BIG Dating Mistakes Men Make….

Number 10

Are you being too much of a nice guy? Let me ask you this…Have you ever noticed that the really attractive women never seem to be attracted to “nice” guys? Of course you have. What’s going on here? It’s actually very simple. Women don’t base their choice of men on how “nice” a guy is. They choose the men they do because they feel a powerful gut level attraction to them. Ahhh but then guess what? Being a nice guy won’t make a woman feel that powerful attraction to you. And being nice won’t make a woman choose you. I realize that this doesn’t make a lot of logical sense to you, and it may be even hard to accept… but get over it. Until you accept this fact and begin to act on it, you’ll never have the success with women that you want.

Number 9

Trying to convince her to like you What do most guys do when they meet a woman that they really like… but she’s just not interested? Right! They try to “convince” the woman to feel differently. Well, I have news for you: You will never change how a woman “feels” when it comes to attraction! Never, ever, ever. You cannot convince a woman to feel differently about you by means of “logic and reasoning.” Think about it.If a woman doesn’t “feel it” for you, how in the world do you expect to change that feeling by being “reasonable” with her? But every man does it. When a woman just isn’t interested, you beg, plead, chase, and  you do your best to change her mind. What some good advice? Bad idea. Just kiss this one goodbye now sweetheart because that will never work!! Besides…chances are you are far too good for her and you dewserve much better!

Number 8

Looking for her approval

In your desire to please her,… (which men so often mistakenly think will make them like us), they (as guys) are always doing things to get a woman’s “approval” or “permission.” This is another horrible idea. Women are never attracted to the type of men who kiss up to them… ever. Don’t get me wrong here. You don’t have to treat women badly for them to like you. But if you think that treating a woman well means “always getting her approval and permission for things,” think again. You will never succeed by looking for approval. Women actually get annoyed at men who seek their approval. Do you doubt me? Just ask any attractive woman if wussy guys who chase her around and want her approval annoy her.

Number 7

Trying to buy her affection
How many times have you taken a woman out to a nice dinner, bought her gifts and flowers, and had her reject you for someone who didn’t treat her even half as well as you did? Well guess what? It’s only natural when this happens.That’s right, I said natural.When you do these things, you’re sending a clear message: “I don’t think you’ll like me for who I am, so I’m going to try to buy your attention and affection.” Your good intentions usually come across to women as overcompensation for insecurity, and weak attempts at manipulation. That’s right, I said that women see this as a manipulation.

Number 6

Sharing your feelings too early
Another huge and unfortunate mistake that most men make with women is sharing how they “feel” too early on. Attractive women are rare. And they get a lot of attention from men. Most men don’t realize this, but attractive women are approached in one way or another all the time. An attractive woman is often approached several times a day by men who are interested. This translates into dozens of times per week, and often hundreds of times per month.And guess what? Attractive women have usually dated a lot of men. That’s right. They have experience. They know what to expect. And nothing turns an attractive women off and sends her running away faster than a guy who starts saying “You know, I really, really like you” after only one or two dates. This signals to the woman that you’re just like all the other guys who fall for her too fast… and can’t control themselves. Instead, keep your yap shut and make her wonder? Women hate the not knowing part. Yes sure we like to be chased, BUT for the guys reading this…it will keep them in line a bit and make them anzious to hear from you again. Trust me on this one…just don’t play games because whether you are a great guy or a player jerk, we can sense it after a few dates.

Number 5

Not “getting” how attraction works
Women are very different from men when it comes to attraction. You need to accept this fact, and deal with it. When a man sees a beautiful, young, sexy woman, he instantly feels a sexual attraction. But does the same apply for women? Well, after studying this topic for years, I can tell you that women usually have their “attraction mechanisms” triggered by things her than looks. Have you ever noticed that you see a lot more average and unattractive men with beautiful women than the other way around? Think about it. Women are more attracted to certain qualities in men… and they’re more attracted to the way that a man makes them feel than they are to looks alone. If you know how to use your body language and communication correctly, you can make women feel the same kind of powerful sexual attraction to you that you feel when you see a hot, sexy young woman.

Number 4

Thinking that it takes money & looks…what??
One of the most common mistakes that guys make is giving up before they’ve even gotten started, because they think that attractive women are only interested in men who have looks and money… or guys who are a certain height… or guys who are a certain age. Oh sure, there are some women who are only interested in these things. They are ruthless bitches, yes you heard me ruthless, and if you think you can change them, then you are way too gullible and boy do I have piece of the Brooklyn Bridge I want to sell you..

