Why Some Men are Inconsiderate Dating Material

In relationships, there is a saying that goes like this; “Never make someone a priority when they only see you as an option.” If you don’t know what this means in the real world, you need a reality check. Relationship between two people are just that…between two people. What happens though when one of those two people seem to care more, share more, and make themselves more available and the other only seems to care about what works best for him/her? This person is selfish, needy and a real hot mess…but you won’t see that on the outside. This is the type of person that hides his/her real feelings and often acts like their life is peachy. They build up friendships, business relationships, and anything else to appease you and make you think that they are all that and a bag of chips. In retrospect, it very well maybe pretty, like someone who lies on their resume to land the right job… BUT this is a relationship, not a job, therefore, it’s time to communicate openly. You are either in it to win it and make it work, or you need to get out. Relationships are unique, but they require a lot of listening to build and grow. How can you determine if you are dating an inconsiderate man who surely isn’t good dating material? Time….give it time. 

When you begin dating someone, everything is so new, and so for the first few months it is ok to not open up and to not share as much, however, if you continue to see this person you need to make some changes. Most women that I know want a man who is attentive to them and to their needs. I’m not stating that he has to be at her ‘beck and call’  twenty-four hours a day and seven days a week, but he does need to make plans with her early in the week and set plans in advance. Most women that I know, and men too, want to have a planned schedule. I am not one to sit around and wait for someone to do something. I like to know on Monday what I am doing for the weekend. So what does a girl do if she happens to be dating someone like Mr. It’s All About Me? 

 If this man does not respect your time and always puts his priority before yours, he is selfish and inconsiderate and it is very difficult to date someone as such. However, if you care for him and you know that he reciprocates your feeling, you should give your relationship a chance. If there is a chance of love, then there is always a room for change and improvement. Here are a few things that you can do to handle your selfish and inconsiderate fella. 

The first thing you need to do is talk to him…Men don’t think clearly like women do, so put your mind frame in theirs for a moment if you will? Try and explain how his actions impact your feelings. If necessary, use examples from one of the previous occurrences to make him realize how selfish his behavior was and how much it hurt you. If there is something he does in particular like being late on dates or not calling you up on time, talk about it clearly. Tell him how his words and actions hurt you.

You do not have to ask him for justifications or reasons for that behavior but try to reach out to him as much as you can. If he doesn’t understand anything you tell him, stop talking and start pretending. If he hurts you, make it obvious through your actions. Treat him with indifference and ignorance.You don’t have to hate him but just pretend that you do when he is around. Show some selfishness in your behavior. If he doesn’t show up on time for a date, leave a message and go out on your own. Since you have never acted this way, he is bound to notice the change in your behavior.

Let him step into your shoes and understand how you feel when he acts selfish by prioritizing everything before you. It will help him to relate to your feelings and he will probably start paying more attention to his actions and that might bring about a gradual change.Only the relationship can work when both of the people make efforts to make it work and the effort should come from within the heart. If you care enough for your mate, then make the effort. This person might feel that a relationship is not a place where efforts need to be made. He might think that relationships work on their own but the truth is that they don’t. Every relationship needs a certain amount of efforts and he has to understand that his contribution is equally important. If it continues to be all about  him, him, him…it’s time to find someone who will love and appreciate you for you, you you! 

When you invest time and energy into something, you expect quick results. However, this is a person, not an object. He is a person so he needs some time to undergo emotions, realize his mistakes and then hopefully make changes. This is not something that can happen in a day. You will have to be persistent in your efforts to make him more considerate. If he is just a total moron and won’t change, or does not treat you with respect or make you first, he may not be that into you. Once or twice I’d say ok…maybe it was an oversight, but if it continues for months, it’s time to say so long. If this is the case, and I have just described you…don’t look at this as having been wasted days, weeks, or even months on this person…look at it as a tool, a learning curve for what you really do want in a man so that when the time is right, you can find the perfect fit for you. Every woman surely does deserve her ‘happy ever after.’ Do not settle. There is no “my way” or ‘your way” it has to be a combination of your efforts combined to make it work. 

A dOzEn tHiNgS To dO WiTh YoUr HoNey…

1. Go to the Park

Go with your honey to a park nearby. Swing on the swings like when you were a kid. Remember childhood memories and what part of those memories made you a better person today! Share stories! I’ve got lots of them!!

2. Watch the Sunset

Find a great spot in your area to catch the perfect sunset together. Don’t have one? It’s time then for a ‘road trip!’ Find the perfect place to watch a sunset. Mine is at the beach with my toes in the sand and a good glass of wine in my hand. This is one of my favorite things to do and guess what? It doesn’t cost a dime to do it.

3. Pack a Picnic Lunch and Enjoy Time with Your Honey…

Throw a picnic lunch together and find a shady spot to enjoy the day with your honey! Talk, laugh and make memories…its the little things that we women remember the most.

4. Play Board Games

Bring out the old favorites like Clue, Monopoly or Scrabble, or find a new board game to play. Someone has to rule Park Ave…might as well be YOU! None of these sound good? How ’bout some naked Twister?

