of 75. People who have coronary artery disease have an increased risk of developing carotid artery disease. Typically, the carotid arteries become diseased a few years later than the coronary arteries, nonetheless, this can occur at a very young age also. If you are young parents and think that it is easier to go to the drive through at Burger King, McDonald’s, Wendy’s, or anywhere else, think long and hard before you do so… grease, high cholesterol, and fat just waiting to soak your arteries and cause issues down the road. I believe in the saying “pay me now or pay me later!” We didn’t know how eating all of this shit that was “on the go” food would hurt us, but I’m telling you and so does relative news that it’s hurting your kids!!!!  Get healthier, and live healthier. Take care of your body, it is the only one you will ever have!

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The Top 3 Most Popular Sexual Positions

In some recent research and unique findings I wondered what are the most popular sexual positions? There are several different kinds of love-making positions that couples can adopt during sex. Some of the love-making positions provides higher stimulation than the others and it will be good for you to try them out with your lover. I’ve found that foreplay as we all know it is something that gets the energy going and sets the mood…is it extremely necessary? No…but is it fun?….You bet your sweet ass it is. Being a pretty intelligent woman who I am and one who does her fair share of reading thought that I would share with you, my friends and family, (but hopefully not my mother) the 3 most popular positions that couples all over use. Remember, always wear your Simply Delicious Lingerie!

 1. The Clip. This position is very easy to execute and it brings a lot of pleasure to both partners. The man will lie down with his legs outstretched. The woman will sit astride him and lean back, so that the man can play with her clitoris while she controls the thrusting movement. The man can just relaxed and enjoy the intercourse. Ok guys, you aren’t supposed to have an erection yet! Continue reading…geez!

 2. The 90 Degree. This position is best to be performed on a table, (now this is what I’m talking about) with the woman lying on it and her buttock at the edge of the table. The man will then enter her in a standing position. This position is ideal for the man to caress both her breasts as well as her clitoris. The woman should wrap both her legs onto the man’s waist and pull him to towards her. This will cause the pressure to increase, giving both partners stimulating pleasures. A few things will happen here, 1) you’ll never eat dinner again at your table without a BIG smile on your face and 2) You find now that Yes, indeed the kitchen table actually does serve a purpose. I’ve learned that no one actually eats dinner at their table anymore…gone are those days, so giddy up, gotta us it for something!

3. The Doggie. I just hate that term…can’t they come up with something more sensual? When I think of doggie I think of a big ole’ St. Bernard drooling all over the place…well, then again, I’ve just described a horn dog for a man! This is a classic making love position and it is highly stimulating for both partners. So let’s get back to the basics…this position starts off with the woman going down on all fours, using her forearms to support herself. The man will enter her from the rear, controlling the thrusting movement with his hips. This position will give a lot of pleasures to both partners as the deep penetration will not only grind and stimulate against the vaginal wall, but also the G-Spot too.

 If you are looking for fun ways to get more excitement from your partner and you like taking risks, read this book…. I just did. It is intriguing and has that “wow” factor of seduction! You should explore more love-making positions with your partner to spice things up as there may be some other positions that both of you find highly stimulating. Life is far too short, enjoy your partner. It burns calories!