Listen, here is the 4-1-1….the hard core truth…In todays era, most women are educated, and independent. Don’t see that as a bad think, appreciate it and accept it that they have some class and are not clingy, needy women. These women will understand and appreciate you. Now, the truth is, on the contrary, most women are far more interested in a man’s personality than his wallet or his looks. There are certain personality traits that attract women like a magnet… And if you learn how to really truly use them, you can be one of those guys. You do not have to “settle” for a woman just because you aren’t rich, tall or handsome. Let me say this again: If you know how to use your body language,you can make women feel the same kind of powerful sexual attraction to you that you feel when you see a hot, sexy young woman.

Number 3

Failing to read dating situations

Now I’m going to blow your mind… a woman always knows what you’re thinking. Women are approximately 10 times better than men at reading body language. That’s 10 times. I know, it might be hard for you to believe. But, for example, if you’re out on a date with a woman, and you want to kiss her, she knows it. And if you don’t know exactly what to do and exactly how to kiss her, and you just sit there looking at her and getting nervous, she won’t help! And this goes for all aspects of women and dating… Approaching a woman, getting her number, asking her out, kissing her, getting physical… everything. If you don’t know what to do in each situation, you will probably screw it up… and lose everything. And you know it.

Number 2

Not getting help….This is the biggest mistake of them all.This is the mistake that keeps most men from ever having the kind of success with women that they truly want. If you don’t have the answers seek help from a professional or ask a close friend or relative for advice that is partial, and will not take sides or try to persuade you in any way. You want honesty, and integrity. Do not settle for less.

Number 1 

  Go with your gut… follow your heart, and pay attention! Don’t ever go over the top to win a woman’s affection…Why? Because the one whose affection that you may be trying to earn is probably not the one that you should be with. Think about it! I am a woman, and I am right about this one!

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Aphrodisiac Foods that Fuel your Sex Drive

Did you know that the food you consume can have a direct impact on your sex life, affecting your hormones, brain chemistry and energy and stress levels. I guess that old saying ‘food for thought’ is no myth after all? There are a variety of foods that kick your sex drive up a notch that I’ll bet you eat daily and never knew it? Foods are more than just healthy, now they have a great impact on ‘Yo MoJo!’

Some foods have psychoactive properties, others arouse because they are psychologically suggestive, and some can actually increase blood flow to the genitals. If  for some, it does not have all that aphrodisiac effect, at least it’s healthy and it will do your body good! I’ve listed the leading foods that stimulate your sex drive…take the test, and see which is the most effective for you!

 Asparagus and Avocados

The vitamin E in these green eats helps your body churn out hormones like testosterone, estrogen, and progesterone, which circulate in your bloodstream and stimulate sexual responses like clitoral swelling and vaginal lubrication.

Bananas

Another reason to think about sex when you wrap your lips around this phallus-shaped fruit: Chiquitas deliver potassium, a nutrient key to muscle strength. So when you orgasm, the contractions will be super intense.

Chocolate

Cocoa contains the chemical phenylethylamine, a stimulant that conjures just the sort of subtle feelings of well-being and excitement that make sex seem like a great idea. The Aztecs referred to chocolate “nourishment of the Gods.” Chocolate contains chemicals thought to effect neurotransmitters in the brain and a related substance to caffeine called theobromine. Chocolate contains more antioxidant (cancer preventing enzymes) than does red wine. The secret for passion is to combine the two. Try a glass of Cabernet with a bit of dark chocolate for a sensuous treat.

Oysters

We know, we know: Oysters as an aphrodisiac sounds so clichéd, but they really can spark randiness. These shellfish are brimming with zinc, a mineral that cranks up the production of testosterone, which has been linked to a higher sex drive.

Red Wine

Besides relaxing you faster than a neck rub can, red wine contains resveratrol, an antioxidant that helps boost blood flow and improves circulation before and during intercourse.

Watermelon

Make it a watermelon martini! The juicy fruit contains the phytonutrient citrulline, which leads to an uptick in the amount of nitric oxide in your body. That spike causes blood vessels to relax and speeds up circulation. As a result, you’ll get more aroused in less time.

Hot Chilies

Capsaicin, a chemical found in fiery peppers, increases circulation to get blood pumping and stimulates nerve endings so you’ll feel more turned on.

Pomegranates

The pom owes its passion power to antioxidants, which protect the lining of blood vessels, allowing more blood to course through them. The upshot? Increased genital sensitivity.

Aniseed
A very popular aphrodisiac with many culinary uses. It has been used as an aphrodisiac since the Greeks and the Romans, who believed aniseed had special powers. Sucking on the seeds is said to increases your desire.