5. Play Card Games

My personal favorite!  Have a card night. Don’t forget the wine and snacks to pass, that makes for even more fun! There are a lot of fun card games, but if this gets boring? How about a little strip poker? Now all bets are OFF! Make new fun playful memories as the layers literally unfold…

6. Have a Scavenger Hunt

Have a fun night out scavenger hunt. Think of some creatives fun ideas and work your magic! Making memories with your friends or that special someone is a special thing to do…and please… do remember the camera! Photos make the memories come alive years after the thrill and stories are gone. Loser has to make dinner for the winner!

7.How About Throwing a B.Y.O.E. Party?

This stands of Bring Your Own Everything. Guests are encouraged to bring food and drinks to share. Good times are fun times…and no one should get stuck in the kitchen making it all happen so help a friend out and have a BYOE party full of fun and good times with your close friends! It’s a fun way to meet new people who your honey shops with, golfs with, works with, etc., and a great way to get out and have some fun on a weekend evening!

8. Have a Bonfire or Campfire

Make s’mores, cuddle and drink wine by the camp fire and reminisce about good times and future plans with your honey.

9. Go Get Some Ice Cream

Hit up your local ice cream shop and indulge in your favorite dish! Get that sweet tooth craving and march on out to your local ice cream shop. Not feeling like hitting up the local ice cream store…then go to the market and pick up some ice cream, cherries, whip cream and take it home to make body sundaes with your honey…that is romantic and erotic!

10. Make Your Honey a Romantic Dinner

Plan a romantic, candlelight dinner for your spouse or loved one. Listen guys..romance need not be super expensive! It has been said that it is the thought that counts and how much time your guy/lady put into the thought process of the evening…those are the memories that you will endure and always keep close to your heart.

11. Try Grilling Something New…Get Sassy with some BBQ!

Try a new grilling recipe…every woman is addicted to Pinterest, so find something fun to make and give it a whirl! Add a little zing to your lifestyles and spice it up. It’s time to take this relationship to a new level.

12. Go to the Zoo

It has been said that it makes us feel good when we vent, and by vent I mean; go talk to the animals! Zoos are fairly inexpensive if you pack your own lunch and avoid the unnecessary extras. Make a fun day out of it! You may even make some new fury friends too! Yes go to the zoo, and then go home and kick it up a notch by getting a little wild in the bedroom…Be the hunter and allow her to be your tigress…she will slip into something sensual and erotic for some bedroom fun from Simply Delicious Lingerie! This will spice up any night and as a good friend would say…top it off with making some hot stinky sweaty monkey love!

 

Lingerie is beautiful, but it was made to come off…

 

Simply Delicious Lingerie & Simply Luscious Lingerie;

Simply Delicious Lingerie is an online boutique specializing in sexy lingerie. Our lingerie is the aphrodisiac of taste, and represents beauty and luxury at an affordable price. At Simply Delicious Lingerie we’ve personally selected a variety of sexy lingerie just for you and all of your sensuous rendezvous. At Simply Luscious Lingerie our motto is; Bring Sexy Home! Our Niche at SLL is our wholesale plus size lingerie membership club. *see rules and regulations. We sell accessories, Bordello shoes, Pleaser shoes, garter sets, bridal lingerie, bridal undergarments, bustier, honeymoon lingerie, wedding day lingerie, wedding garter sets, wedding petticoats, affordable plus size lingerie, Halloween costumes, sexy plus size costumes,  fantasy lingerie, matching lingerie sets, men’s underwear, men’s lingerie, sexy sets, matching sets, wholesale lingerie, sexy thigh high stockings, satin pajamas, plus size sleepwear, adult novelty items and sex swings including the Whip Smart Pleasure Swing and our newest swing…the Fetish Fantasy Yoga Sex Swing.  Our mission is to take your sexy lingerie needs to the next level of comfort, intrigue, romance and sophistication. For more information or to place an order today please visit us; www.SimplyDeliciousLingerie.com  www.SimplyLusciousLingerie.com

Relationships and Trust

If you would have asked me several months ago or even a few years ago what I found most intriguing in men and being in a relationship my answer might have been something off the chart…why? Probably because I had such high expectations of what I wanted in a man and how I thought a relationship was supposed to work. It may have also been because I hadn’t been in a relationship for a lengthy enough time to give a good man a chance.

In the last several months, I’ve come to the realization that there is no perfect relationship, rather relations that are nourished with communication, and kindness. I’ve always been one who would say that if you are worth it, a man will do whatever it takes to make you happy. The truth is, it is not just about me or you. All relationships begin as a friendship and with the right nutrients and enough air to breathe on their own, they blossom over time into something that can be the start of a whole new chapter in one’s life.

 Get to know each other really well. Learn about each other’s biggest dreams and worst nightmares. We all have them, and our feelings do matter.  talk about your ideal plans for your life, where you see yourself in a few years? As mush as this doesn’t matter to many people, it is significant to some people, so lay your cards on the table. Discuss what your moral beliefs are. If you’re religious, discuss those beliefs now. Talk about how you both were raised. Share family stories that provide knowledge of how they’ve made you a better person. Learning about each other, your pasts and ideas on life is very important. Don’t carry baggage (mostly drama) into a new relationship. That is a BIG No-No, so clear the slate now!