How to tell when your man is cheating…

So you want the signs? I’ll give you the signs. Please note ladies, what you are about to read doesn’t mean that every man is a cheater, BUT had someone given me some of these warning signals prior to finding out that my spouse was cheating, I would have had more time to comprehend this horrible act that destroyed my marriage, and I would have handled it a little better. Not everyone has hundreds/thousands of dollars for a PI. I wasted a lot of $$…If I had just been taught some of the signs…personally, I still would have left him, but I would have had that extra cash on hand to do something with my two kids who were about to get the worlds flipped upside down. Remember, I am no expert and this is not advise of a therapist, it’s coming from a real woman who experienced it first hand and went to therapy herself and was taught this…too late, but nevertheless, something to always beware of.  Women are good at sensing when something is not right….we call it sniffing. I call it good radar! They possess an undefined instinct for detecting a lie, white lie or not. They’re particularly sensitive to men who lie about cheating because that’s one of the “occupational hazards” that comes with saying “I do.” If you confront your spouse and he insists that he never cheats and would never dream of cheating on you – then don’t push it. There’s no point starting a fight. But if you have the slightest suspicion, be vigilant for warning signs. There are good reasons for remaining silent. Pay CLOSE ATTENTION!! You know the saying, “silence is golden.” You can keep track of his infidelities and use them later should you end up in divorce court.  • unexplained disappearances – he slips away and you have no idea where he went…..you’re at a party and your husband disappears for a few minutes. He’s not mingling with the guests. He’s in some room upstairs in the house or behind the bushes making a phone call;  • sudden business trips where he can’t be reached – unless he is the president of the company, don’t bank on a sudden business trip as cause, and if it is, tell him you’ll call his office/secretary for your itinerary and for him ‘not’ to worry about it with his busy schedule… I’ll bet my right boob if he is lying to you you’ll be able to read this man like a book at that very moment when he makes an excuse for you to NOT call the office! Why does he insist on “don’t call me, I’ll call you? Why does he conveniently “forget” to tell you what hotel he’s staying in?  • charges on his credit card. there’s a $250.00 charge at a jewelry store. How come you’re not wearing this particular item? A gift for a client? That will be his response, I’ll bet my bottom dollar on this one!  • untouchable cell phone – he guards his cell phone with his life and won’t let you use it. He even brings it to the toilet and is careful not to leave it lying around. Will he allow you to use it? Not on your life…Sound familiar…? Ok then, look at it as your 1st RED FLAG now and do something about it! If you don’t it is your own fault. If he has the phone set on “lock” and won’t tell you the code, you have an even bigger problem!  • weird telephone messages – “Ma’am, could you please tell Mr. Roberts that I’ve fixed the leak in his condo and that I’ll be sending him my bill soon?” Didn’t he say he can’t afford a summer cottage because he’s still waiting for his stock options to come through?  • no sexual advances in the last little while – why isn’t he romantically flirting with you anymore? Is he getting it somewhere else? Too tired from all that activity?  • absent-mindedness, distractions – you feel your husband hardly listens to you or barely manages small talk. It’s like his mind is somewhere else – and you know it isn’t on work. My guess is that he is thinking about someone, and it isn’t you!  • ringing phone, no one there – your husband’s girlfriend tries to call him at home but when you answer, the line goes dead.  • he smells funny, has hair strands on his coat – you don’t recognize the perfume, and the color of the hair strands is not your hair  color.  • suddenly he’s turned into a gym freak – he said he hates gyms and hates to exercise. Why is he in the gym for what seems to you like 8 days a week and looking desperately lean and mean all of a sudden? Ideally, the best thing is not to emotionally react when you catch your husband lying about cheating. I’ve actually helped friends learn of these discoveries that their spouses were cheating. Collect evidence like a good and calculating detective.  Men tend to run away from a highly charged emotional confrontation, they can’t deal with wild accusations, tears and flying saucers. Be cool and psychologically stable. Instead of ranting and raving about why men lie about cheating, find out why they cheat. Men are the weaker of the sexes. My grandmother use to always tell me that if they shy away from you and cannot look you directly in the eye, they are up to no good.  You can ask your husband calmly why he cheated, and show him the evidence. Maybe he’ll be ready to tell you the truth if you’re not too angry. Not too angry? I looked like a fire-breathing dragon who had smoke coming from my mouth, eyes and ears! Don’t confront him when the children are nearby. If you really want this marriage to work, perhaps you can suggest couples therapy. A professional therapist might tell you; there can be many reasons why men lie about cheating.  Really? What and why, because after 15 years I still don’t get it!  If you really are determined to work through this, by all means, keep the communication lines open. It doesn’t mean the love between you is dead. It can simply mean it wasn’t allowed to flourish because of problems at home or that something in the marriage needs a fix. If I could have “fixed” my marriage, believe me, I would have done anything to not have put my children through what they went through, but on the other hand, do we really want our children to think that mommy and daddy fighting all the time or not wanting to be near one another is normal? Don’t think that this won’t affect your kids, I’ve seen it first hand, it does! Like everything else, time heals all wounds, but ouch, are they deep.  Beware of the signs ladies, they are as plain as lipstick on his face…

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Why Do Men Play Games?

Let me first start this off on the right foot, otherwise I’ll have every man in town mad at me! I know that this article does NOT apply to all men, so if you are one of the good ones, and you are single, email me., please and help me to understand.