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Selecting Lingerie for Her

The first thing you want to think about when shopping for your lady is that you are shopping for HER, not you. That statement cannot be said enough. Just because you find something sexy and alluring that you want to tear off of her the moment she puts in on does not mean that she’ll like or, or feels comfortable in it. Remember, you may think that it is sexy as hell, but there isn’t a thong riding up your ass, so pleaseee, before you select something for YOU, remember it’s for HER, and with this in mind choose your piece(s) of lingerie carefully.  If she does not like it, or feel good in it, she’s not going to wear it. Don’t run out and get the most revealing, uncomfortable piece of lingerie known to man just because it is eye candy.

This will probably get your purchase used as a car towel or end up in the garbage can when you are at work. You want to ask yourself what would she wear. What does she like? What color suits her and best? Will she feel good and comfortable in this? This can be a very difficult task to say the least. However, knowing what types of lingerie are out there and what kinds she likes will very beneficial for you. So PAY ATTENTION!

The next thing to consider is the actual type of lingerie out there. You will want to make sure that you are finding what you are looking for and not just plain old panties and bras. You want something special that will suit her style and body. You will want to know the difference between a corset and a bustier. You might think there is none but there truly is. A corset is designed to cinch the waist and flatten the bust line to produce a specific amount of cleavage.

A bustier has bra like cups in it and does not have waist cinching. The difference between a Chemise and a Baby Doll is that a chemise is more conservative and a bit longer. The Baby Doll has bra like cups and is a bit shorter and more revealing. Baby Dolls often come with matching panties, as chemises usually do not. Then there are the teddies that are like a one-piece outfit. At SimplyDeliciousLingerie.com we hand selected each piece with every woman in mind, because as women, we know that what looks good on me, may not look good on you, someone else and vica versa. If you are not sure what would be the right choice, you can never go wrong with a sexy matching set. The bra and panty set is a great place to start with perhaps a matching satin robe.

So now you know the basic styles. Now you must know her size. Here is the most confusing part about lingerie shopping. There is more than one size type depending on the type of lingerie you purchase. When buying any lingerie that has cups in it you will have to know her bra size. This is the size that says 32 B, 36 D, 34 C, etc. This is critical to know or she will not fit into it properly and will not wear it. For all other types of lingerie you will have to know her shirt and dress size. You will want to know both the number and generic size. Look on her clothing to see if she is an 8, 10, 6, etc. then look on other articles to see if she wears a small, medium, or large. If you buy something too small she will think you want a smaller woman.

To buy something too big, she will think that you think she is fat…and if she thinks that, buddy I hate to tell you but you’re now in the dog house! You must have the right size so she knows you want her. Pay attention to HER needs. It’s not about YOU, after all it is about HER! Also by knowing her bra size it will eliminate getting a teddy or babydoll, fantasy costume, etc., that will be too tight and possibly rip after its first wearing. Yes, tight can look sexy, but we don’t want to bend over and have the entire ass rip out of your lingerie, why btw (by the way), is now no longer sexy at all.

Once you have decided on what style will suit her and make her feel comfortable, then now you need to think color. You need to be sure that this hides anything she feels is a flaw. An example would be if she is constantly complaining about her hips then you will not want to go with a teddy that outright exposes that area. Go through her draws and see what colors she likes. Pick out a color that enhances her eyes and skin tone. See what other lingerie she has. This will help you find the perfect style and color for her that she will enjoy. Take your time while shopping and don’t rush things.

My boutiques are open 365/24/7 so take your time! If you need help, contact Tantalizing Tina in our expertise fashionista section and write her for assistance! You can always ask for help if you are having a hard time finding what you are looking for. Always go with items that have adjustable straps. This will allow her to fit the garment right for her body.

Detachable straps are always good too, especially with corsets and bustiers. This will allow her to determine if she is comfortable with out the straps or is almost like two outfits in one. When buying matching panties you will want to know what style she wears and get that kind. For garters and stocking make sure you are positive she likes these and they have adjustable straps. If you still are not sure what to buy and this is your first lingerie experience, keep in mind, you can never go wrong with sexy matching sets. Tutus are a good way to make it fun! See the photo below. Most importantly have fun shopping and make it exciting for her. When done right, you can expect to go out again and again together, which is the best fun, and as your relationship grows, you’ll begin to learn what why is was that feel for him in the beginning.

The Techniques of Kissing…The Where’s and When’s

The 5 Keys:

There are times when you want that first kiss with someone to really be great, then they go and open their mouth and ruin it. Why is it that some men are so pushy? Are they in a hurry to get to a finish line, because I sure as shit don’t see the point. At my age, the kiss is generally worth the wait. I’ve found that in our younger days we were just wild and crazy, today, middle-aged and just looking for someone to make me smile is really all that matters. Even so, that first kiss could be the last first kiss if the guy is too into himself and all over you like ham on rye. Tell him to back off. A young lady that I work with recently told me a story of a really terrific guy that she liked. She was quite excited to spend some time with him getting to know him…then he opened his mouth and it all went to hell in a hand bag quickly. No girl wants to play tonsil hockey with a guy, and no one considers a real date going over his place and watching movies….PLEASE….save it for a girl who doesn’t care about her reputation,…Being pushy and lacking patience doesn’t sit well with me, nor should it with you!