Too many of us have preconceived notions about what relationships should or shouldn’t be. When you think a relationship should be a certain way, and yours isn’t, frustration sets in…and we all know that frustration is the number one thing that eats away at a relationship. Another ‘not so good’ sign is if you’re trying hard to make improvements and changes, but you don’t see the same level of effort on your partner’s part. It’s not an 80/20 relationship, it has to be a 50/50. There has to be some sense of “we’re trying really hard, both making changes and that’s making a difference.’” Otherwise, you will beat yourself into the ground trying to make this person happy and in the end you will only be exhausted, and no one needs a relationship where the work is harder than the enjoyment/satisfaction of what you both share.

Has your relationship gone down hill? They say that often daily routines are one of the culprits and I agree. As their responsibilities grow and roles expand, they say that couples have less and less time and energy for each other. My non-professional advice? You have to make the time, it’s really just that simple. Nothing is so important that a 5 second text message stating that you miss him/her won’t put a smile on your partners face. A brief phone call s that they can hear your voice and know that you miss them and care is all one needs to make them smile and understand that although you are swamped with work, or chores or even family stuff that you care about them and wanted to show it. I’m not stating that your relationship is going down hill fast because of romance, but if may be, that too can be fixed. Surly this doesn’t mean that the passion is gone for good. With a little planning and playfulness, you can boost passion.

With Simply Delicious and Simply Luscious Lingerie you can go from fizzle to sizzle with our sexy lingerie and our bedroom costumes. Men love affection and getting their egos stroked, so ladies, you may have to kick it up a notch…and fellas, we women love being told that we look pretty, or that we smell good, etc.

Treat him or her as you’d like to be treated. In simple terms; ‘be nice!’ It’s not fair for one person to set boundaries and then not be expected to keep the same ones. If you want his/hers respect you are going to have to earn it. Treat them the way that you’d like to be treated.

What destroys a relationship? Jealousy has been said to be the culprit in the destruction in relationships as well as marriages. Jealousy is more about how secure and confident you are with yourself and your relationship (or the lack thereof.) Jealousy is the root of all evil. Truth be told; you can’t make your partner feel more secure” or “change their self-confidence.” This has to be up to them to do on their own. Jealousy can weigh down a relationship because it shows lack of trust, and sweetheart, without trust, you have no relationship at all.

If you think that this is untrue, come down off that cloud in La-La-Land and get with the realities of your own insecurities and stop blaming your partner for this one. Honestly, there are so many people who are very good at the blame game and not so good at pondering how they can become better partners. Instead, they demand that their partners make  changes. This is a two-way street and no one ever said that being in a relationship/marriage would be easy. The problem at hand is this; too many people give up and don’t want to try. Divorce rates have skyrocketed over the past decade or two and why? Lack of trust, jealousy, and communication. If I have said it once I’ve said it a gazillion times. Talk, talk, talk to your partner.

 

Here’s how to decide if you are in the right relationship;

1) You don’t fear it, you go with the flow and enjoy the ride

2) You don’t snoop into their lives, especially their past

3) You don’t hide your relationship from people

4) You don’t act superior to them

5) You don’t lose yourself in the relationship, it’s NOT all about YOU

6) You don’t expect that person to change, you accept them JUST THE WAY THEY ARE!!

7) You don’t take, take, take

8) You miss them when they are away

9) You don’t smother them wanting to always be together, you give them space

10) You TRUST them!

 

Dating Sites…Looking for L-O-V-E or L-U-S-T?

Dating sites seem to be the route to take these days to finding love,and there are plenty of them out there to choose from…but what it if you don’t desire love, rather lust? What if you are just seeking a lover, a NSA kind of guy? What if you just want a ‘boy toy’ if you will? Someone to give you an exclusive membership to their very own pleasure ride in the sky…their personal ‘mile high club?’ A man who you don’t want to be married to rather just share your private and alone time with a few times a month on intimate dinners, weekend getaways and travel? Then you go your separate ways until your next encounter or get together? 

When I think about meeting a man and dating him, or being his lover, I think about two people, at first strangers coming together to form a certain sense of harmony and really connecting on a variety of levels. When I think about a relationship whether it be long term or short term, the questions is not how long will it last rather, how good do these two people mesh together each time the unite? It takes two special people coming together and feeling a connection, first via emails, texts, and the phone and then in person. Many things go into this to make all the good things unfold, but oh if you plan this out and together make goals and commitments of some sort it will all fall into place and it very well can be a win/win for both of you. What is this you ponder? It’s called synchronicity.

Need me to spell it out for you? It is the phenomenon of meaningful things happening together in such a way that they are creatively linked, although one thing did not cause the other. It is as if there is a pattern to the events that is showing you that you are going in the right direction…and the right direction is always good. When you put forth effort and enthusiasm, it shows you are genuine and sincere. You’re not playing games, you’re both adults and deserve to be treated as such. 

So many things go into the full equation of asking; “Is he really the one that will make me happy?” or “Is he going to be discreet and respect me?” If he is the right guy for you, then getting together should be like a walk in the park. Don’t sweat the small stuff…that’s what I tell my friends. Making a connection with someone is not easy at all, in fact when you meet on line it can be even more difficult because you’ve viewed a profile and determined that you like or dislike him or her. If you do like them you proceed to get to know more about them because there is some sort of an attraction and there is so much more to an individual than simply their profile alone. As long as you are completely honest and have excellent communication skills all will be fine, not to worry. Just be YOU! You will find everything falling into place as if it was ‘meant to be’. If there are obstacles now and then, they will be overcome; generally, your path will be smooth because you both went into this type of relationship with the same expectations not only as friends, but lovers. 