Tell me something….because I really want very much to understand why it is that men are best known for playing mind games that leave women feeling frustrated or mad? Is it really necessary guys? For women, reading a mans mind is probably one of the hardest things that we could ever do…probably because they are built nothing like us. Their emotions and sensors are up and down and they are horndogs in disguise. As women, we have radar to listen and comprehend what a man is saying both through his verbal content as well as by watching him closely. What do I mean by closely? Well, have you ever sat next to a man or across from a man at a table while out enjoying one another’s company only to have a beautiful woman walk by, or one with a nice ass…and you suddenly see his eyes go from directly on you to directly on her ass? Yup, happened to me the other night. My expectations of this man went from high to low in about 3 seconds flat. After that, I couldn’t wait to leave. This man who must be used to being a playboy or a player obviously hasn’t been with a whole lot of real women in his life time that care about “him” …otherwise he would never treat a “real” woman with such disrespect. Guys do you know what you do to a woman when your eyes go from being on that particular woman to  staring at some strangers ass? My guess is probably not which would explain why you’ve been pricked, burned and scorned in your past. Shame on you for acting as such. In order to decode what’s inside a mans head, it’s best to know the reasons why he does these stupid things:   

Perhaps he’s not  feeling emotionally confident?  

A man who’s emotionally insecure would definitely play mind games with that woman that he’s wooing. He’s not exactly sure what he’s actually feeling so while he’s assessing himself, he would rather play mind games first. Most of the time to be honest here, they are so used to acting in such a manner that they don’t even realize that they do this, nor are they aware of it. Rather than allow the woman to see his emotional insecurity, he deems it best to puzzle her.  Yeah, good luck then trying to find the one true woman who would treat you well. You’ve just pushed her and her opinion of you right out the door.

He’s afraid that his vulnerability will be made obvious., Good God, then the cats out of the bag!

A man who isn’t sure whether he’s going to get serious with a girl or not will be confused when he’s faced with her – so in order to mask this uncertainty, he’ll play mind games in the mean time, act as if he doesn’t care, or look at his watch or phone to find a reason to leave shortly. He might also be playing this technique so that he’ll be able to see how well you’ll understand him.  It’s like a game of cat and mouse, and a game personally that I am not really into playing.
  
If women are advised to be all mysterious, then men are told to become intriguing. Confusing a woman will make her want to solve the puzzle that is set before her. Really? Ladies, no no no….this is no game, this is your heart he’s playing with. My advice, get out and don’t look back. Let this bad boy/play boy romp around some other womans playground. News flash…some women are quite sophisticated and graceful. Confidence is not in how a woman wears her hair,  it’s in how she carries herself and how she contributes to your needs. Sure it’s fun to be a little mysterious but at whose expense? If a man meets you for the first time and is interested, you should be able to tell, but sooo many times we leave wondering “what the hell?” Tell me that this has never happened to you?

This makes the whole dating game a lot more fun? Fun for who?

For as long as the girl is interested, her eyes will most surely be glued to the man. Women seemingly look at men who play mind games to be, not just interesting, but also intelligent beings. And you know how it is with women and intelligent men!   For me, the mind games see to be part mystery and part insecurity. I like to pick their brain and try to make my own determination about the man before I start throwing stones. A fun-loving man is ok, a tease is all right sometimes, but a cocky flamboyant man who thinks he is Gods gift to women and that he is all that and a bag of chips just hit record low in my book. Ladies dating is supposed to be fun and enjoyable. If every there is a time during a date when you feel hurt or like he just isn’t that into you…don’t sit it out thinking he will change, news flash….he won’t. Don’t waste your time by giving him an ego. He’s already got a big enough one now!

Men are open and honest,….Boys just like to tease.  

Guys, like boys, play mind games just for the heck of it. Since it’s a mind game, guys just want to test the woman and see how well she can stand his being cold or being romantic at times.  My suggestion? If a man starts off like this, he isn’t the type of man you want to be with at all. He is immature, and lacks character. You deserve much better!

He’s a macho stud muffin….  

A man who confuses or puzzles a woman is esteemed to be someone who’s a macho man. This is because, the more he plays these mind games with her, the more she seems to want to be with him! Women for some reason like the chase, and men love to chase….but God forbid we let them know that we are on to them and we partake in this game now…then it’s all over. They’ll back off nothing you’ve ever seen before. Why? You are no fun anymore. Don’t give into to this quite so quickly ladies….

They’re uncomfortable about being asked personal questions about their lives and their past.  