Save your lips for the one that makes your heart skip a beat….then you’ll be happy that you listened to me.

1) Get your lips in proper kissing order. The most kissable lips are smooth and sweet, not dry, chapped and tense.

2)Look inviting and approachable. You might not realize it when you send a “leave me alone” message, so read up on How to Look Approachable! You don’t really want to be that person with ‘bitch’ written all across his/her face do you? Loosen up a little. Take a deep breath,..life isn’t so bad. Now, uncross your arms, keep your hands away from your face, make eye contact, and smile! Similarly, read his or her body language – is this person into you? Or does this person seem uncomfortable? This is KEY, so pay attention!

3)Break the “touch barrier.” Touch the person lightly on the arm or shoulder when you’re talking. Just make it a quick, innocent touch and don’t make a big deal out of it. Holding hands is also a good way to break the touch barrier. (Guys, you may want to read “How to Touch a Girl” for more ideas on how to break the touch barrier without overstepping boundaries. Girls, you may want to read “How to Touch a Guy”
for advice.) If everything is going well, try kissing the person on the cheek. If you find your lips near their ear (like if you’re hugging someone from behind, or whispering something to them) go in for a gentle kiss on the cheek and see how they respond.

4)Look at their lips. Make eye contact and then move your gaze briefly down to the person’s lips. Then move your eyes back up to meet theirs and smile demurely. You don’t have to be really obvious about it. Want to really turn them on? Lick your lips while you are gazing at theirs…it will drive him insanely crazy! Many people will take the hint, especially if they’ve read one of the many articles that lists this as a sign that a person wants to kiss or be kissed?

5)Approach for the kiss. Depending on your starting position you may need only to turn your head, or you may need to lean in a bit. You may want to use your hands to gently urge your partner’s body or head into position—you just want to guide his or her movement a little, you don’t want to forcibly move any part of his or her body or hold your partner in an uncomfortable position—but in general you just want to position yourself correctly and let your partner meet you. As you near your partner’s lips, maintain eye contact…and there you have it, badda bing badda boom you kiss him/her!

Is It Time for a Makeover?

Are you middle age and living with a 1980s hairstyle? Though most of the fashion fads of the 90’s could still hold their own, I personally hope that scrunchies never make a fashion come back! Headbands should be banned, and big hair is a thing of the past, so good lord, leave it there. Have you worn the same clothes for so long that they’ve made a come back? It’s time to bring sexy back! Lingerie is not flannel pajamas, shop http://www.SimplyDeliciousLingerie.com for all of your women’s intimate apparel needs. Newsflash,..Izod now goes by’ Lacoste.’ If you are wearing Gloria Vanderbilt Jeans, or Levi’s, you have bigger issues than I can write about. If you have on a pair of Wranglers you need a miracle. (unless you are living in Texas, own a cattle ranch or you are a cowboy, I think everyone still wears them,… and to all of you, the Wrangler Company thanks you for keeping them in business!)

Listen, I don’t mean to make anyone feel bad, but if you answer yes to 2 or more of the above issues, we’ve got a lot of work to do. If this sounds like you and your closet is filled with sweatshirts, turtlenecks and pants that are baggy and not at all form-fitting, you need help! Call in your friends that are hip with the times and ask them to help you make some changes. My guess would be that they would jump at the chance to give you a new ‘do.’ Wouldn’t you just wish you could walk into a dressing room, spin around three times and miraculously change your appearance? Who wouldn’t? That certainly would be nice. It’s really not as difficult as it looks! If you look at the mirror and you don’t like what you see…honey, it’s time for a change.

Are you growing tired of your hair, skin, body shape or size, or even just the style of your clothing? If you are experiencing any of these thoughts and feelings, you may enjoy learning how to do a makeover yourself.

How you feel about your body image has a substantial effect on how you feel about yourself as a person. Everyone needs a boost to his or her body image once in a while. And, it just feels good to make some changes to your personal appearance.

How To Do A Makeover Yourself:

My current recommendations and choice picks for the best, most popular makeover solutions are below.