Not every chance encounter is magical. There may be some negative affects to meeting someone; sometimes you may meet the right person at the wrong time. Synchronicity is not there and if you try to force a relationship to happen, it will hit a brick wall, and ouch, you don’t want that! My strong non-professional advice would then be that should this happen to you; you’d better to let him go. If he is your Mr. Right, he will come back into your life again later, when it is the right time for both of you. I always say ‘don’t push fate’ it has to happen on its own. 

 

You may be looking for weeks or months for someone special and not find him, then one day you may be getting ready to close out a membership for a dating site and see a message from someone and decide to read it…it very well could be that one message that caught your eye was all that it took to produce a wonderful new friendship and passion in your life. Erotic and exotic fun may have just hit a new level. Your connection may just be explosive and then you can really kiss the dating sites goodbye!

 

 

 

7 Daily Doses to a Healthy Relationship

      Practice Healthy Relationship Habits…

•   Respect and being Respected. Life and relationships are about meeting in the middle. I’ve always said that it takes two to make a relationship work and two to make it fail. Trust me, I know this first hand. Relationships can endure a lot of bumps in the road if you respect one another. Relationships are about finding your own inner happiness and then spreading the love with your partner or mate. Before you can love you have to love and respect yourself. The two go hand in hand. Respect is not something that one should have to think about in a relationship, you just DO IT! How so? Little ways…call her and say hello out of the blue, text her in the middle of the day and tell her that you’re thinking about her/him. Pick up her dry-cleaning. Surprise her by cooking dinner because you know darn well that she had a rough day at work. Listen to her when she speaks, and really pay attention to her thoughts, wants and needs.

•   Trusting and being Trusted. I’m a shoot from the hip kinda gal and that’s how you should be too! If you are not, you need to be a straight shooter. Trust is the great equalizer in a good relationship; without it there is no good! A good foundation in a healthy love relationship is built on trust and trust must be earned. 

Holding back on the truth about how you feel, only telling part of the story, fudging on what your wants and needs are to your partner slowly erodes the trust in your relationship. Total honesty brings about awesome trust. Do all that you can to achieve it and have a relationship that can endure it all.

•   Always go that extra mile. Don’t wait for her to do it- you do it…and by it, I mean anything to make her smile. Motivate each other to be the best you can be. Be inventive in coming up with ways to inspire your love life. Never stop. NEVER! Push the romance envelope with a getaway in the mountains for a long weekend or if you are anything like be, be a toes in the sand kinda gal. Have fun, be creative and enjoy life. Life is a precious gift, don’t waste it pondering negative thoughts, do what makes you happy and your partner happy. Remember, you may not be perfect, but you are perfect in her eyes, and in retrospect that’s really all that matters now isn’t it?

•   Agree to Agree. It is important to understand that relationships seldom feel easy; however, a relationship is less of a struggle when two people agree to do whatever it takes to make it workable. Building a solid foundation is key folks. Without it, like quicksand you will sink and your relationship will not survive. This does not mean giving it your best shot and if it doesn’t work, you move on. Don’t be a quitter. This means doing whatever it takes!

•   Want your romance life to last a lifetime? Ok…2 Words:

Make Memories; How about creating a scrapbook of love? Don’t call me cheesy here…it’s a great way to remember all the wonderful things that you did together and a way to go back and look at your relationship whenever you need a reminder of good times. Stash your memories of special greeting cards, matchbook covers that remind you of great visits, snapshots, a pressed flower, ticket stubs, a handwritten love poem, a funny, thoughtful valentine. 

Celebrate spending time together. Do things that make the two of you happy. Memories tell stories and stories are passed down from generation to generation, so give everyone something to talk about.

•   Spread a little sunshine. That’s right, sunshine. What does this mean? Don’t hover over one another. Make them happy! Give each other permission to their own space. You should have your friends as a couple but you should also have a few close friends that you like to hang out with one night a week, or month. These could be life long friends or even coworkers. It is healthy to give one another space. No one wants to be smothered. Relationships need to grow, so feed them. Give her a daily dose of love. Nothing grows well in the shade! If you are forever in your loved one’s pocket, you can stifle the love so freely given. Even love partners need time alone. You need space. I know I need mine. Too much togetherness is not good. Go out shopping with your friends, or to a ball game or concert. This shows that you can and speaks volumes of trust.

 

•   Are you pushing your partner’s hot buttons? If not…TRY IT! …But push them spontaneously. I’m not talking about the ones you shouldn’t push. Push the turn-on buttons. No better way than to every now and again crank up the heat in the bedroom or any room for that matter. Know what delights and pleases your partner and push those buttons, and do it most often. Does he like thigh highs and garters under a trench coat? Does he like your sensual perfume on his pillow case? Find what makes your partner, lover, mate tick and load him up with your ammunition. Knowing what makes him or her tick and turning them on at the right times is KEY to a fun, happy and most desired and sexual relationship. Remember, you’ve made it this far, so remind her that she is everything in your eye. Something tells me that you got a groovy kind of love…

 

 

 

 

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Relationship = Express Yourself

You don’t need diamond rings…or eighteen karat gold…fancy cars that go very fast…you know they never last, no, no. So, if we don’t need all of those things, what is it that we do need to make us happy? Long stem roses are the way to your heart, but he needs to start with your head…what if you’re dating a real jackass and he hasn’t a clue about what it is that you want or need? Sister…as Madonna sang…You’ve got to “Express Yourself!” It’s time to get verbal. Yes body language works most of the time, but if you’ve got a man that is not reading between the lines, he may be missing the entire entree, so feed him for heaven sakes! If you don’t tell him, he won’t know what it is that you truly want, need or desire!