Try asking him about his past relationship and he’ll either deviate the topic elsewhere or he’ll totally turn silent. In my case, I couldn’t shut him up. Sometimes this is a man’s defensive mechanism because he just can’t stand the thought of being cornered and pressed with something. Coward? Maybe, my take…he’s acting like a child. Not all men are like this…there are many, many great ones out there…(please someone help me find one!)  If you meet a man and he is nice and you feel a connection, take it slow…men are like bears….you feed them too fast and they go back off into their cave and you don’t hear from them or see them again for weeks. Why? You’ve given them their full coarse meal in one night. Do not divulge your life’s worth in one evening. Throw out the bait and then reel them in slowly. Too much too fast and they’ll bite your bait and keep on swimming until they find something else interesting to wet their whistle. Oh sure they are down on one knee trying to woo you in, but ladies…don’t give too much too quickly or they will fall off the radar like grease lightening.

Can Plus Size Gals find True Love?

CAN PLUS SIZE GALS FIND TRUE LOVE?

 Listen,…Someone asked me this very question….can a plus size girl really find real love and happiness Michele,…really? Oh no she didn’t! This only happened once and I had to refrain from giving them a whole lot more than my “2 cents” in respect to this question. Plus size women are no different from anyone else. They have feelings, emotions, beauty, brains, and they too fall in love. Why is it then that people seem to think that plus size women are respected any less? Lets do the comparisons shall we? Plus size women date good, attractive men..the same men a regular size/shape woman would. Plus size women get married and have families. Plus size women are adored and cherished just as they are, without losing a single pound or changing anything about themselves…they love who they are inside out and upside down. One of my best friends was over weight most of her life. She was treated poorly by others, even by some of my friends. I began to see this more and more as I grew older and time passed. It became relevant to me very quickly what had to occur. Those friends that bad mouthed Diane had to go! What kind of ignorant people do such a thing? I couldn’t figure it out for the life of me. I was raised to treat everyone the same and respect everyone. Some people wouldn’t know how to respect someone much less understand the word “class” if it jumped up and bit them. The problem at hand is too many people bully others about their weight, and they have NO idea what harmful things can come of it. I’m sorry but I blame the parent, or guardian who raised these ignorant people. How would you like to be made fun of for something you can’t control? You wouldn’t…so why in the hell do people taunt others?

Diane’s issues were insecurities and stress, so she ate. Sound familiar at all? Years later and into high school she lost the weight (half of her body weight.) With her weight loss came far more problems at hand. If these people only knew now what they did and how much it tormented my friend, maybe they wouldn’t have done it. My friend lost years of a young ladies life no thanks to these dim-wit girls who thought what? that they were pretty and cool? Seriously? Those friends of mine who treated her poorly that didn’t deserved Diane’s respect much less mine now wanted to know who my “new friend” was? Yes, poor Diane looked like a million bucks now and was getting the attention of boys and gaining popularity. I couldn’t be more proud and happy for Diane,….As for those snub nose girls, you know the cheerleaders, and the popular click that thought they were “all that” ….Diane and I didn’t bother with them ever again. It’s coming up on my 30 year class reunion and still I have no desire to go back to a school where looks and beauty mattered more to these fake girls that thought they were all that, and to see these women whom I lost all respect for then at such a young age, and quite franly, still have NO respect for.  My story about Diane and myself always reminds us of the movie “Romy & Michele’s High School Reunion.”  My friends and loyalties remain with those whom loved me and whom still love and accept me, for me! I don’t need to put on a show to win the respect of anyone…and neither DO YOU!

Why is it that people judge others by their appearance most often? Why is it that they think that these women are pathetic because they are overweight? Why is it that they think they’ll never meet the man of their dreams? Diane did, and yes, she did put some of her weight back on, but I’ve never seen her happier!

 I’ve got news for you….these woman are the bigger person and I don’t mean in size. I mean in character, compassion and smarts! They could conquer the world! It’s all about confidence and attitude. What Diane didn’t quite get because she couldn’t see the forest through the trees what that she was beautiful all along…losing the weight never changed that. To this day she’ll probably never know how much I have looked up to her and how much I respect her and admire her for those strengths that I saw shining through each and every day. She has no idea how her smile and laughter brightened people’s days…. She has been my inspiration for so many years and one of the reasons that my dream of owning lingerie shops came to life full circle. It was my dream, but she was my inspiration. She was my example, she taught me to look within myself, she showed me that love and beauty like that cannot be found on the surface, regardless of your size…it comes from the heart and from within.

A Message to Plus Size Gals….You Can Find Love!