1. Start your makeover with a good look at your skin. A clean, smooth complexion is the base of a glowing face, so assess the condition of your skin. There are a variety of make ups and skin care products that can totally change and enhance the appearance of your face. If you aren’t wearing make up now, realize this,…you don’t need to look like a clown, so go simple. Men don’t like a woman with 4 layers on her face. A man wants to see a woman pretty natural (this way he knows what to expect when she gets out of bed in the morning)
2. Experts agree that a new hair cut is a great way to change your look and boost your mood. Let it contour your facial features so that it accentuates every dimple, and curve.
3.  Continue with the lower body makeover: legs, butt, hips and thighs. Paint your toes too!
4. Your most powerful beauty tool is a big genuine smile! It’s enhanced by sparkling, lively eyes. Teeth not too white? Fine a beaching cream that you can use to fix this!
5. Exercise; Nothing, and I mean nothing invigorates the body more than getting your blood to flow thru your veins. You’ll have more energy and you won’t poop out at parties!
6. Eat a well-balanced diet. It will change the way you look and feel about yourself. Healthier is better! Cut out the crap.
7. No makeover is complete without clothing. Go shopping and select an outfit that works for you. No more 1980s stuff…get with the times and keep it simple. Once you select your clothing, go buy sharp shoes and accessorize BIG TIME! You’ll feel like a million bucks! You;ll be surprise how much better it will make you feel, and your friends probably won’t recognize you!

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wHy mEn LoVe SeXy LinGeRie…

Men  (and when I say men I mean 97% of them) stated recently in a poll that their ideal first impression of lingerie was extremely sexy and seductive. It certainly does skim over that forbidden zone, oh yes… that naughty place in one’s mind where they can fantasize for hours about the hourglass shape of the woman that they envision like a dream, and pursue like the dominator. Lingerie on a woman indicates a sense of confidence, and independence. Women aren’t afraid to wear it and show it off in a discrete way, that is. We don’t flaunt it, we wear it with pride.

All men are different in what they like and want but most like revealing and see-through outfits. Anything that will show the parts of a woman that he is not normally allowed to see is alluring to ones eye, and provocative to their inner thoughts. They also seem to love those items that accentuate the female body or have a girlish flare. I’ve always said, keep it simple. Men love flattering sexy and risky lingerie on a woman. Men are very tactile and visual. If he loves to touch it and he loves to look at it, then you can guarantee he loves you in it! Never go without cardinal rule #1 gals…Always remember to wear your high-heeled shoes. Oh yes, men love stilettos. This is what will pull the look together, and trust me when I say this….”you’ll leave an impression his mind hat he won’t forget!” It will be a vision that his mind will seduce.

At Simply Delicious Lingerie, we sell a beautiful private label line of women’s intimate apparel that is quality. We give you luxury lingerie at low prices. Sexy should cost you an arm and a leg! Isn’t it about time that you shopped at our boutique? We have a variety of followers/customers that browse and shop or online web store from the average everyday mom, daughter, cousin, lover, partner, wife to celebrities that love the SeventilMidnight line. Men love our site because we respect your privacy and keep your contact information we guarded. They can shop at home or while at work in their office for their wife, girlfriend, lover, sugarbaby, or mistress. www.SimplyDeliciousLingerie.com

What do they want to see women dressed  in you may ask?

1) Bras, G-strings, Garters, and Stockings: This may seem simple to the woman wearing it but it is a major piece of eye candy for the man who is looking at it. So why do they love these select pieces so much? Classy, Stylish and oh so seductive. With these pieces, you want to go with sexy and hot not comfortable. Men love the lace look and can’t get enough trying to peek through it. They love to be teased. Use the bad girl steamy colors like white, red, and black for that hot erotic look he will be drooling for. Other great colors are lavender, light blue, and peach. These colors are soft yet sexy and give that feminine edge men love to stare at. Be sure all the pieces match and are lace, even the garter belt. Get a pair of matching silk stockings to go with it.

 

2) Corsets/bustiers: There is not a man on this planet who would not want to look at a woman wearing either one of these. The corset slims the body and flattens your silhouette. The cleavage factor is definitely a huge turn on to guys. Add in a sweet little G-string or thong with a pair of thigh high stocking and you will have him reeling. The bustier is designed very similar but has cups like a bra. Many come with the detachable garter so stockings are a must. Colors to go with when thinking of guys are black, white, or red. These colors have that sexy bad girl look to them that just drives men absolutely to the breaking point. Other colors to consider are the sweet pastels. They take a hot outfit made for a woman and give it a girlish flare. It is this girlish flare that turns men right on.

3) Teddies: This is a one piece out fit with tiny spaghetti straps. It looks like a skimpy body suit. There is an array of styles available. The most appealing to men are the combination satin and mesh together in the same piece. That satin corset-look in the front with lace around the breasts with a sheer mesh in the back. When you turn around he will be able to see straight through. With this little number stick with white or black mesh and bold frontal tones that stand out and scream sexy. The hottest color schemes for men are white with tantalizing pastels, or black with hot bold colors like reds, blues, and purples.