Keep in mind, not all men are the ripest apples on the tree when it comes to dating and relationships. Some of these guys are great but they just need some nurturing.Relationships don’t just happen! What you need is a big strong hand to life you to a higher ground. Does he make you feel like you’re the queen of his throne? If he doesn’t then it’s time to move on.

But remember,…in all relationships, especially new ones, they require work and care to endure and, with time, to evolve in ways that keep both partners fulfilled. I call this the labor of love. Such labors are well worth the effort, though, since a lasting marital relationship is the most rewarding bond in life.

My non-professional advice? Put your needs first! What will make your relationship work? There are a few things that are in my opinion that need to occur and will most definitely be sensual and scream happiness together;

1) Have a quickie! Fast sex may seem unromantic, but short bursts of passion keep you bonded because they release dopamine and oxytocin, two chemicals that trigger loving feelings. This also spices it up a little!

2) Respect Your Relationships Privacy; keep this in mind- If a couple seems overly happy, they may be trying to compensate for insecurities. We all need our own space, so do give it to one another. 

3) Laying a Solid Foundation; Women and men also need to be equals in their relationship. Communication is KEY…without it, you have no relationship, and what you do have will sink like quick sand.

4) Be Compatible!!!

To be compatible means to be able to exist together in harmony. However, for you and your partner to be able to exist together or complement each other, you need three major characteristics:

(a) Contentment and enjoyment in each other’s company.

(b) Sharing each other’s goals and aspirations.

(c) Acting responsibly towards each other.

If you are content with each other and love your life together, you’ll love doing things together which you both enjoy. If you don’t communicate and talk about it, you won’t know what one another is trying to say, so for the love of God, express yourself!

Why Red is the #1 Color of SEXY

If there is one thing that get a man’s attention it’s a women who is wearing the color red. Its certainly not a color that should be wore every day but it is a color that gets a mans attention. Red lipstick, red nail polish red shoes, red dress? What about red lingerie? For so long now it has been said that a lady in red is more attractive than a lady in any other color. It truly can be said that women who do wear red lingerie says a lot about who they are as a woman. Red is the color of passion, of blood, of fire. Designers claim that red is the perfect color for romance. Red lingerie arouses an entirely different kind of passion  and it says the night on fire with passion. Teasing and tantalizing, yet a color spoken sold bold that it goes where no other color goes.

Does the color of what a woman is wearing catch a mans eye? Men see red and think of sex. Hot, passionate, and steamy. Lingerie is now and has forever been a seducer…oh but the color can make the difference. Why are men attracted to women in any color lingerie? Well, lingerie makes a statement. Any woman who wears it whether it be a sexy matching set (bra and panty,) babydoll, teddy,chemise, etc., seems to send a signal to their partner, mate, spouse that says “I am confident and feel soooo sexy.” At that point, honestly, men can’t get enough! Lets go over a few of the red pieces that I’ve listed below and why they are so sexy, how they define who you are as a woman, or in their eyes, a goddess and what makes them so turned on that they’ll see fireworks in the bedroom!

Red Panties

Red lace panties, how hot. Perhaps the very definition of hot. If you can put these on without bursting into flames then you very possibly have an asbestos ass. Perhaps if the red lace panties aren’t doing it for you, how about these red ruffle panties? Ruffles are a favorite among many men who wear lingerie because of their feminine connotations and their inherent prettiness. Red panties are the starting point for any red lingerie ensemble. They set the tone and the mood for the rest of the outfit, and they need only conform to your particular desire.

Red Stockings

Red stockings can be obtained in many styles, red nylon stockings, red fishnet stockings, red stockings and suspenders, they’re all on the menu for the man who wears lingerie. Red hosiery is the easiest item to find of all the red lingerie options we discuss here, because, for some reason, red doesn’t appear to be subject to the laws of ‘Valentine’s Day and Christmas’ which bra and panty sets seem to obey. Topping your red lingerie ensemble off should like putting the icing on the cake, and let’s face it, all men love the sweets.

Red Bra & Panty Set

This is a simple statement. When choosing a bra and panty set always make certain that they match ladies. The bra and panty set can be lace, or satin. Cotton doesn’t scream sexy, nonetheless it isn’t a good pick in the lingerie line, however, I’m not at all saying that you can’t wear it. Cotton lingerie is rarely found. It just doesn’t scream sexy, it screams comfort and when you are with your special someone comfort is the last thing that you are seeking…you want erotic passion. A bra and panty set so simple can drive a man wild with desire.

Remember, always pick out the lingerie for YOU first and foremost. Yes, we want our partners, mate, or spouse to love it, but honey, they don’t have to wear it…you do. 1) you want to select something that makes you feel like a million bucks. Babydoll lingerie and chemises are quite popular and our selections are trendy. Never wear it too tight, buy a larger size if you must to look and feel comfy, trust me, you’ll still look and feel sexy. 2) Confidence shines through when you feel great, so select something that fit’s your attire well, that accentuates your figure, eyes, skin tone and hair color.Your confidence comes from within and as Shakira sang once, “Underneath Your Clothes” ….there’s an endless story….this is SO TRUE!