Listen gals, if you get nothing else from this blog, the one thing I hope you will take away from it is that dating, healthy relationships and love come in so many sizes. Never judge a book by it’s cover….otherwise you’ll miss a lot of glorious chapters within. Contrary to popular belief, plus size women do fall in love and get married. And it doesn’t take some complicated formula or set of rules to make it happen. It is so easy to get discouraged when you are plus size and single, so don’t compare yourself to anyone else. A lot of the dating advice that’s out there today would have you believe that you need to undergo a massive overhaul of your entire body and personality to meet a good guy who wants to go the distance with you, and it’s simply not true. Ladies, love who YOU are! As long as you make yourself #1 nothing else matters. You deserve and will find that happiness just like everyone else….it’s not the size of the women that matters, it’s a package…all the other things that a man looks for in a woman. So STOP thinking that because you are a few pounds heavier that you won’t land Mr Wonderful!

 There is nothing wrong with wanting to be your best self; as a matter of fact I encourage it. You have to feel good about “YOU!” So lose weight if you want to, go to therapy, get centered, and release your baggage, do whatever you feel like you need to do. Just know that meeting a man and falling in love does not depend on you changing something about yourself. If he is going to fall in love with you it’s going to be for all the right reasons. You just focus on being authentically you, going for what you want and living your life to the fullest. Why? Because you are beautiful just the way you are…and at the end of the day, isn’t that what really matters?

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How will I know..if he really loves me?

Both women and men for years and years have asked the same question that our grandparents asked: “How will I know?” Well, in today’s society, love is a two-way street. It takes two to make a relationship and two to break it. Most often, it is not one-sided. Love conquers all. Some will tell you that they stay clear from it and as Bonnie Tyler sang it best…. “It’s a Heartache” nothing but a heartache. So, the question at hand is this; How will I know if he really loves me? Well, don’t ask Whitney Houston, we all know how her relationship with Mr Bobby Brown turned out…my advice…follow your heart and listen to your gut. If something doesn’t feel right, it probably isn’t. I’ve taken the liberty to dig up some questions and answers to the top worries we have in relationships….I thought you might want to take a lookie.

 1.  If you observe his actions rather than his words, what have you learned?  You know they always say that actions speak louder than words. Is he nice, and kind and caring…or does he mistreat animals, talk down to the wait staff at restaurants when you go on dates, or act prejudice? Pay close attention…both men and women are silent threats….but actions sound our horn loud and clear. I have built-in radar. My kids always laughed at me when I said that while they were growing up, but I always knew when something didn’t feel right. Use your better judgement. If it feels wrong, it probably is. Like a leopard, sooner than later his true colors will show, and these are some serious spots you’ll want to stay clear from if this is the case.

 2.  Does he constantly treat you with respect or does he do so sparingly and inconsistently?  People who are truly in love know this… treating the one you love with respect is a full-time duty!

You cannot pick and choose the time and place to be kind, considerate, and respectful.  He is either respectful full-time or he is not.  It really is that simple.  He is not entitled to pick and choose!

 3.  In your relationship, are you treated as an equal partner?   Listen sister…you damn straight should be! When someone really loves you, they treat you as an equal partner – as a person who has an equal voice in your relationship. Your voice does matter…and if your partner thinks that it doesn’t….cut your losses and walk away now. If he makes the significant decisions in your relationship and relegates you to following his directives, then he really does NOT love you.  In the best loving relationships between a man and a woman, both share equally in the relationship.

 4.  When you are in love, you can’t imagine life without him!  So try this question on him – “Honey, do you love me more than life itself?  Can you imagine life without me?”  If his answer makes you wonder about the depth of his commitment to you, he doesn’t truly love you.  He is not the man you should commit your life to!

 5.  People who truly love each other say it and live it daily!  Does he tell you he loves you?  Does he do it without prodding?  Does his love for you come naturally, repeatedly, and frequently? The truth of the matter is this – when you love someone, you tell them.  And don’t fall for that old line that goes like this – “I don’t need to tell her I love her because she knows.”  This notion is just plain wrong!  If he doesn’t tell you, then your relationship is in trouble and in my own words… “Houston, We have a Problem!” My advice is don’t wait until it becomes an issue….watch for signs and talk about it.

 6.  I trust him more that life itself. Your trust in him is unequivocal and without hesitation.

Here is the question of the day – Is the man you purport to love a man you trust without question?  If the answer is no, then you need to reconsider the question, does he really love me? It’s not  hard to do…and this is not a multiple choice question. He either loves you or he doesn’t! End of discussion.

 7.  In the end, if he really loves you, he is always there for you – through the good times and the bad.  When somebody loves you, they love you through thick and thin.  They love you without conditions.  They love you when you are at your best and when you are at your worst.