4) Play outfits: You will drive the man insane with a play outfit. Men love to watch women dress up. You can always count on the naughty schoolgirl to shake him in his shoes. A sexy partially opened white tailored top that is tied at the waist. The plaid mini schoolgirl skirt with white garter and stockings is a winner every time. Another sure-fire winner is the naughty nurse. White mini Nurses dress with the hat and sexy pair of fishnet stockings. There are so many of these outfits to choose from you could keep him mesmerized for years. These types of out fits are fun and make men go gaga.

5) Negligee: This very simple little gown is a must for every woman who has a man at home. The two types men go crazy for is the sheer and the silky. A silk negligee satisfies a man’s need to touch something soft and supple. The sexiness of the gown is wonderful for then to look at as it accentuates all your curves. This will make him want to see and touch more and more. The sheer version of this is just plain hot. As the mesh lies draping your body the guy is now able to see all the places the fabric gets to gently touch. You can even add a lace bra and panty to tease him even more. With this outfit you will want to go with fun bright colors that grab his attention. If you are going with shear the standard white, black, and red are the sexiest.

Tips for the Guys…How to Improve Your Sex Life

There are not many men that I know of who think that they need to improve their sex life, but fellas…read this, you just might want to hear what women think? A frequent complaint of women is that their partner doesn’t give them enough foreplay…hey some, or most women LOVE foreplay…Or he rushes through lovemaking and leaves them feeling a little frustrated. There’s no marathon here guys so whats the rush we ask? It’s not a hard and fast rule, but generally women become aroused more slowly and take longer to achieve orgasm than men. And this difference is sometimes a source of conflict. If only there were a way for a man to put on the brakes until his partner catches up with him in terms of sexual excitement. Actually, there is. Here’s how men can become better lovers simply by learning to slow down.

First, let’s clarify what we mean by slowing down. We are actually referring to prolonging erection and delaying ejaculation. Are you still with me here? Let’s face it, gentlemen. Once orgasm has occurred, the erection goes away and so does your interest in sex – temporarily, at least. At that point all you really want to do is roll over and go to sleep….hello? We need more…so take your time and for goodness sakes make it last.

When you have the ability to consciously slow down and make the erection last, you can enjoy intercourse longer and provide your partner with more pleasure. Instead of rushing towards a climax, you are in control. You can take the time to bring your partner to a higher state of arousal so that she is longing for even more.

Slowing down and respecting your partner’s pace of arousal will give her more sexual fulfillment. Why is it important to make your partner happy in bed? For one thing, it shows that you care about how she feels. For another thing, she will be more enthusiastic about having sex in the future when she knows she will be thoroughly satisfied by the experience. Sounds like a win-win situation!

If you’re like many men, you’ve accidentally conditioned yourself to climax quickly. After all, when you masturbate in spare moments during the day, you learn to get things done fast, right? But when there’s a partner involved, you have to override that conditioning somehow.

Thinking about other non-sexual things is something a lot of men do to slow down their rate of arousal. As you probably know, your body reaches a certain point when ejaculation can’t be delayed any longer – it will happen. The trick, my friend, is to get close to that point but never quite there, allowing yourself to achieve orgasm only when you decide the time is right.

There are specific exercises you can do to prolong an erection and delay ejaculation. You may find it worthwhile to do a little research on the topic. For example, Tantric sex includes certain practices that help you control your sexual response, making it last as long as you want it to. In fact, it may come as a surprise to you but men can actually climax without ejaculation and without losing the erection. Men who’ve learned this skill often describe the experience as a whole-body orgasm.

The idea might seem strange or even unnatural at first. But you’ll soon realize the benefits of slowing down and delaying ejaculation. Possessing this type of self-control definitely puts you a cut above the average fellow. Your partner is certain to appreciate passion that lasts a little longer and gives her more pleasure.

 

 

 

 

 

wHy wOmEn CHeaT?

As a divorced woman myself, I still ask so many times why do people cheat? In this article please note (ladies) that I am not picking on you, this article is about why women cheat. I have a part 2 that asks “Why do men cheat?” First things first…Whenever people choose to cheat on their partners, there is usually some specific reason that led to the decision to seek physical comfort outside the relationship. In the case of married women who cheat, there are several common reasons why they choose to step out on their husbands. Here are a few examples. Perhaps the most common reasons why a woman would choose to cheat on her spouse has to do with a lack of attention. When the husband is emotionally cold or distant, or spends most of his time at work, yes the old’ workaholic, the wife may become frustrated that she does not seem to be of any importance. Guys if this sounds like you, it’s time to make some changes, otherwise you may be in for some bigger problems on the home front.  In order to obtain what she needs to feel wanted, she may choose to begin an affair. Even if the affair is purely physical, she has the full attention of a man for at least the amount of time they are together.