Finding Your Happy Ever After…

For the longest time most everyone I know has had their own idea about what the right person would be like, and by ‘right person’ I am talking their mate. We search and we search and often we come up empty handed…but why? Most of us have the tendencies to see the birds-eye-view. Hey folks, it’s time for a change of scenery!

What is your version of ‘happy ever after’ really? The men/women that we search out appear to really have their shit together but as we dig deeper we find that they aren’t what we anticipated, in fact, in most cases our eyes were deceived and we were not getting the true reading of them at all. Were we only seeing what we wanted to see or did we build them up so much that everything seemed impeccable?Are you looking for that perfect someone to share your life with? Finding that elusive ideal mate doesn’t come that easily for most of us because we haven’t learned the importance of being very clear in our thoughts what type of person would truly make us happy. It is nearly impossible for the universe to deliver a perfect package. 

Are we too picky? Some would say no. I say yes. Yes because you should want what you want and settle for nothing less. Lowering your standards isn’t the answer to finding love. Who wants to settle for someone less attractive, less caring, less intelligent, etc.? Some people are on an eternal quest to find a “perfect” partner, one who probably doesn’t exist outside of the story books. Since childhood, we’ve been taught to keep an eye out for Prince (or Princess) Charming. Grown-up movies and romantic comedies perpetuate these expectations and we’re waiting for the dashing hero/heroine who will intuitively understand our plight and rescue us from our suffering. Unless you fell off the turnip truck and conked your head, this doesn’t happen…(the dashing in to save the damsel in distress part anyway…) The point I am trying to make here is that often we cannot see the true perspective in full view. You have to have the mindset of finding true love and happiness, not some mythical expectations that you’ll live happily ever after. That way, if your speculations fall short, you won’t feel so let down.

The truth is, until he or she arrives, most of the time we feel rather lost. Sure we all say that we enjoy the life of being single, but are you feeling the love when you go to sleep alone every night wishing that you had someone to share ‘pillow talk’ with? We all want love, want some lasting relationships.

The  phenomenon of it all is that many people seem to believe that it is way hard to find. I beg to differ…I believe that your mate is out there and that somewhere he sits waiting patiently too for the right woman to come his way. My grandmother used to tell me that the right kind of love was like a hidden treasure. Buried deep below the surface, nonetheless transparent to that one person who could see through the particles that tend to get in the way of our somewhat clouded vision. Looks are not everything. Character, ethics, loyalty, morals, and values are all part of the equation that you should have in your list of ‘wants and needs’ in your partner. Ones demeanor, and expression transform into our desires. Don’t skimp in the ‘must have’ department. When you meet the right person, things will all fall into place. 

This is love found looking in the mirror, an idealized image of yourself. An attitude like this is based upon non-acceptance of whom and what we really are. When we use another person to build up our own self-image, this kind of relationship is grounded in fear. Without this person we might feel as if we were nothing, and our lives were meaningless. Love can never be built upon a foundation that is not real. If we do not feel secure within ourselves, is it really so surprising we may not really be so eager, after all, for this perfect person to appear at our door?

 Many people ask me; “What keeps us from finding the love we are so hungry for?” The most common answer to this question is that we must find the perfect person. There is always something wrong with the people we meet. We look for flaws, and imperfections.

 Your particular idea of what attractive is, however, could be unrealistic. While it’s ridiculous to commit to someone you aren’t fundamentally attracted to, it’s amazing how much more attractive someone becomes when you love them. Attractiveness is a quality that can vary slightly an infinite number of times throughout the day. These variations are based partly on physical attributes but also on attitude, chemistry, personality and sense of humor.

Way too often, a first date never happens because the initial attraction isn’t there. But attraction that is fully developed on a first encounter is probably skin-deep; there isn’t much hope of ever becoming any more attracted to that person than you are right now. Mature attraction grows based on traits that may be initially less apparent. Equally important is your mindset — beauty is truly in the eye of the beholder. Choosing to continually look for your partner’s beauty (rather than for his/her defects) helps renew our initial attraction.

Appeal that is defined strictly in colors or measurements limits our creative capacity for seeing beauty in others. It also limits our dating options. You may be attracted to height — and that’s fine. But do you really need your partner to tower over you? You may prefer long and lean (or curvy) physiques, but are you willing to accept the common “defects” that often accompany each body type?

 Certainly ones looks are largely predetermined by DNA. However, we are made more or less beautiful by our actions and attitudes. Likewise, we have the ability to paint our impressions of others in either more generous or less generous strokes. When you find someone with the baseline traits you are looking for,… look past superficial flaws. 

My advice, and this is strictly non-professional of course,…Decide what attributes form the essential outline of your “perfect” mate; don’t worry if a few cosmetic features stray outside those boundaries. Love is art, not science. Small “imperfections” prove authenticity and can add unique beauty and dimension to a person. No he or she may not be a beauty queen or a handsome king, but oh the qualities that they hold within are worth their weight in gold and happiness is an attribute that is far more rewarding that someone who appears to have it all together on the outside but lacks so many true qualities on the inside. 