When you are really in love, he makes you feel good and you do the same for him. You are stronger because he is a part of your life.  He makes you excited about where your relationship is going. It’s a positive reality!

 Remember…The measure of his love for you is always, in the end, about consistency.  When you love someone, you cannot pick and choose the times you show you care, when you express love, and when you demonstrate your affection for the one you love.  If his love for you is conditional, sporadic, and only comes when the times are good, you have to answer yourself this simple question – does he really and truly love me?  You decide….and that my friend….is HOW YOU KNOW!

 

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Is “your” business eco friendly?

Are you green? Is your business green? You know…..someone said not all that long ago that working from home can be a great alternative to a desk in a cubicle, but, as many people who try it will tell you, it isn’t as easy as slapping your laptop down on the dining room table. Says who? I work from every room in my house….and, while wearing a pair of PJ’s all day might sound nice, it doesn’t make the cut for many who work from home. Still, whether you embrace the romantic-sounding ideals of managing a home office or not, one thing remains true: It can be wayyyy greener than commuting to an office every day. In my case, my office is my home and my boutique, it’s web based. I can live or work anywhere on the globe. Furthermore, I save a great deal in a variety of ways an I recycle whatever I can, in fact, my staff all works from home.

 From cutting out the commute to scaling back on unnecessary paper or energy use, there are tons of ways that working from home can help make you just as happy, healthy, and successful as you might be working in an office, but it isn’t quite as simple as inserting recycled paper in your printer tray. You’ll want to take action to insure you create and maintain a healthy home working environment, and do things like schedule sufficient breaks, to help keep your mind and body moving throughout the day. My get moving is “yoga booty ballet” gets the engery pumping and my blood flowing! It makes me more productive!

 And, while it’s easy to concentrate on the environmental benefits of working from home, the mental and emotional ones are sometimes just as important, which is while it’s important to carefully consider a space in which you can comfortably, productively work (and not just an empty closet you don’t have anything else to do with). The benefits-environmental, emotional, or otherwise can be myriad, so if you hate commuting, if you’re most productive outside a traditional 9-5 schedule, or if you just got laid off, then working from home might be the answer. While some of the green changes you’d make by skipping the office are obvious like cutting your carbon output by not commuting and saving on disposable lunch containers there are dozens more choices, from desks to chairs to pencils, paper,etc., that you can turn into an opportunity to support eco-friendly products. I live now in Youngstown Ohio and I set my recycle bin out once a week for pick up! Help make a better tomorrow today! By working at home we are big on Go Green with Simply Delicious Lingerie! We want to give back…let’s all do our part to assist in making the world a better environment!

 

 

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Dating, Men and Disasters!

Dating Disasters to Stay Far, Far away from….Dating is already a nervous/exciting experience, and it can be quite it can be easy…. (yeah right…) or quite difficult . Although it’s supposed to be quite positive and exhilarating, it often turns out to be a lot of work that you weren’t anticipating at all. Everyone has had a bad date at one point or another and if you’ve been in the scene long enough you probably have a long string of stay far away psycho stories you can look back on. 

Here are 5 dating disasters to avoid from the get-go:

1. Mr. Stuck-on-Himself: You know the type that I’m talking about here, the guy who’s always staring at himself in the mirror, looking at his image as you walk by a window to catch his reflections, all while doing so in a slow,…… long studly strutted manner….the type that takes more time to get ready before a date than you do and is completely obsessed with himself and the “look.” He talks about himself all the time and he rarely even looks at you, and when he does it probably to tell you that you have something stuck in your teeth or mayo on the corner of your mouth from the last bite of the sandwich you just took…. He may have chosen you as his date simply because you make him look better,…..recognize the symptoms here?….Yes…,to this type man, I say “OH HELL NO!”Steer clear of this guy. He’s bad, bad news. While he may look good, there is no depth to his character and with all that humbleness and self loving going on of  himself, he will have very little time for you….and if I were you ladies, and if it were me in this situation,….. my feet would have already hit the floor and my ass would have been out of there long before the sandwich and the mayo!

2. Mr. Let’s-Get-Hitched: This guy is totally into you on the first date. He will smoother you, move in close to you, practically sit on top of you because he is so close, tell you all the things you’ve always wanted to hear, all while gazing deeply into your eyes and professing that destiny danced the day his eyes met your and he’s found his one true love,…finally! No matter how nice it all seems at first, if a guy is ready to marry you on the first date, or mentions the “L” word…..you’ve got some really big problems, and he’s psycho! Yep, there is definitely something wrong. He may have emotional or psychological problems (ya think?) ….that you’re not ready to deal with. Perhaps he’s looking for someone he can simply just use. Be cautious if he’s coming on too strong, too soon.