In some instances, the woman may find that her libido is not in sync with that of her husband. The end result is that she is left without an outlet for physical gratification. As a means of filling in the gap, she may take on a lover who can offer her physical companionship when her husband is not in the mood. When health issues prevent the husband from being physically responsive to the sexual needs of his wife, the situation can be very touchy. This is very different from a husband who is capable of engaging in sexual activity with his wife, but chooses to not do so. In this scenario, married women who cheat may see this as the only way to get through the crisis and remain supportive of her husband while he deals with health issues. Last, married women who choose to cheat may do so because they have no physical interest in their husbands. My next topic may strike a nerve….

Who do women who seem to have everything cheat? The answer is easy, because they are in the constant search for perfection, because they know that there must be something better than what they already have and so they start searching for it. Most probably they will not find it, or end up finding something worse than what they already have. In this case they will feel bad and realize they did a mistake by doing this, and if they are lucky enough, this hidden escapade will be their secret forever.

There is another reason for the question: Why do women cheat? – Andmost definitely we all encountered this phenomenon. Boredom appears in the couple after a certain amount of time; the woman wishes to experiment something new and is not ready to transmit this to her partner. She has the feeling that her partner might think she is depraved if her wishes to experiment are eccentric. This is what leads to another mistake; they will try that new thing with a new partner, which they do not know well enough. Again, in this case, the woman will come back to her home, with a well kept secret.

The attraction may have been more along the lines of a secure financial future or a prominent place in local society. When this is the case, the woman may discreetly take on a lover who does excite her physically, while still fulfilling her other roles in the marriage. While there are many different reasons that motivate married women who cheat, the bottom line is that cheating carries a great deal of risk. Lives can be changed forever, reputations can be ruined, and friends and family may suffer if the cheating comes to light. If you are thinking of cheating for any reason, think twice. While the activity may provide some temporary pleasure, the benefits rarely outweigh the liabilities.

Tattoos and Cosmetic Surgery…

As beautiful and artsy as they are, tattoos are permanent. People get tattoos for a variety of reason…none that I can really figure out because I dislike them (for me, but please don’t take it personal)…and besides that I cringe when I see needles. The only time I ever welcomed a needle or two needles was during my painful hours of childbirth with my two children and believe me when I tell you that the big needle on the end of that epidural was well worth the prick and few minutes of pain!

Let’s look at a few examples shall we of who and why people might get a tattoo? So, you’re 17 and rebellious and your parents tell you that you are forbidden to get a tattoo…what do you do? You get one anyways and hide it hoping that they never see it or at least not until you are out of the house or away at school…but then later in life you may not like it so much because it was something that you thought you could get away with and did, now the thrill is gone. The other case scenario is that your husband hates tramp stamps (as they are called) he forbids you to get one and then you split up/divorce and you can’t run to the tattoo parlor fast enough to get one just to piss him off…is this sounding familiar to anyone ladies?

What happens after you get older or just don’t like that tattoo any longer, and this can go for men too, it’s not just about the women getting the stamp. What happens then,…what happens when you begin to age and wrinkle and that tattoo starts sagging? Then what? How do you remove it if you later in life you come to hate it? Well, I have found some cosmetic surgeries that might interest you. Since I have no tattoos I couldn’t tell you if these measurement to remove them work, and I am not an expertise tattoo artist.

There are actually two types of cosmetic tattoo surgeries: the removal of a tattoo and the application of a tattoo. Both procedures are considered cosmetic in nature and surgical as far as procedural aspects are concerned. Generally speaking, many youthful recipients of tattoos may not enjoy the process – let’s face it, it hurts – yet do like the result. Sporting a new tattoo is like a ticket stub signifying that you have paid the entrance fee into the “cool cult.” You are no longer considered a “square” but are now hip, cool, and with it. This feeling usually lasts until the first real job interview when your highly visible facial or arm tattoo costs you a high paying job, simply because the hiring manager does not feel that your appearance is congruent with the image the company seeks to project. Additionally, when youths grow older and they get ready to settle down, marry, and raise children, a tattoo suddenly makes some feel very uncomfortable in their new roles. Pool parties suddenly become embarrassing occasions, and volunteering in the child’s classroom may be done under the disapproving eye of a teacher. For some adults, tattoos may also remind them of times and episodes in their lives best forgotten because of the pain they may hold. For those who now regret the dermal artwork received in times of exuberant youth, there is hope!

With the help of a laser, tattoos may be successfully removed or significantly faded. This treatment is not speedy, however. Due to swelling of the skin, treatments must be spaced six to eight weeks apart, and quite often a number of treatments are required before success is achieved. Four to eight sessions under the laser are not unusual, depending on the color and type of ink that was used in the creation of the tattoo. Interestingly, extremely dark tattoos, those made with black or blue ink, fade the quickest. Red is another color that will fade very quickly. The colors green and yellow, however, take a long time to eradicate and may require additional treatments to truly get rid of. Of course, it is important to note that there is no guarantee of complete fading, and sometimes very close scrutiny of the previously tattooed area will reveal a very faint imprint of portions of the removed tattoo.