 

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Simply Delicious Lingerie is an online boutique specializing in sexy lingerie from designers such as Carrie Amber Intimates LLC ‘SeventilMidnight’, Be Wicked, Elegant Moments, Fantasy Lingerie, Raveware, and WMS Clothing. Our lingerie is the aphrodisiac of taste, and represents beauty and luxury at an affordable price. At Simply Delicious Lingerie we’ve personally selected a variety of sexy lingerie just for you and all of your sensuous rendezvous. We sell accessories, Bordello shoes, Pleaser shoes, garter sets, bridal lingerie, bridal undergarments, bustier, honeymoon lingerie, wedding day lingerie, wedding garter sets, wedding petticoats, affordable plus size lingerie, Halloween costumes, sexy plus size costumes,  fantasy lingerie, matching lingerie sets, men’s underwear, men’s lingerie, sexy thigh high stockings, satin pajamas, plus size sleepwear, adult novelty items and sex swings including the Whip Smart Pleasure Swing and our newest swing…the Fetish Fantasy Yoga Sex Swing.  Our mission is to take your sexy lingerie needs to the next level of comfort, intrigue, romance and sophistication. For more information or to place an order today please visit us; www.SimplyDeliciousLingerie.com  www.SimplyLusciousLingerie.com

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ThiNgS tHat MaKe HiM tUrN HiS hEaD…

Are you captivating, classy, or stunning? Do you have what it takes to turn heads? What’s looking sexy without being sleazy? How far does one go to look hot to trot, but not enough to make those around you laugh behind your back with ridicule?My advice… Keep it real simple, and extraordinary. Keep that “wow” factor alive and keep him coming back for more! All boys like the candy so give them a little bit of sugar…slowly!

Adding a few unexpected touches and glamorous essentials will certainly will help do the trick. It’s about dressing in fabrics that feel great against your skin. Sexy looks work for any age or budget. Here’s how to add sizzle to your look without sacrificing your modesty. Rule of thumb; a man will always turn his head in view of a classy woman, but a trashy woman won’t get you the time of day. It takes very little to catch his eye and his attention, so what are you waiting for?

1. Wear something ordinary in an unexpected way that will say “WOW!”

It doesn’t have to be a huge statement like wearing a jacket backwards; subtle alterations pack the chicest punch. For example, take a basic man’s white shirt (slightly over sized), unbutton it, wrap it so that one side overlaps the other and tuck in.) Quite the turn on to men, and it makes your curves whatever they man be look sexy and appealing.

2. Tease him, but just a little….

No need to bare your breasts, even with lace. Nude linings, camisoles and slips all keep you covered while the lace itself stays really suggestive. Tease him with a little…not a lot. Give him something to make his mouth water and crave more…

3. Add a head piece

Nothing attracts attention quite like a hat. …just not one like the princesses wore at the big royal wedding a few months ago that grabbed so much national attention. First, it takes guts to wear one. Second, it takes panache to carry it off. Combine the two qualities and you get major sex appeal. Stay with classic shapes, for example; the fedora, the beret… to make it easier to pull off.

4. Accessorize with soft on the shoulders

Skip every other piece of jewelry, pull your hair back and make sure your makeup stays soft. This look goes great with bare shoulders and updos, too. Definitely an after-dark look,…and quite the sexy eye-catcher! Something light and sensual.

5. Make it shine

Black may be super sexy, but gold, silver, copper and pewter are especially luminous when you’re going for that over the top look. Look for simple shapes (the story here is the fabric and color, not the line of the outfit) and tones that flatter your skin color. Pass on major jewelry and makeup to let the dress really shine. You’ll stand out, but in a sassy and sensual way!

6. Adopt a simple look 

The pencil style  is a classic example of a dress with an allure all of its own, form-fitting, but not too tight, shows your curves and turns heads. My choice; the LBD. Never will you go wrong with this piece of history.

7. Wear shades

Perhaps the single sexiest item you can own are a great pair of sunglasses. They add tons of mystery, look cute even on top of your head and actually serve the practical purpose of protecting your eyes. My eyes are important to me and yours should be too. I don’t leave home without my Pradas, Diors or Jimmy Choos!

8. Make a grand ole’ exit

 Sexy is all about surprises, so a deceptively simple dress from the front can be a showstopper in the back. Open backs, lace-up backs, great dress trains all make for dramatic effects. Nothing says “see you later” better than that vivid image that will be stuck in is head when you walk away….so make it sexy, stunning and mind jolting!

9. Stay soft with touchable fabrics

Forget everything you’ve ever heard about hardcore leathers or sparkly sequins being heat-inducing. Yeah they look hot, but cashmere, silky satin, buttery soft suede’s are the real scene-stealers. Touchable fabrics not only invite an other’s touch, they have the added bonus of feeling great against your skin so you feel pampered and sexy.

10. How about RED?

Pale lips may be trendy, but nothing does the job like red. Use lip liner for a perfect appearance, choose a creamy matte in a red that best suits your skin tone (blue-reds for darker skin tones; oranges for olive; true reds for blondes). Use a light hand for the rest of the face because the lips should take center stage. Pucker up gals! Red is hot and sexy!

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Relationships…Does a Woman Need a Man’s Approval?