3. Mr. Addicted: It should go without saying yet so many women are still making this mistake. Avoid the man with an addiction to drugs, alcohol, gambling, porn, etc. If he’s addicted to something, there’s no room in his life for you. Don’t think you can change him and don’t believe him when he promises he’ll stop…that’s an illness, a disease. This is will destroy what may seem like the good life, or the simple, carefree sort of  life style that you have right now and turn it completely upside down in the future!There’s a song for this one gals….”Hit the Road Jack”…and don’t ya come back no more, no more, no no no more!

4. Mr.Ummmm I’m-Not-Sure: A man who is indecisive can be a big problem as well. It’s nice if he’s thinking about you and your needs first but when he can’t make a single, simple decision on his own, without asking you or anyone else around if that’s OK with them, you know to watch out. A stern man doesn’t feel the need to seek approval from anyone….he is confident and he knows! If he asks you what he should eat, what he should drink, what should I wear, when should I go…..and he answers every question with “I don’t know” then you’ll be in for a long road ahead if you continue to see this guy. Seriously ladies, if this doesn’t have RED FLAG all over it….. don’t lock horns with this fellow…get out while you’re ahead, this bull is on his way to disaster!

5. Mr. I’m-Going-to-Change-You: If your date starts off trying to change you or convert you to his religion, for joining a club of some sort, becoming some sort of crazy activist, or anything like this at all….your feet should already be five steps in front of you and out the door! You need to be with a man who loves, accepts and appreciates you for who you are, as I would say “this is it, take it or leave it” kinda gal….not one who tries to make you what he wants you to be, why??? For the image? If he’s controlling or demanding on the first date, can you imagine what a life with him would be like? If you go on date two, let me know, I’ll give you the rope, because by date three you’ll want to hang something!

If you find yourself on a first date with one of the above, get the hell out, run for your life…..don’t look back, keep running! Don’t think you can change him, don’t make excuses and don’t think you can “deal with it” for now because “I can get him to change”….it’s not going to happen. These guys are all the kind of trouble you don’t need, in fact, I’d much prefer a double root canal verse crossing paths with a whack job like this….Giddy up sister….go find a man who you really deserve, and who really deserves you! You don’t need some Rico Suave hauling your cookies all over town treating you like his sidekick….if he isn’t willing to put you or your needs first, and it’s “all about him?”……he needs to make a change….

 Expressed brilliantly by Michael Jackson- I’m Starting With The “Man In….The Mirror”…I’m asking him to change his ways….and no message could have been any clearer…..If you wanna make the world a better place…..Take a look at yourself, and…… make the ….Change!!!

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Marriage…..Making it Work!

Why do marriages fall apart? With the divorce rate as high as it is today, you must do everything possible to strengthen and protect your marriage. You can’t always have your way or give in to your feelings. You have to discipline yourself to do the right thing. You must do what is in the best interest of your marriage. Here are some fundamental guidelines that can make a Don’t always try to be right. You cannot be right and be married. It is always better to do the right thing than to be right. Trying to always be right will doom the future of your bond. The powerful chemistry that you once felt will be diluted. Don’t you want to keep the flame burning? That’s what makes a marriage work. Surprise them, spoil them, and shower them with little comments here and there that “wow” them! It reminds them that you care. The small things “do” matter!

 Never threaten to leave or divorce. Things change between you once you speak these words and its hard to correct. Even if you’re angry, don’t threaten divorce. They take it as such and after a while, they just sit back and wait for you to finally “just do it!” From experience, I’d say don’t mess with this. Keep your yap shut!

 Be quick to say, I’m sorry. It amazes me how rapidly a couple is strengthened in love by sincerely saying they are sorry.Don’t expect your spouse to believe all the same principles you do. You’re never ever going to have everything in common, including values and principles. Respect their differences and them. Love them unconditionally. This is true love, regardless if you have been married for 1 year or 50.

 Build your spouse up. Freely give encouragement and praise. Men love having their ego stroked….and really, how difficult is that to do? We already see them as our “Superman!” Remember it is better to give than to receive. Most people are starving for kind and uplifting words. Don’t let the person you love fall into this category.

 Always side with your spouse in disagreements outside of the marriage, even when they are wrong. Respect  your marriage. Give your spouse the message that You can always count on me. I’m here for you.