The other kind of cosmetic tattoo surgery that is available today is actually the application of permanent ink in a controlled manner that will allow women to have the look of a beautifully made up face when they first wake up in the morning, and without any expenditure of effort! Permanent makeup is now a common procedure that produces stunning looking results with just a few sessions at the doctor’s office. The application of this technology is truly plentiful: lips may be lined for higher definition or even full lip coloring may be applied; eyeliner on the top and bottom of the eye lids can be applied as well as eyelash enhancements; the eyebrows may be colored to have that perfectly defined look; some women even enjoy the application of permanent beauty marks!

Of course, just like with a regular tattoo, the drawback to this application is the fact that it is permanent. Be certain that you not only like the shades of colors you have chosen, but that they also enhance your appearance! A trained cosmetologist will be able to provide valuable guidance when it comes to color and shade selection. Additionally, remembering that this make up is permanent, consider the applications you are choosing. Pouting lips may look cute on a twenty year old girl, but on a forty year old woman they might look at little out of place. Similarly, a dashing green shade of eyeliner may be stunning for an evening on the town, but it may seem inappropriate for the day job as a bank teller. The other danger of this kind of cosmetic tattoo surgery is the fact that if you visit an inexperienced practitioner simply because the rates are so much less expensive, your permanent makeup may look somewhat less than natural. Additionally, inexperience can lead to mistakes which can have far-reaching consequences, especially when they occur around the eye area. Thus, you truly receive what you pay for!

Body Language…Know How to Read It?

I wrote an article on this topic not long ago, but after several comments and emails to me I decided to get a little more specific with the true details and traits of body language. So what it is you exactly? Body language is the meaning behind the words or the “unspoken” language. My grandmother used to say that you can tell what a person is thinking without them ever having to open their mouth. She was such a smart lady. Reading the language of ones body movements, and facial expressions tells the true story. 

Surprisingly, studies show that only up to an estimated 10 percent of our communication is only verbal. Honestly, that percentage doesn’t at all surprise me. The majority of the rest of communication is unspoken. This unspoken language isn’t rocket science. However, there are some generalizations or basic interpretations that can be applied to help with the understanding or translating of these unspoken meanings. Here are some basics below.

 Smile- People like warm smiles. Think of a heartfelt warm-fussy, maybe your favorite pet, and smile!

 Eyes –I say this is the MOST important sign in great communication. If you don’t look someone in the eyes while speaking, this can  be interpreted as dishonesty or hiding something. Big red flag! Likewise, shifting eye movement or rapid changing of focus/direction can translate similarly. If more than one person is present in a group, look each person in the eye as you speak, slowly turning to face the next person and acknowledge him or her with eye contact as well. Continue on so that each person has felt your warm, trusting glance. Some suggest beginning with one person and moving clockwise around the group so that no one is missed, and so that you are not darting around, seemingly glaring at people.

 Attention Span / Attitude – Other people can tell what type attitude you have by your attention span. If you quickly lose focus of the other person and what is being said, and if your attention span wanders, this shows through and makes you seem disinterested, bored, possibly even uncaring.

Attention Direction – If you sit or stand so that you are blocking another in the party, say someone is behind you, this can be interpreted as rude or thoughtless. So be sure to turn so that everyone is included in the conversation or angle of view, or turn gently, at ease and slowly, while talking, so that everyone is incorporated, recognized and involved in the conversation. Again some suggest the clockwise movement when working a group.

Arms Folded/ Legs Crossed – This can be seen as defensive or an end to the conversation. So have arms hang freely or hold a glass of water, a business card or note taking instruments while communicating with others. Be open with open arms. Note: If you need to cross legs, cross at your  ankles and not your knees. Sitting tightly folded up says                      that you are closed to communications. 

 Head Shaking- This is fairly accurate. If people are shaking their heads while you speak, they are in agreement. If  they are shaking, “no,” disagreement reigns in their minds.

Space/ Distance – On the whole, people like their own personal body space. Give people room and keep out of their  space. Entering to close can be intrusive and viewed as aggressive. 

 Leaning- Sitting or standing, leaning is viewed as interest. In other words, an interested listener leans toward the speaker. 

Note others’ body language – While you are with others, note how their bodies read. If a person suddenly folds his arms across his chest and begins shaking his head “no,” you’ve probably lost him. Might try taking a step back and picking  up where the conversation began this turn for the negative and regroup. It’s all about strategic planning, so ‘think’… before you ‘do!’ 

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