Are you contemplating a new relationship with someone who likes you but wants to change your ways because he thinks you would then be the ‘icing on the cake’ so to speak? We all like it sweet, but as an old friend once said “Sugar, You don’t need a man’s approval, you are in a league all of your own!” Somewhere along the line, a rumor was started that women became known as let’s just say; “the weaker sex”…said no one ever. Ok I’ll bite…

So why don’t you tell that to Annie Oakley, Betsy Ross, Beyonce, Cleopatra,  Ellen DeGeneres, Joan of Arc, Madonna, Mother Teresa, Rosa Parks or Susan B. Anthony? These women, and so many others that I have not made mention of, all strong-willed have endured their own fair share of life, heartaches, set backs and disappointments nonetheless, they are symbols of strength amongst women today. Obviously those women, an army of warriors and my guess is ALL of your friends would fiercely disagree right? We are not the weaker sex, and I am sure that I could get women around the globe to back me on this one.

So why are you surrendering yourself to get the approval of some guy? Women have radar and we generally use it all the time…I do, and it’s usually always right and has never let me down before…well, maybe once. The thing is gals that if you meet a good man and want to be with him, you should not need his approval for anything. He should like/love you for who you are with all of your pro’s, con’s, faults, and no faults highs and lows. You’re falling for an idea that psychologists call the “approval trap.” If you seek his approval, there is no turning back my friend. Before you start to defend yourself, yes, it’s great when you get affirmation from friends and co-workers for what you do. What do your friends think about this? Your true friends will try to make you understand why you should not compromise your happiness to appease him. Wake up girlfriend…can you not see the forest through the trees?

The problem is when you depend on their approval for who you are you lose touch with your independence and what makes you so special. Am I making any sense here? Do you see the difference? Handing over your self-esteem to anyone is a dangerous and usually a really damaging choice that should not be taken lightly. The person whose approval you believe that you must have can respond honestly or dishonestly. Are you willing to risk all of who you are for someone that easily? As another friend once said “Did you fall off the turnip truck and smack that nugget too hard on the pavement?” Since when do you need someone’s approval?

 He could choose to be an encourager to you or he might verbally take you down to his level. Changing who you are to gain his approval is so wrong on so many levels. The price is simply too high.To attract a man who is secure in himself and ready to be an equal partner in a relationship, you have to be that kind of person. Are you that kind of woman? Are you emotionally stable, secure with who you are and happy with yourself? If the answer is no, girlfriend you need to take a good lookie deep within and ask yourself why? Once you determine what is causing you these issue you can address them and work on fixing them. You’ll be on the highway to becoming a better you. You truly can become a better YOU! My grandmother used to always tell me that if you don’t like something …change it! Like minds attract you know? If you’re an insecure and a clingy woman (which oh geez I hope you are not) who has no idea who she is, or what her goals or aspirations are in life, then why do you think you’ll attract a man who is the opposite?

The type of man that you don’t want is counting on you to play the old role of doing whatever it takes to snag him. There are a lot of fish in the sea, so do not think for a minute that you have to latch onto the first one that comes along and grabs your bait. 

 Are you making changes with yourself because it is what ‘you desire’ or what you know he likes? Do you change your wardrobe from business classic to low cut and glamorous because that’s what he likes? You begin doing things his way and for him, and you lose sight slowly of you. In no time, you make excuses to ditch your friends because he wants to “be alone” or “expand your circle.” Do you seriously think that the only way to snatch this guy is to give up your life and your identity to be his personal toy. Bad deal for you, great deal for him. Want my personal NON-PROFESSIONAL advise? DON’T DO IT! Don’t lose who you are. Don’t lose your ethics and values for some schmuck that thinks he can change you. Be happy with the way you are and you will find a man who will love you for all of those qualities that make you so unique.

History does have a way of repeating itself. It also shows men as pursing the hidden treasure. When motivated that the prize is worth the effort, men go to any lengths to win and get what they want. What if that treasure is you? Are you willing to make sacrifices to better suite his needs? Are you willing to lose your identity for him? Are you crazy? Any man that tries to change so many things about you that make you YOU is not the man you want to be with,…not now, not ever. Think long and hard before jumping into this frying pan ladies, the fire may be too hot and you will surely get burned!

 

 

Simply Delicious Lingerie

Simply Delicious Lingerie is an online boutique specializing in sexy lingerie from designers such as Carrie Amber Intimates LLC ‘SeventilMidnight’, Be Wicked, Elegant Moments, Fantasy Lingerie, Raveware, and WMS Clothing. Our lingerie is the aphrodisiac of taste, and represents beauty and luxury at an affordable price. At Simply Delicious Lingerie we’ve personally selected a variety of sexy lingerie just for you and all of your sensuous rendezvous. We sell accessories, Bordello shoes, Pleaser shoes, garter sets, bridal lingerie, bridal undergarments, bustier, honeymoon lingerie, wedding day lingerie, wedding garter sets, wedding petticoats, affordable plus size lingerie, Halloween costumes, sexy plus size costumes,  fantasy lingerie, matching lingerie sets, men’s underwear, men’s lingerie, sexy thigh high stockings, satin pajamas, plus size sleepwear, adult novelty items and sex swings including the Whip Smart Pleasure Swing and our newest swing…the Fetish Fantasy Yoga Sex Swing.  Our mission is to take your sexy lingerie needs to the next level of comfort, intrigue, romance and sophistication. For more information or to place an order today please visit us; www.SimplyDeliciousLingerie.com  www.SimplyLusciousLingerie.com 

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