 Learn to appreciate the things your spouse does, and respond by being verbal often so that they know how much you really do appreciate it!  Don’t take your spouse for granted. I sure did. I was young and stupid. I was like a slave driver….no wonder he became so unhappy.Thank them for the things they do for the marriage. Cooking, cleaning the house, and bringing home a paycheck are worthy of frequent appreciation. I just wanted the credit cards and new houses, cars, etc. Why? This is how my mother was and I guess I followed in her footsteps because that was all that I knew. Sometimes, we need to pay more attention!

 Try to never go to bed angry with your spouse. We all do this at some point, but you shouldn’t!At the very least, learn to allow a truce between you until you can figure things out. Your marriage is more important than the conflict. Communication is KEY KEY KEY! How often do I say this? Start and end each day by telling your spouse that you love them. Let your eyes and your embrace convey the same message. huge difference……

 Try to get along! If you don’t you’ll be like total strangers that should never have even dated let alone got married!  If you are only dating someone and reading this article and you can relate…you need to do a BIG self-check on if your relationship is heading int he right direction, otherwise, the bottom with fall out and “not so nice” will be the language you use! Be nice to one another, no threats,…..and no bad mouthing!

 

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Laughter…It’s Good for the Soul!

Have you ever just been driving down the road, sort of like on a “Sunday Drive” as my grandmother used to call it, but it was actually Thursday and saw something so funny that it made you not only laugh your ass off, but you had to turn the car around to make certain that you read it correctly? First of all, I never leave home without camera or cell phone w/camera in hand because you NEVER know what you might see,…and I want to be the one to capture the moment and have a hilarious story to go along with it. It happens to me all the time,…then again it honestly doesn’t take much at all to get a smile or a laugh out of me, nonetheless…I saw this sign recently and had to share it.

 As dirty and perverted as I can be sometimes, I still try to remain a true lady in every sense of the word and show you, my viewers that I am classy….ahhh, but “I” am only human and I laugh at everything. Laughter is good for the soul, so do it as much and as often as you can! Sometimes I crack myself up…oh I laugh at myself a lot! My kids think I’m nuts sometimes, but hey…if it as Sheryl Crow once sang; “If it Makes You Happy”

 I love the song but I have to ask and Sheryl wants to know?…Why the hell are you so sad? No one should be sad…It takes more muscles to frown that it does to smile! So listen; to all of you sad saps that need a good kick in the pants, and a strong dose of reality…. take it from me…a cancer survivor and a fighter…Life is what you make of it. Buck up little fellow it’s a winding road. No time to feel down and blue…be happy, unlike many, you’re still breathing. Life is good!

 After all….Humor is infectious. The sound of roaring laughter is far more contagious than any cough, sniffle, or sneeze. When laughter is shared, it binds people together and increases happiness and intimacy. In addition to the domino effect of joy and amusement, laughter also triggers healthy physical changes in the body. Humor and laughter strengthen your immune system, boost your energy, diminish pain, and protect you from the damaging effects of stress. Best of all, this priceless medicine is fun, free, and easy to use.

Laughter is a powerful antidote to stress, pain, and conflict.

 Nothing works faster or more dependably to bring your mind and body back into balance than a good laugh. Sometimes I laugh so hard I cry…like a few weeks ago when my friend Cindy came to visit me and we went to this dive bar and had a few too many…when it was time to leave I got into the wrong car…hey, in the dark, they all look the same! We laughed in the parking lot until I thought I was going to wet my pants.

 Humor lightens your burdens, inspires hopes, connects you to others, and keeps you grounded, focused, and alert.With so much power to heal and renew, the ability to laugh easily and frequently is a tremendous resource for surmounting problems, enhancing your relationships, and supporting both physical and emotional health.

In case you didn’t already know it:

 

• Laughter relaxes the whole body. A good, hearty laugh relieves physical tension and stress, leaving your muscles relaxed for up to 45 minutes after.
• Laughter boosts the immune system. Laughter decreases stress hormones and increases immune cells and infection-fighting antibodies, thus improving your resistance to disease.
• Laughter triggers the release of endorphins, the body’s natural feel-good chemicals. Endorphins promote an overall sense of well-being and can even temporarily relieve pain.
• Laughter protects the heart. Laughter improves the function of blood vessels and increases blood flow, which can help protect you against a heart attack and other cardiovascular problems.

  Here’s is what made me so silly….sometimes it’s something as little as this to make you sit back and really take notice that life is good, and only then do you realize that laughter is good for the soul!

 

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